Hello To All My Dear Readers 🙂
Hope you all are keeping well. I have taken a while to come here, as I am going through some major changes in my life and needed to settle my mind before writing. We are changing everyday, but from time to time we do go through major changes from one phase to another. These can be work, relationships, children, money or anything at all, but usually they go together with one’s age 🙂
From children we become adults and with that, jobs, marriage and our children come in. I feel that this middle chapter takes almost half of our life span. Although there are many major changes within this period as children mature, its only when they finally leave home, comes the next major change. Parents feel their absence and a long line of things they did suddenly comes to an end and they are left with a big hole or a gap that needs to be filled, in their hearts as well as in their lives. This is called as the empty nest syndrome and is mostly felt by the mother as usually its the mother who is around them while father’s are more at work. But then it can be for the father too or for both the parents, depending on who is more closer to the children when they are growing up. At the same time usually the parents are also close to their age of retirement from their jobs which makes it even harder to digest !!!
For me I have now passed this middle chapter and was mostly concentrating on my work. And now that too seems to have come to an end which is another huge life change. I find that in life we cannot, master two completely different topics well, at the same time. Once I began to heal and started to get back into my normal life, my mind was full of ideas on healing. For me, being involved in teaching English, and Healing became two completely different things. I found my mind was constantly pulling on to what was going on my life at the time, which was all about health and healing. I had made a huge effort to come out of depression and naturally my mind was full of all that and my whole life took on to another path !!!
Although there was a detour, I still continued working as a part time English tutor, but I did not find enough satisfaction as its not all who value when someone is trying to teach them free. They do not understand how much of time, energy and sacrifice that is put in for volunteering. When engaged in the process of giving, “in any life situation not only in work, be it outsiders, friends or family one needs to feel appreciated in some form. As in life its, “Both giving and receiving. Its then only the real giving process is complete” ❤
I faced a situation where I felt rejected. Rejection is a very strong word, which has a very negative effect. It can come in many forms. It can be in the way of comparing with others, belittling you, putting you down, avoiding, in short its a total lack of caring and disrespect towards another. This makes the rejected person feel let down, unwanted, insulted and it gives a feeling that you have failed as a person or/and in what ever you have been entrusted with. It loses one’s confidence and a sense of worth and its not easy to overcome them just like that. It can take a toll on ones mind and you can become depressed and ultimately mentally ill. Actually these are exactly the situations that pushes normal people to become not normal and having to struggle to become normal again. Then there are very few to acknowledge or to give a hand to pull you up. I know this and exactly why I am writing and doing this blog ❤
Rejection is one of the worst things that can happen to someone who is depressed or even come out of depression. Yes I am out of it, but as we all know many illnesses, be it physical or mental can lift their heads up given the right conditions. They go into remission and are like seeds waiting for the rains to come out from their hiding places. Its not easy for people like us, as we can’t be running to the counsellor or the therapist all the time like little children to the mother 😛
But its when suddenly things hit you hard, and usually its not one there can be a few of the stones falling on your head at the same time, that we find it difficult to cope. Then what do we do ? I had been wanting this change from work, But I didn’t stop I was just going on. Very often in life, although we know its time we made that change, we don’t usually make major changes all by ourselves. This is the time when, God/The Universe/The Higher Powers decide to step in. We get a push. How ? Being hurt, disappointed or being rejected. And if we don’t take it we get a bigger push until it hits us hard and we are almost forced to take that decision. This is why it’s said that, we are given the same lesson over and over again if we don’t listen or make those changes we need in order to move on in life !!!
So when things get shaken up, if you take them up as challenges, you can really benefit from them. As you then, stop what ever you are doing and have a very good look at what’s going on with your life at that moment, and think is this what I want ? What is life telling me ? Stress and pain acknowledged with wisdom, helps you to find that exact venture, the path that you are really supposed to follow ❤
When things don’t really work for you and you keep on getting pushed, you feel, “This has gone on long enough, I do not want to cry or keep on going through this pain. I need to live better, “Then that will be the exact time of your turning point, of making that decision to make that change. As that will be heard by your mind and, “Unknown to you, the mind will be working towards it” It will be letting go of the unwanted and streamlining your life to serve you better. For this you need to prioritise. To clean your life from the clutter and to know exactly what you want from life 🙂
In my case I have been isolating myself completely. All phones off and no sound no nothing just eating, sleeping and relaxing in silence. Its then that your mind becomes clear and you find out/realise, “What you really want from life. What will make you happy. How you can achieve it” We cannot depend on others, as most of them don’t understand, or they are not there when we need them. That is exactly how it is too. Because it’s not other’s job to think or decide for us. Its our life and its we who know what we want. And if sometimes you find there is no one to ask, “This is because its you alone that has to find your own answers. As its only you that know who you are exactly and what You want from life. And then you need to be strong and brave enough to take that step and start all over again 🙂
I hope you liked what I have written and enjoyed reading. I also hope you have learnt something from what I have gone through, and is going through, “For your benefit to improve your way of living” Thank you for reading 🙂
Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to you ❤
Deepa Nilamani 🙂