Interpersonal Fitness!

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Hope All of You are keeping in Good Health as much as possible. “Keeping yourself Positive and Motivated as Best as possible. I have been writing about Various ways to be able to Lead a Good Life” This is from:

Roadmap to Resilience
Donald Meichenbaum, Ph.D.
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Donald Meichenbaum, Ph.D.
Appendix A
Resilience Checklist: My Personal Resilience Plan: Creating a Vision of the Future

“Good social relationships are associated with enhanced happiness, increased cognitive capacity, improved quality of life and greater resilience.”

“Resiliency is rooted in and rests fundamentally on relationships, both the perceived and actually received amount and quality of social supports.”

“Psychological health involves people needing to feel connected and having a sense of belongingness.”

“Individuals who feel lonely and socially isolated are prone to poorer health, compromised immune systems, Social interactions can produce changes in the experience and biology of loneliness.”

“When you need to have Hope and Faith, you can look for it in the face of a friend or loved one.” See the posts below ❤

“Avoid isolation: It is easier to find courage when you are not alone.”

Interpersonal fitness is the capacity to foster, engage in and sustain positive relationships and to endure and recover from life stressors with the assistance and support of others. Socially resilient individuals evidence the willingness to both ask for help and offer help when needed and build mutually caring relationships.

This section will provide practical suggestions on how to improve your relationships by:

a) fine-tuning your communication skills b) learning ways to handle interpersonal conflicts more effectively c) learning ways to nurture your relationship with a partner or spouse d) developing ways to reenter, reengage, reconnect, reintegrate and become more resilient.

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I am in Good Health and as, “I have been able to, “Receive Healing Energy into My Hands since “Beginning of 2016”” Maximum Healing Energy can go to others too, and wherever it is needed to be received with a Clear Mind and Lot of Loving Kindness ❤

Latest Update: 6th October 2022. This is “The 205th Post” and with the “Introductory Page this will be all in Total up to date, 206th posts. On Top Right-Hand side, you are able to see: The word “Menu” when you click on it, you will see the word “Home” All the posts from “The Very Beginning comes ~ Under “Home”. Which is The Introductory Page about: Who I am & Why I am Writing!

As always, it is all free”. You can share and pass it on also for others who can benefit from this post. I hope All those who Read will be able to make the maximum use of all these facts and make, “Your Lives More Healthy and able to Lead Better lives in Happiness and Peace”. I wish it to be so as,” Peace which is our Ultimate Goal in Life ❤

Thanking Dr Donald Meichenbaum for Book The Road Map to Resilience and for The Internet for The Picture Quotes ❤

Sending Love, Light and Healing Energies to All ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa Nilamani ❤

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Physical Fitness!


Hello To, All My Readers, Blogging Friends and Followers ❤

Hope All of You are keeping in Good Health as much as possible. “Keeping yourself Positive and Motivated as Best as possible. I have been writing about Various ways to be able to Lead a Good Life” This is from:

Roadmap to Resilience
Donald Meichenbaum, Ph.D.
Action 1

Lifestyle factors contribute to physical and mental health. Smoking, poor diet, physical inactivity, abuse of alcohol and drugs and sleep disturbance undermine resilience.

“I have the capacity to make the choices to take care of myself physically, as well as mentally, emotionally, interpersonally and spiritually.”

“The body keeps score of the impact of stress, but it has the capacity to restore and compensate itself. But it needs my help.”

“I can make my body an ally in my healing process.”

“I can enhance my brain health by keeping fit.” See the pictures above and below 🙂

Physical fitness refers to health-related behaviors and physical activities such as exercise that individuals engage in. In the same ways that physical fitness is a key to resilience in boot camp, it is critical during the period of post-deployment and in dealing with the aftermath of any traumatic event. Health habits in areas of nutrition, exercise, sleep, and safety behaviors enhance resilience.

See the Website www.myhealth.va.gov for additional information. Here are some specific steps you can take to becoming and remaining physically fit.

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I am in Good Health and as, “I have been able to, “Receive Healing Energy into My Hands since “Beginning of 2016”” Maximum Healing Energy can go to others too, and wherever it is needed to be received with a Clear Mind and Lot of Loving Kindness ❤

Latest Update: 5th October 2022. This is “The 204th Post” and with the “Introductory Page this will be all in Total up to date, 205 posts. On Top Right-Hand side, you are able to see: The word “Menu” when you click on it, you will see the word “Home” All the posts from “The Very Beginning comes ~ Under “Home”. Which is The Introductory Page about: Who I am & Why I am Writing!

As always, it is all free”. You can share and pass it on also for others who can benefit from this post. I hope All those who Read will be able to make the maximum use of all these facts and make, “Your Lives More Healthy and able to Lead Better lives in Happiness and Peace”. I wish it to be so as,” Peace which is our Ultimate Goal in Life ❤

Sending Love, Light and Healing Energies to All ❤

May God’s Blessn’s Be Upon You ❤

Deepa Nilamani ❤

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Psychology ~ Resilience!

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What Is Resilience? In psychology, resilience is considered a positive adaptation that takes place after a stressful event or an adverse situation. Many psychologists think of resilience as an attitude that can be developed, not a personality trait that people must be born with. Some psychologists also believe that resilience can be strengthened by good hormones which is released when someone is around a person they love. This feeling of connection can help in forming resilience. Resilience is often defined as the mental reservoir of strength that helps people handle stress and hardship.

1Resilient people are able to draw upon this strength to cope and recover from challenges. That’s true even when they face significant traumas, such as job loss, financial problems, serious illness, relationship challenges, Resilience also means understanding that life is full of challenges. While we cannot avoid many of these problems, we can remain open, flexible, and willing to adapt to change.

Strong Social Connections

Whenever you’re dealing with a problem, it is important to have people who can offer support. Talking about the challenges you are facing can be an excellent way to gain perspective, look for new solutions, or simply express your emotions. Resilient people have a network of friends, family members, co-workers, and online support groups to keep them socially connected.5

Characteristics of Resilient People

Resilient people are aware of situations, their own emotional reactions, and the behavior of those around them. By remaining aware, they can maintain control of a situation and think of new ways to tackle problems. In many cases, resilient people emerge stronger after such difficulties. While people vary dramatically in the coping skills they use when confronting a crisis, researchers have identified some key characteristics of resilience.2 Many of these skills can be developed and strengthened, which can improve your ability to deal with life’s setbacks.

Sense of Control

Do you perceive yourself as having control over your own life? Or do you blame outside sources for failures and problems? Generally, resilient people tend to have what psychologists call an internal locus of control.3 They believe that the actions they take will affect the outcome of an event. Of course, some factors are simply outside of our personal control, such as natural disasters. While we may be able to put some blame on external causes, it is important to feel as if we have the power to make choices that will affect our situation, our ability to cope, and our future.

Survivor Mentality

When dealing with any potential crisis, it is essential to view yourself as a survivor. Resilient people avoid thinking like a victim of circumstance and instead look for ways to resolve the problem. While the situation may be unavoidable, they stay focused on a positive outcome.

Emotional Regulation

Resilient people are able to regulate their emotions effectively. The ability to recognize that they are having an emotional response and to understand what is causing the response can help them better handle emotions and cope with the situation at hand.

Self-Compassion

Resilient people are also compassionate toward themselves. They tend to notice when they need to take a break and are able to accept their emotions, which is important for resilience. Self-compassion can help boost overall health and resilience and ensure that you’re ready to face life’s challenges.

How to Ask for Help

While being resourceful is an important part of resilience, it is also essential to know when to ask for help. During a crisis, everyone can benefit from the help of psychologists and counselors specially trained to deal with crisis situations. Other potential sources of assistance include:

  • Books: Reading about people who have experienced and overcome a similar problem can be motivating and suggest ideas on how to cope.
  • Online message boards: Online communities can provide continual support and a place to talk about issues with people who have been in a similar situation.
  • Psychotherapy: If you are having trouble coping with a crisis situation, consulting a qualified mental health professional can help you confront the problem, identify your strengths, and develop new coping skills.6

Support groups: Attending support group meetings is a great way to talk about the challenges you’re facing and to find a network of people who can provide compassion and support.

Resilience is important for mental health and well-being, and luckily, everyone can learn to be resilient. While some people may be naturally more resilient, it’s a skill that you can strengthen. Start by practicing some of the common characteristics of resilient people and focusing on your existing strengths. Don’t get discouraged; becoming more resilient may take time, but the investment will have big payoffs on your health and well-being.

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Once You have Read and understood, “There are 10 Questions to answer and Test Your Own Resilience” I will write the score later down here. And where you stand from Your score”!

1. I am calm in a crisis

2. I manage my stress levels well.

3. When something doesn’t go to plan, I learn from it and change my approach next time.

4. I don’t tend to worry about issues that I have no control over.

5. I don’t take criticism personally.

6. I feel confident nd secure in myself.

7. I would describe myself and optimist.

8. I have strong goals that I have a clear plan for achieving.

9. I concentrate on my strengths as opposed to focusing on my weaknesses.

10. I focus more on finding solutions to problems rather than being overwhelmed by them.

Your Total score= __ __

You give marks for yourself, 1 to 5.
In between 1 being not like me at all and 5 being very much like me. Add up your score and, see where you are “Out of 50 marks”!

What your score means from: 10 marks to 50 marks 🙂

1) 10-20:You have low level of Resilience and would benefit developing this area of your life. Perhaps you have a pessimistic view of life or you find problems as major set backs instead of challenging to overcome. Luckily Resilience can be honed (improved) so you can feel stronger during tough times.

2) 20-35:You have a good level of Resilience and although you may have bad days, you may veer (change direction) towards an optimistic view or keen to learn from mistakes. You are unlikely to give up in a hurry! Use the tips I will write to help develop your resilience even more and become “The Best Version of Yourself”

3) 35 and over: You have a strong levels of Resilience and love setbacks into opportunities. You are excellent at “Bouncing Back” and generally see the Positives in everyday or even bad days. Keep Developing this skill as it will “Help’ Your Confidence, Optimism and Reduce stress levels.

Even I have not got 50! More in the 2nd group 😛 No one is perfect. So I will have to see if I need to write a new post itself “How to Build up Resilience Although I have written extensively on “On how to get over stress and to Relax”!

This for The, Time being: By Dr Donald Meichenbaum, Ph.D. himself. Roadmap To Resilience ! Roadmap To Resilience~Appendix A! Roadmap To Resilience Appendix B! Resilience ~ Revised!

In fact I have done, Resilience ~ Revised! Myself See how You learn from what I have written. I will do reference and write more clearly the Topics that is possible to do generally.

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I hope you enjoyed “All what I have written about Resilience” The Journey and of All The pictures Quotes As usual I have taken a “Lot of Time and effort to “Do Reference, find Good and Different Pictures from “The I net, Books and Magazines for Useful Ideas and of course “My Knowledge and Experiences. Thanking You All For Reading. I am Moving on as usual with “My Own Journey of Wellness, Encouraging and Healing” So that Everyone can have “Faith, Hope and to Heal” To Lead a Better Life of Good Health, Happiness and Joy”. If you click on the Link You can Read This Post: The Therapists Voice Forward!

Latest Update: 9th August 2022. This is “The 198th Post” and with the “Introductory Page this will be all in Total up to date, 199th posts. On Top Right Hand side you are able to see: The word “Menu” when you click on it, You will see will see The word “Home” All the posts from “The Very Beginning comes ~ Under “Home”. Which is The Introductory Page about: Who I am & Why I am Writing!

I am in Good Health and as, “I have been able to, “Receive Healing Energy in to My Hands” since “Beginning of 2016” All my Hard work and Praying has been rewarded. Healing Energy can go to others too, and where ever it is needed to be received with a Clear Mind and Lot of Loving Kindness ❤

18th August 2022: Meanwhile I am being Congratulated by Word Press: 🎉 Congrats! I am My Path! is getting noticed. Wakeup Thankful and 338 others have started receiving updates. Making it 339 Web sites have started receiving updates 🙂

The Topics in Green, if you “Click” on them “Will take you to My other different posts which you will be able to find more information and even Pronunciation”. I have another website with “My own little Poems and Pictures of some of My Hobbies” if you are interested on seeing, “What else I am doing” during my spare time you can have a look at: https://deepanilamani.com/

As always, it is all free”. You can share and pass it on also for others who can benefit from this post. I hope All those who Read will be able to make the maximum use of all these facts and make, “Your Lives More Healthy and able to Lead Better lives in Happiness and Peace”. I wish it to be so as,” Peace which is our Ultimate Goal in Life ❤

Thanking, “The I net for the Websites I have taken the Information” the “Picture quotes I have shared” and to https://www.online-image-editor.com/ for the Quotes I have done Myself ❤

Sending Love, Light and Healing Energies to All ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa Nilamani ❤

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Psychology ~ Eating!

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I hope all those who are following and reading have made use of what I have been writing and moved on to the next levels in your life. Hope All of You are keeping in Good Health as much as possible. “Keeping yourself Positive and Motivated as Best as possible in these times” of Health issues. Last Post was about, “Psychology of Food”. This is an” Answer to a Lady who asked about Psychology of Eating by Hand or Spoon” Psychology ~ Food!

“somdattadeb: “I agree with your thought on relation of psychology and food. Do you have any thought on relation between way of eating and psychology. For example some food when eaten by hand and feeling the texture is more satisfactory than eating by spoon”

I am Grateful to her for the new Topic! So Today “I am writing about Psychology In Eating, “By Hand, Fork and Spoon, Chop sticks or any other way. Read and see and find out what and How You like to eat 😀

The Pros and Cons of Eating With Your Hands Its not in every culture but, “Parts of the world, eating with your hands is part of their culture”. Rice and Curry served on a Banana Leaf. I of course Love to eat like this as the food is much Tastier like this, But it is not possible to eat everything like this 🙂

Ayurveda considers hands to be our most precious organ of action, and gathering the fingertips as they touch the food stimulates the five elements (Ether or Space, Water, Air, Earth and Fire), making the person more conscious of the tastes, textures and smells of the foods they are eating, which makes the whole experience more pleasant. “According to Ayurvedic texts, each finger is an extension of one of the five elements. When you eat with your hands, you are supposed to do so by joining all fingers together. This is believed to improve our consciousness of the taste of the food we eat. Not only are you feeding your body, but also your mind and spirit.”

The practice of eating with the hands originated within Ayurvedic teachings. The Vedic people believed that our bodies are in sync with the elements of nature and our hands hold a certain power. Ayurvedic texts teach that each finger is an extension of one of the five elements:

  • Through the thumb comes space
  • Through the forefinger comes air
  • Through the mid-finger comes fire
  • Through the ring finger comes water
  • Through the pinky finger comes earth

When you eat with your hands, you are supposed to do so by joining all fingers together. This is believed to improve our consciousness of the taste of the food we eat. As I wrote before, “Not only are you feeding your body but also your mind and spirit”. When you touch your food with your hands, you’re creating a physical and spiritual connection with it. You’re also much more present in the moment. When food is touched with the hands, there’s automatically more careful attention placed on it – what the temperature is, how much you can carry, how the hand must be held in order to keep the food in it.

Eating with your hands requires you to be fully present. And a calm, aware state of mind allows optimum digestion and helps with not overeating. Also, while eating with fork and knife can become part of mechanical, perpetrated in front of the TV, when you eat with your fingers you feel more connected with your food. Not only does mindful eating improve the assimilation of nutrients from the food you eat, it also enhances digestion and make you leave the table with a calmer state of mind.

It engages all senses

The smell of your cooking fills your home. The feast looks appetizing. You hear how crunchy it is as you take that first bite. And of course it tastes delicious. But as far as feeling it, you’re limited to the textures you experience in your mouth. Eating with your hands adds a tactile dimension to your meal and engages all of your senses.

It helps providing our gut with healthy bacteria

As long as we wash them before eating, the skin of our hands is populated with healthy bacteria, known as normal flora, that can protect us from other harmful bacteria that come from the outside environment. Eating with your hands boost our gut’s natural immunity to environmental bacterial germs.

It prevents you from burning your palate and tongue

Our hands are very effective temperature sensors. When you eat with a fork, the food goes directly from the plate into your mouth, and you may not realize that’s too hot. When you touch our food with our hands instead, the nerve endings on your fingertips send a temperature reading to the stomach, effectively preventing you from scalding your tongue.

It forces you to do one thing at the time

The last benefit? With food all over your fingers, you are stuck doing one thing at a time, and when it’s time to eat you need to put down the phone and just relax and dine.

Benefits Our Chakras

As fingers place the food into the mouth, they tend to curve in a yogic mudra which stimulates the sensory organs that maintain the prana balance. According to Vedas, the fingertips are correlated to the third eye, heart, throat, solar plexus, sexual, root chakras. So, when we consume food with hands, the touch and action trigger the chakras and profits us tremendously.

It Is Natural

Eating with hands is a common practice in many cultures, especially Indian, because Indian cuisine is such that it feels like the most natural thing to do. Now imagine having dal and roti with fork and knife? Or trying to eat a non-vegetarian delicacy consisting of bones with a fork? It is quite impractical. Thus, hands are preferred over fine cutlery.

Increases Blood Circulation

Eating with hands is healthy as it can prove to be a wonderful muscle exercise that may in turn help in increasing blood circulation. The hand’s movements may assist in promoting better flow of blood, thus positively affecting the overall well-being of the body.

Discourages Overeating

Eating with hands may allow you to have your food slowly and deliberately which can help you feel full even with less food thus preventing binge eating and likely weight gain. It also encourages a sense of satiety or satisfaction which is lacking while using cutlery to have your food.

Drinking Soup!


There are many foods that cannot be eaten by Hands liquids like Soups, Desserts like Puddings Ice cream, and some foods that make a mess that cannot be held from the hands. Below is a boy eating Water Melon 🙂

I have taken the chance to “Introduce some of The Pictures of Old cooking utensils and Kitchen” A wood fire Place with pots and pans to cool on wood fires”!

Sppons made out of Coconut shells.

String Hoppers made from white or raw rice flour!

Oil Cakes called Konda Kavum in Sinhalese!

Hoppers or Appa in Sinhalese and Egg Hoppers!

Spicy Green Bean Curry!

The Recpie!

I hope you enjoyed “The Journey of All The pictures of Different foods. Thanking You All For Reading. I am Moving on as usual with “My Own Journey of Wellness, Encouraging and Healing” So that Everyone can have “Faith, Hope and to Heal” To Lead a Better Life of Good Health, Happiness and Joy”. If you click on the Link You can Read This Post: The Therapists Voice Forward!

I hope You Like what I have been writing so far. Very soon, by September 2022 I am coming on to 7 years of writing. I do Enjoy Writing as, “I found that writing Is My Calling 😀 All About Writing!

I am sure Other than Sri Lankans hardly anyone have seen any of these, as they are typically Sri Lankan things. As usual I have taken a “Lot of Time and effort to “Do Reference, find Good and Different Pictures from “The I net, Books and Magazines for Useful Ideas and of course “My Knowledge and Experiences ❤

Latest Update: 3rd August 2022. This is “The 197th Post” and with the “Introductory Page this will be all in Total up to date, 198th posts. On Top Right Hand side you are able to see: The word “Menu” when you click on it, You will see will see The word “Home” All the posts from “The Very Beginning comes ~ Under “Home”. Which is The Introductory Page about: Who I am & Why I am Writing!

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Meanwhile I am getting more websites coming in: Congrats! I am My Path! is getting noticed. 337 others have started receiving updates. Making it 338 websites following iammypath.com

I am in Good Health and as, “I have been able to, “Receive Healing Energy in to My Hands” since “Beginning of 2016” All my Hard work and Praying has been rewarded. Healing Energy can go to others too, and where ever it is needed to be received with a Clear Mind and Lot of Loving Kindness ❤

he Topics in Green, if you “Click” on them “Will take you to My other different posts which you will be able to find more information and even Pronunciation”. I have another website with “My own little Poems and Pictures of some of My Hobbies” if you are interested on seeing, “What else I am doing” during my spare time you can have a look at :https://deepanilamani.com/

Thanking, “The I net for the Websites I have taken the Information” the “Picture quotes I have shared” and to https://www.online-image-editor.com/ for the Quotes I have done Myself

Sending Love, Light and Healing Energies to All ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa Nilamani ❤

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