Hello To All My Dear Readers ❤
Hope you all are keeping well. I have taken a while to come here, as I am going through some major changes in my life and needed to settle my mind before writing. We are changing everyday, but from time to time we do go through major changes from one phase to another. These can be work, relationships, children, money or anything at all, but usually they go together with one’s age 🙂
From children we become adults and with that, jobs, marriage and our children come in. I feel that this middle chapter takes almost half of our life span. Although there are many major changes within this period as children mature, its only when they finally leave home, comes the next major change!
Many parents feel their absence and a long line of things they did, suddenly comes to an end and they are left with a big space, that needs to be filled, “This is called as the, “empty nest syndrome” and is mostly felt by the mother as usually its the mother who is around them while father’s are more at work. But then it can, “be for the father too or for both the parents, depending on who is more closer to the children when they are growing up”. At the same time usually the parents are also close to their age of retirement from their jobs, where they are much less physically able to do all that activities running around with growing up children, and are left with more free time. Although it is described “Empty nest syndrome” in a negative way, actually we all grow up as adults and adult children need to be independent, and need to move on. Its the norm of life. It is not usually not going away for good” If this is looked upon in a Positive way, “This leaves the parents also free time to Begin a New chapter in their lives ❤
“With less physical work being older, to do some of the things they could not do for themselves, like religious activities, volunteering, new hobbies, even start studying, or if it has been hard physically take some rest, relax and do the things they have always wanted to do. Actually what is said is, “Give them Wings to Fly and Roots to come back”. Meaning give them Freedom to go out into the world, but always know a Loving Home and parents are there for anytime they need”!
For me I have now passed this middle chapter and “Trained in TAFE and started volunteering as a Tutor in English, which I came across so many students in different countries, their culture and ways of life. After some times I moved on to studying on line to upgrade myself, which led to another huge life change. As I completely overcame and became well in my mind, “My mind turned to Health and Healing” automatically “My mind turned on to another Path” I found that in life we cannot, “Master two completely different topics well at the same time” Once I began to “Study my mind was full of ideas on Healing. For me, “Being involved in Teaching English and “Healing became two completely different things”. I found my mind was constantly pulling on to what was going on my life at the time, which was all about “Health and Healing”. I had made a huge effort to come out of depression and naturally my mind was full of, “Being Well and Positive and to give out all those Ideas, Experiences and Knowledge was Very Important” So my life took on to another path. And that is how, “I am My Path came to Be 😀 How Far I am My Path has Come!
Although there was a detour, I still continued working as a part time English tutor, but I did not find enough satisfaction following that line of work. That was taking too much of time and I felt I could do better by giving out my knowledge, “How I became positive and well” was “More Important”. As far back in life, I had wanted to do “Service” to Give and Share what ever I could, this was pulling my mind all the time as I am an “Inborn Giver” and take great satisfaction in Sharing and Giving ❤
I had been wanting this change from work, But I didn’t stop I was just going on. Very often in life, although we know its time we made that change, we don’t usually make major changes all by ourselves. This is the time when, God/The Universe/The Higher Powers decide to step in. We get a push. How ? Sometimes we need some push, to make the changes or else we try to stay in our comfort zone. This is why it’s said that, sometimes people are given the same lesson over and over again if they don’t listen or make those changes that are necessary in order to move on in life!
So when things get shaken up, if you take them up as challenges Life’s Challenges! you can really benefit from them. As then, you stop what ever you are doing and have a very good look at what’s going on with your life at that moment, and think is this what I want ? What is life telling me ? If stress is acknowledged with wisdom, it helps you to find that exact venture, the path that you are really supposed to follow ❤
When things don’t really work for you and things doesn’t change, you feel, “This has gone on long enough, I do not want to keep on going through the same thing over and over again, I need to live better, “Then that will be the exact time of your turning point, of making that decision to make that change. As that will be heard by your mind and, “Unknown to you, the mind will be working towards it” It will be letting go of the unwanted and streamlining your life to serve you better. For this you need to prioritize. To clean your life from the clutter and to know exactly what you want from life 🙂
In my case I have been doing this myself completely. All phones off and staying quietly, eating, sleeping and relaxing in silence. Its then that your mind becomes clear and you find out/realize, “What you really want from life” 🙂 What will make you happy 🙂
What will make you happy? How you can achieve it ? We cannot always depend on others, as others cannot understand as its our own Path, or they are not there when we need them. That is exactly how it is too. Because it’s not other’s job to think or decide for us. Its our life and its we who know what we want. And if sometimes you find there is no one to ask, “This is because its you alone that has to find your own answers. As its only you that know who you are exactly and what “You want from Your Own life”. So You need to, “Be strong and brave enough to take that step and start all over again” 🙂
14th April 2019 Update: I keeping in Very Good Health and also The Good News is “I have also been able to, “Develop Healing Energy in to My Hands” since “Beginning of 2016” ~ which I have also added as an update in: Who I am & Why I am Writing!
28th August 2019: This is who I am now. Taken the Therapists Voices with me and have been Moving forward Telling My Own Story in Helping Others to have “Faith, Hope and to Heal” and Lead a Life of Good Health, Happiness and Joy: Who I am Now & Why I am Writing!
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I hope you liked what I have written and enjoyed reading. I also hope you have learnt something from what I have gone through, and is going through, “For your benefit to improve your way of living” ❤
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Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to you ❤
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May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤
Deepa Nilamani 🙂