Freedom To Be You!

Hello To All My Dear Readers ❤

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Today I am writing about, “A Very Important Topic ~ It is about Freedom” It is based on how people try to Manipulate some of us. “The secret of freedom is courage. This verse about Behaviour, is one which I greatly believe from ~ Erich Seligmann Fromm!

Erich Fromm 2Erich Seligmann Fromm (March 23, 1900 – March 18, 1980) was a German-born American social psychologist,   psychoanalystsociologisthumanistic philosopher. Fromm believed that freedom was an aspect of human nature that we either embrace or escape. He observed that embracing our freedom of will was healthy, whereas escaping freedom through the use of escape mechanisms was the root of psychological conflicts. Fromm outlined three of the most common escape mechanisms: automaton conformity, authoritarianism, and destructiveness. Automaton conformity is changing one’s ideal self to conform to a perception of society’s preferred type of personality, losing one’s true self in the process. Automaton conformity displaces the burden of choice from self to society. Authoritarianism is giving control of oneself to another. By submitting one’s freedom to someone else, this act removes the freedom of choice almost entirely. Lastly, destructiveness is any process which attempts to eliminate others or the world as a whole, all to escape freedom ~ Courtesy of https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erich_Fromm!

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Behaviour – “If other people do not understand our behaviour what can we do. We behave according to our personalities”.
Their request that, “We must only do what they understand, is an attempt to, ‘Dictate’ as mostly they ‘Resent’ our ‘Freedom’ and our ‘Courage’ to be ourselves.
We owe nobody an explanation or an accounting, as long as, ‘Our acts Do Not Hurt or Infringe them’.
How many lives have been ‘Ruined’ by this need to explain, which usually implies that the explanation be, ‘Understood’ i.e. Approved.
“Let Your Deeds be Judged”. And, ‘From Your Deeds ~ Your real Intentions’
But know that, “A Free Person Owes an Explanation Only to Himself/Herself” And to,’The Few’ “Who may have Justified Claim for Explanation” ~Erich Fromm.

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As human beings, “Freedom is Very Important. In fact it is to, “All Living beings” including the animal kingdom” We are all born with, “A Unique Personality to each other and we all have that need to Behave, to Act and overall Live according to how our personality is”. As I wrote before, “We have the Right to Live freely” how we want, as long as we do not do the wrong things that is harmful to ourselves or to others!

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When we are restricted or prevented is, “The time we feel,”Stressed” That Thing called Stress !!!and if it is how we have to live, Long term it’s through because of this Stress we become unwell/sick”. As human beings, “We are lucky that we can learn from others, read and so much of resources to learn ~ How best we can go about to Live according to our personalities/ our ways of doing thing in life ~ how we like to do things” This is by educating ourselves ❤

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So we can Learn so many things ourselves as, “We are the only people who know exactly what and how we want to act and do things, to be relaxed, comfortable and at ease, as “The term Dis-ease simply means lack of ease or harmony within the body” ~ The I net! So to be in Harmony within the body, “Just be You” ❤

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I hope you like what I wrote and learnt something new, or remembered things you already knew. I know it is sometimes not easy, but have Courage and try as much as do things for you to be relaxed and Happy ❤

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Thank You for reading. I hope you will give out your own views too? You may share/or pass it on for others benefit so that they also can learn from what I have written. Those who like poetry may check on my personal website:https://deepanilamani.com/ ❤

Thanking https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wikipedia, The I net for the posts I have taken ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to You ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa 1Deepa Nilamani 🙂

 

Healing ~ Basic Steps!

Hello To All My Dear Readers ❤

Heal 10I have written this article at the very beginning in, October 2015 and I see not many have read. Also there are requests to write the basic steps in detail. So I am writing it again with, “New experiences and knowledge I have gained over a a period of over 3 years” as today is: 14th February 2019 🙂

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This is a short article explaining about Trauma. When you experience deep sadness or grief, it is referred as Trauma. (a deeply distressing or disturbing experience) It can be physical too, then its to do with the body. (Psychological trauma is a type of damage to the mind that occurs as a result of a severely distressing event. Trauma is often the result of an overwhelming amount of stress that exceeds one’s ability to cope, or integrate the emotions involved with that experience. A traumatic event involves one’s experience, or repeating events of being overwhelmed that can be precipitated in weeks, years, or even decades as the person struggles to cope with the immediate circumstances, eventually leading to serious, long-term negative consequences ~ Courtesy Wikipedia!

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Why people get hurt or sad is, when they are criticized, put down, controlled or blamed continuously, and when they feel they don’t deserve it and it’s wrong and unfair. If they are guilty of any wrong doings, then deep in their hearts they know they have done it and they do deserve some of it. But when they feel they don’t deserve it, the insults, the harsh Words Words and Words ! affects one’s hearts and makes wounds that will be difficult and take a long time to heal!

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These are what stays on collecting inside you, weighing you down, making you feel miserable and low. So when too many things happen all at once, and then the last thing can be like what is said, ” The last straw that breaks the Camel’s back” that will finally push you over, which will lead to break downs. Break downs doesn’t happen if there is support, love and care around. But the thing is sometimes how ever much you have people around you, they may not know, nor will some really understand as to what you are going through. As usually it is difficult for so many to understand unless, “They have experienced themselves so sometimes sadly  it can be that, “The very ones who should be “Caring and supporting you, will be the ones who will (That Thing called Stress !!!) stress and be unhelpful for you to heal”!

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Its difficult to tell what to do in this situations as for each person the circumstances are different, as well as for each person the strength of the mind also is different. So anytime you do feel overly stressed and unable to handle them alone, and/or, if your low moods do not go away, please do go and see a doctor and get help. In some countries You are able to go to psychiatrist itself. In some countries, “You have to first go to a GP. Usually the method is to go to a GP “(general practitioner) ~ In the medical profession, a general practitioner (GP) is a medical doctor who treats acute and chronic illnesses and provides preventive care and health education to patients” ~ Courtesy of the I net!

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As that will avoid a long and unnecessary suffering to you and, to so many people, who depend on you too sometimes in your family. Above all your life is valuable and your health is a very important part of it. And you alone have to know where to draw the line and safe guard and take care of yourself. Its your life and you are the caretaker of Yourself no one else 🙂

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Whether it is mild or severe, pain is pain in different amounts. And when it comes to Healing from ~ Depression !, we have to let our feelings of stress out, meaning speak out and discuss with the counselors, doctors and therapists or who ever you are dealing with. Also you need to discuss with your closest, and that is your family members, as they are the people whom you come across almost daily, and the most important people that need to know what is going on with you, as otherwise they will not know how to support you ❤ ~ Healing ~ Trauma !

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I know sometimes how hard it is when you cannot get over the low mood. It seems to go on, but know that, “You can control enough and get over with, “Counselling and Psychotherapy ! and Medication”. I am writing like this is because “I have overcome Depression and Mood Disorder” over time with all this, and working on myself, with “Dedication over time with Patience”. It may seem a hard and difficult task when you feel down, but TRUST me if I have become better, so “Can You” But You need to “Be Strong and Kind and Patient with Yourself” You may or may not have help from your family and friends to support you, but understand again, “That those who have not gone through, are unable to fully understand how and what You feel, and You might feel not supported, “But you can try and explain yourself or even much better, “To get your doctor or your counsellor to explain to them. In the mean time have “Faith and Patience in Yourself ❤

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At the times You feel well enough, try and read self help books, or go through the Online Psychological Therapy ! I net to find answers and advice too from good sites. At times try to relax and even take a nap, if you don’t feel like doing anything, it may be you need to rest so give in and try to sleep. You will relax and feel better. I know there will be those who advice You with all good intentions, like doing a (Things We Love to Do!) Hobby. But When we cannot even think straight or eat properly, “How can one do a Hobby? You can if you already have one and/or feel up to it. “The important thing is to find something that you will, “Really Like to Do” ❤

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It can be drawing, painting, even housework or cooking your favourite dish, or anything that will distract you and make you, “Look forward in Doing”. Or it can be simple as, (We Each have Our Own Path!)” Just sitting and looking out of the window at the sky to see how the clouds go by and the birds fly or how the moon comes up and the stars”. Know and follow what works best for You ❤

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I have now realized that with medical help of counselling and medication, and on our part if we work hard on becoming well with, “Dedication, Persistence and Perseverance”, We can make progress in getting over most of the effects of trauma and, “Ultimately learn to put back the past and lead a Successful Success in Life! and Happy Life. Why don’t you try it too ❤ I wish you so and have Strength and Patience to do so ❤

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Thank You for reading. I hope you will give out your own views? You may share/or pass it on for others benefit too. Those who like poetry may check on my personal website:https://deepanilamani.com/ ❤

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Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to You ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa 1Deepa Nilamani 🙂

We Each have Our Own Path!

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Today I am writing about what each of us are born to do, or why each of us are born for. We all know that we are all born for some specific purpose. As each one of us are different from each other, and have a unique personality of our own, our purpose is completely different to each other too. There maybe similarities, but never exactly the same. For example see how many of us write blogs here, we writers are all sorts. Each of us have our own style of writing and our own topics. Same with other things too. So how do we find or know what our purpose is? Some are born with a gift a talent. But others?

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Everyone has something that they really like to do, that excites them even thinking about it. Those who love to read cannot put down a book until they have finished. Those who love to write keep on writing, and they get lost in what they do and even loose track of time. Scientists, inventors, artists and other various people work into the wee hours into the morning, or even through out the night days on end, tirelessly as they enjoy what they are doing. So all of us have what is called the passion, which leads us on our own path into our destiny 🙂

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So when we follow our passion, how do we know it is the right or the wrong path. As I wrote before, passion is what keeps us moving ahead no matter what. There will be obstacles, there may be others who will not understand or/and even criticize what you are doing. But they wont understand what you like to do as it is what only you like to do. No two people do the same thing the same way!

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When we are going ahead in the journey of our life, we will meet other travelers along the way. As in life we all are moving ahead doing what we like along our own paths. From time to time people will cross our paths, from some we will learn lessons while others will learn from us. Some will walk for a long way with us while others will part sooner. However it is, we end up walking alone in our path, as it is our path and ours alone 🙂

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We all start walking along our path following our passion towards achieving our goals. As we go along there will be many changes along the way, as that is how life is. There will be detours, even additions to what we already want to do, and sometimes it might end up in a way, a place that we never ever dreamt of. This is the beauty of life, as life is a fascinating mystery. But to achieve all that, “We need to be brave and strong” to face all weathers along the way, as all good things require hard work, dedication and sacrifice. Although we never thought of ending up in a castle, it might be that, ultimately we have been directed to a magical place we never had thought of. Believe me it does happen 🙂

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So in life, we need to put in hard work. Experience good things as well as bad things. Pain and suffering too, as it is through pain that we let go of the unwanted, to make room for the new things and people in the next level. The challenges we face make us strong and resilient to do more and better things, for ourselves and others in the world. As in the end it is not just for us, we need to make the world a better place as, “We are all one big family in The Universe” Why? Because we are all energy and part of The Universe!

Thank you for reading. Hope you learnt something and enjoyed reading this. Please share and pass on to others for their benefit too ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me ❤

Thanking the I net for the pictures ❤

May God’s Blessing Be Upon You ❤

Deepa 1Deepa Nilamani 🙂

Third Eye in Healing!

Hello To All My Dear Readers ❤

An update of my progress over the year 2017 up to now, today being the first day of 2018. Last year was quite a roller coaster ride. As I believe I faced the biggest challenges in my life, which came almost one after another. All of which I have faced bravely and overcome. This is because I intensified my meditation and praying, resulting myself going through a massive energy change, which in turn has set in many physical changes in my favor. Prayers are good energy/vibrations and sound helps heals illnesses by balancing our chakra system!

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Sound not only changes you physically but it changes your mental status too. As when the energy changes within, the whole body and mind is affected, here in a good and healthy way. Actually I have studied and was aware of the chakra’s, but not had experiences of the chakra’s balancing, and once they do, I found the seventh chakra which is the third eye becomes active. So actually the challenges here, “Came as blessings  in disguise – as if they didn’t come in so hard and strong – I would not have prayed so very hard and strong to counter act”!

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It has really made my outlook much broader. I sense and understand life much more than I did before, and still moving on with it. Above all I have become much more settled and at peace. My purpose was  to help others heal through my experiences, and now I have been given even better tool for it. I have let gone most of the material things and people in order to attain it. In a way it is through, “Pain and heartache” But it a big achievement as it is not an easy thing to achieve and a, “Gift for Healing” It is not magic it is not a physical eye it is:

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In life as human beings we can achieve so much. We do not have to be highly qualified itself to be able to do something. I have come this far trying to help others through my experiences, and look what I have got in turn. Anything done with a good heart never goes waste. There are so many things that money cannot buy which you can never put a value. You who is reading, know that there is always a solution for any issue, and when you really try hard you can over come and end up even stronger than you were before 🙂

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There is so much of free information on the I net other than books to refer to. Prayers and meditation takes you a long way in healing, but you need to go in a moderate way. You must not and cannot hurry. It takes not days but months and months of practice, with dedication, sacrifice and persistence. Also to be achieved mainly for pure service. Hope you enjoyed what I have written and learnt something new. Please share and pass it on to those who can make use of it to, take their lives in to the next level of healing and knowledge. Thank you for reading ❤

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Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me ❤

Thanking for the picture quotes taken from the I net ❤

May God’s Blessing’s Be Upon You ❤

Deepa 1Deepa Nilamani 🙂

A Message of Love!

Hello To All My Dear Readers ❤

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Today being the day that,”Lord Jesus Christ was born” I bring you the message of love from him. People take the word “Love” in many ways, but the real love is, “Loving kindness”, which is,”Mettha” in Buddhism. That is to feel for another as yourself. This is the message of Lord Jesus Christ as well as the “Foundation of all religions” ❤

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People in general separate themselves according to each religion, the reasons that there is so much of unrest in the world. Where as every religion teaches the same principles, in different ways and by different religious figures. As people are born unique to each other and hence different personalities so, their understanding is of different levels. This also differs according to certain countries according to the weather and their life styles. So we as people are shown in many different ways how to walk on the correct path, to lead a good life and in the end come to that place of peace that all mankind aim for!

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When there is so much being taught by parents, in schools, books, magazines, and now even on the I net, sadly there are some who do not understand the, “Real essence of religion” Some feel that, the teachers have passed away! Yes they have but, “They have left their teachings for mankind to follow ~ They are all, “Divine Teachers” who has been born to teach us about, “The Laws of The Universe” The teachers may have gone but, “The Universe is still here! It is always here. In fact, “WE ARE PART OF THE UNIVERSE”!

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I have always been keen on religion and keeping myself updated regularly. Whenever I need guidance I look up to my notes, as here I am unable to go to the wise and known people for guidance and advice. As human beings at any age we all need guidance from time to time, as suddenly life can change dramatically. That is why we have a religion as its not even the next day but, we don’t know what the next moment bring. “Change is the only constant in life”!

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What all religions teach us are messages of Loving Kindness, peace and tranquility. These are the fundamental truths according to, “The Laws of The Universe” We all come from one place and we belong to one family. Although most of the people do not realize, if they do some harm to others, they are harming themselves too, although it is not seen immediately. This is the,”Law of cause and effect” One need not go out of the way and take revenge or punish anyone physically, but what is done, automatically comes upon them. No one does it. It happens. Good or bad. This is what the religion teaches us ❤

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So on this day of the,”Birth of Lord Jesus Christ – the message he has brought is Love and Peace” His teachings are all to Love each other. “Love thy neighbour as thyself meaning feel for others just how much you feel for yourself. ” I wish you all A Very Happy Christmas ❤

I hope you enjoyed the article and learnt something new or remembered something you already knew. Please do share and/or pass it on for others who will benefit from what I have written. Thank you for reading ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me ❤

Thanking for the posts from the I net ❤

May God’ Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa 1Deepa Nilamani 🙂

Lessons from A Lion!

Hello To My Dear Readers 🙂

A year is ending and. “All endings are another Beginning” As we go on in life everyday, each minute we are learning until the last day of our life. I learn from everyone, young or old, even animals and mother nature. We all need to keep on learning, as human beings we can take the wrong turn and need guidance from time to time and this is why, we all have two parents foremost, if not one then the other, teachers and religion. Because it is not like doing little mistakes when we are growing up, when we are older and mature we are aware what is wrong and right and knowingly harming others can lead to disaster. As human beings we have so many ways of educating ourselves on our own too and, as adults if we keep on doing the same mistakes, it leads one’s life into lot of trouble. This is not anyone’s doing but,  “It is according to The Laws of The Universe – what goes around comes around” It is not one but, ” We all come under this same law – no exception”!

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We can learn from many, but for all of us there is that one person, a role model, who really understand you and able look up to when in trouble for guidance. This can be a religious figure, a teacher, a friend or even sometimes we are guided from above, by a higher or a divine power that cannot be seen, but felt. Why? “Because we are all energy, one family, part of this universe. We all come from the same place and go back to the same place. Dust to dust Ashes to ashes”!

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So this is in, “Gratitude to that person who was my role model when he was alive, and now no more but still guiding me from above. The Lion, ” My Grandfather ~ Who will Not let me fall” I am most Grateful for your Guidance, Protection, Blessings and “The Gift” ❤

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Who also named me – “Light”. Ignorance means being in the dark, and depression is also called darkness. And it somehow happens, after years of his passing away, I happen to work towards helping/enlightening others, to come into the Light!

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There is so much suffering in this world right now. Illnesses, war and famine. This is all because of people thinking of being separate. Religion, colour and race are big problems. So many who have, do not want to give, share or donate to the needy. So much is being wasted when millions are suffering without basic food, water and health facilities. Love and Kindness is what is needed. If everyone can think what hurts oneself hurts the other person too will they do it? I wonder. This is why most of those who have gone through suffering emerge strong souls and work towards the welfare of others 🙂

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Money play a very big part in the world today to the extent the human qualities are being forgotten. Yes money is needed to pay bills no one gives us anything free, but there is so much money cannot do. What matters is who you are and your heart!

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His advice, is “To be simple and work in silence. So have I. It is not advertising, or doing all this for money. It is being a good person and working in silence to the good of humanity ❤

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It has been a, “Very Long and Hard Journey” and I believe I have come to some sort of end. No one needs to tell you physically, when you go on the spiritual path, one is able to receive and know the signs and the messages. As again it is to do with Darkness and Light. It is said, “It is darkest before dawn” You know what an end is, But then ” Life begins again” For now I am at Peace 🙂

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So then I hope all of you liked the pictures and the lessons I have learnt from my spirit of the Lion. Ending my article, my mind never sleeps because:

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There are powers that the normal human eye or the mind cannot see. Developing wisdom, sixth sense or the third eye, through prayers or meditation will help to see beyond what the normal human senses are not capable of. Persistence and lot of hard work, but it is possible. There are many who has developed themselves spiritually, that go about in life quietly working towards the welfare of others, as advancement of the mind is not for publicity, but for pure service!

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Thank you for reading. Hopefully some of you make use of what I have written. What you see above is possible!

Thanking for the picture Quotes I have shared from the I net ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa 1Deepa Nilamani 🙂

Words Words and Words !

Hello To All My Dear Readers ❤

Hope all of you are well and moving on with life happily. Although I don’t write often there are 2 years of articles that I have written before. To those of you are new, I am a survivor of long term (15 years) depression and now on the path of studying. I have studied personal development and natural health and healing plus trained as an ESL tutor and have worked as an ESL tutor in TAFE Australia. At the present I am studying for a Diploma in psychology to expand my knowledge and also to share what ever I learn and discover for others benefit 🙂

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Today I want to write about the power of the spoken words, as so many do not realize how powerful words can be. The one who speak positive words or even sing  with loving kindness and compassion cleanses him or herself as well as those who listen, and around them as well as even the surroundings. These positive energy/vibrations can be also any from of prayers or chanting, which heals, bring joy and happiness to the soul ❤

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Harsh and negative words on the other hand, obviously has the opposite effect. People do not realize that what ever the words spoken, harsh or kind first becomes absorbed to the person itself who speaks. So many think when they lash out they hurt the other person, but little do they realize that the words have a bigger impact on the speaker itself before they get to the other person. Those who are kind and compassionate find peace where as those who are unkind and harsh are often stressed and troubled. Which do you choose?

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Yes words have a very big impact on all living beings. Even animals as we know how pets and animals react or respond to love and kindness. “Learn to use soft, kind and loving words. They heal and soothes you internally like rocking a baby to sleep” Unkind and harsh works harms you too internally and become toxic and makes the body sick !!!

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Keep in mind
“WHAT EVER THE WORDS YOU USE ON OTHERS, *FIRST ABSORBS IN TO YOU* BEFORE                                                      THEY GET TO ANOTHER”

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Actually the words that we say are the thoughts that are working in our minds almost always. Sometimes we ourselves become surprised what comes out of our mouths, we don’t realize those words were the results of how the mind was working.  It is said that we are what our thoughts are. And so it is. Others can gauge/determine what type of a person we are from what topics we talk about, and our use of the words !!!

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Actually, “Words are a result of our thoughts. When we have Good Thoughts our words become soft and kind, negative or unkind thinking gives way to harsh and cruel deeds. This is a beautiful video that is about, “How thoughts work from Deeds and then to our Destiny” So know how our thinking works for us in  Good way or a Bad way!

 

Hope you enjoyed reading the article and the video, and it helps you in some way. Please share and pass it on to those who can benefit from this. Thanks for reading ❤

Thanking for the picture quotes and the video, I have taken from the I net ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to All ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa 1Deepa Nilamani 🙂