Forgiveness in Healing !

Hello To All My Dear Readers 🙂

Hope all of you are enjoy reading what I write, and learning something from them too. This is an important topic that I overlooked in writing regarding healing, because when we need to heal we need to let go of all the past hurts and pains as holding on to those negative feelings blocks new and Positive feelings coming into our minds !!!

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In life we all get hurt in many situations. This can be from those whom we love and care or even complete strangers. Whoever it may be, as ordinary human beings if we become subject to unkindness, cruelty or injustice we do get angry, hurt or upset. In these times some will get highly angry, offended or annoyed in return, and there can be strong arguments and clashes, and they will completely keep away or cut them out of their lives. Some will get hurt but will not respond, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t affect them. So basically there two ways people react to other people’s hurtful words or deeds. Just the same there are two ways to respond to these situations too 🙂

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Sometimes people intentionally do things to spoil our lives, that we are do not detect at that time. They think that we are not aware of the damage they are doing or have done. These are not relevant only to those with mental issues but for everyone. These are the deep wounds some people cause on others. And they can be the very acts, that if they happens continuously for another person to become mentally ill. Ultimately, “The truth surfaces like oil in the water” and those who do mischief get exposed, and they are unable to face the society the world, but the damage has been done. I know for so many these are things they have faced in life and forgiveness is a major issue. Which do you choose ? Do we want to be sad or happy ? Which gives us more peace of mind ? As our ultimate goal in life is to be at peace with ourselves. The day we close our eyes finally we need to be at peace, for our soul to rest in peace. Or else the soul will be restlessly wondering for a very long time !!!

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“We can hold on to our anger, resentment and thoughts of revenge ~ Or we can embrace forgiveness let go and move on with our lives” We all have a Choice 🙂

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What I have realised is, “To truly Forgive one has to be really mature and wise” Because it is through the eyes of wisdom you see who people are, “That we are all one” Those who harm and hurt others, “Do not have this wisdom” They are not aware that we are all part of The Universe. That when we hurt one person there is a ripple effect just like when we do something good”. Also, “What goes around comes around” Be it according to Buddhism, Christianity or any other religion it is said that by harming others you harm yourself. If someone really understands this will they do it? I don’t think so. They are in the dark. They are ignorant. This is the time it is said, “Ignorance is evil” So only the “Wise and the mature people understand this” !!!

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It is the weak people who holds grudges. As sometimes just like those who do cruel acts purposely, there are times people do things unaware they have given others pain. In life there can be so many complicated situations that sometimes things happen so quickly even before you know and some have got offended or angry without knowing the real reasons. This is why human beings have a brain, a mind to think, to fathom and analyse before jumping into conclusions. People are so hasty and act without thinking that other people also are like them, that they also have feelings. If human beings develop, “Empathy” Forgiveness would not be such a big problem as people will not resort to harm and hurt others. !!!

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As so many others, I too have gone through a difficult journey. Maybe for some it would have been less or more, but as human beings we do all go through the, “Journey of Life the same way” No one can deny as, “For Everyone Tests and Tribulations are given ~ to overcome and become Stronger and move on to the next level” or else we all will be stagnating in the same place. Its a wonder as in few minutes it would be 13th October in Australia and I would have completed 8 years since migrating. Through time I believe I have become much more wiser. As when you observe life with wisdom, “All what happened or happens to you are tests, and all those who have crossed or cross your path are teachers or messengers” in that case no one is at fault and we need to forgive All. As without them we would not be where we are now. “Most certainly not me, every time I fell I got up. With each challenge I have become stronger” I have overcome depression and come a very long way. I have completely turned around and now looking forwards in starting again the next chapter. Ending this topic, I was thinking about this one day when I woke up, and these words came into my mind:

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Which is very true. I have learnt a lot through my experiences and when we live with Loving Kindness our hearts become pure and we become peaceful. There is a long way to go, as every ending is another beginning, and I look forward to my next chapter 🙂

Thanking for the quotes from the I net ❤

Thank you all for reading. Comments are welcome ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and healing Energies from me to You ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

9 thoughts on “Forgiveness in Healing !

    1. I am so happy it helped you and what you needed to read right now. Thank you for appreciating the article and acknowledging it here. Most grateful. I send you many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to put your mind at peace 🙂 ❤

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  1. Real problem with forgiveness for me. Daughter just abandons 3 kids, dumps them on friend to go rock and roll full time on drugs. All 3 different fathers never present in their lives and costing me 40% of my income for 2 years now to help support that family. The lady has 3 kids of her own. May my daughter be damned forever.

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    1. O dear that is a tough situation. What can I say ? I have gone through immense injustice and unkindness it is not easy to forgive. Even now knowing that I am a survivor I face unkindness. This is why I wrote this also regarding some things that happened to me. Each person has different problems, in my case I have turn to prayer when there is no other solution. It is said when all else fails people turn to religion I wonder if that works for all. I sincerely hope the time will soon come for some favorable solution !

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  2. It saddens and angers and disappoints me to feel this way and the words of Jesus are not encouraging me. I am disappointed in myself for not being able to absorb His goodness on this matter. I also am disappointed in myself as I understand that addiction carries people to horrible places and myself being clean and sober over 15 years I should have more compassion. But as she has lied and stolen so much from me apparently having no regard for me this betrayal deepens . The children are victims , the foster family is overburdened, I feel victimized as well. But perhaps my daughter is the victim too of drugs and addiction. But she has refused to be in recovery programs and flushed away such opportunities. I suppose it is not a matter of attributing blame but a matter of surviving as you suggest.

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  3. I have gone through lot of dishonesty and lies. I thank God that it is Not from my two children – I have sacrificed extremely on this matter. Sadly with the best of care sometimes children do go astray – and we cannot change them. I believe they get to a point of desperation in regard to drugs. But still I am a person who does not give up. Through my very long years, now I have come to accept that all these are tests in life, you talk of Lord Jesus Christ. Yes in that case I believe you can pray for guidance – and I assure you, you will be given. I have guidance, it is not easy to Always think on that line. But as I said when you have nothing to fall back on, no other solution, it is the time you can pray the hardest like screaming when in physical pain !!!
    I pray daily and I will pray for your behalf very gladly – for your guidance – I guess I have been given a new task as right now I need to do something – doing things for others gives me great satisfaction. Before your comment on my face book I just posted a video of, That’s God” I believe he heard something !!!

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  4. Ah, tests. I think that Job story has messed up the thinking of many people – being tested. I would hope there is a God that strengthens me not tests me because evil will test me all the time. Satan is certainly the test maker and author of temptation. Does God need proof from me as a submissive believer ? I hope not because God’s reach to us is in the form of invitation to embrace Him and therefore be embraced by Him. Yes, I pray that they will be drawn in and walk in God’s Light. That means whatever people in my life do or don’t do I will not be the cause of anyone’s misfortune and I will never pass up the opportunity to perform a charitable act if I can. That has been my guidance.

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    1. Maybe the way I answered is not worded correctly. I usually do not mention God as each person has their own view/understanding on God. I have and still is facing the issues of injustice. The financial difficulties I am going through is because of this. I have had feelings of deep hurt and anger through the years, and found myself wasting my time and energy, and making myself unhappy. After reading and studying views of many people as well as reading what other religions say, in the end I decided to let go and steer my path to doing something to uplift myself instead of trying to change things/people, that I could not!
      I cannot justify everything that happened to me, but the only way that I could comfort myself was thinking they were challenges in life, to overcome and become stronger. Which I have. Long time ago I didn’t think this is who I am going to be. But still I do question, “Did I have go through so much? and still ?
      How I know to say is, that in life we all have problems, and sometimes there are no real answers, and we have to go through them as best as we can, so that we need not suffer or be unhappy because of how others lead their lives. Don’t you think so?

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