Hello To All My Dear Readers 🙂

Thanking all those who read my articles and comment, like and follow my blog. Hope all of you are well and finding what I write useful in some way to further enhance and advance your life 🙂
I don’t know if this topic is relevant to everyone, but this is something that I have had to be facing since sometime. We all know that mental illnesses are not recognized and understood, even by some of the so called educated people. Why I say, “so called educated people” is, if people are really educated, then they cannot be ignorant of the fact that mind becomes ill just like the body. As where is the mind? In the body! Then how can mind not become ill? Then why does mental illnesses looked down upon or seen them as some outcasts in the society?
It is well known that world over depression is a serious issue threatening the future, becoming the biggest health problem by 2030. There are millions who are depressed and millions yet to come. Suicide rate is going up. Valuable time and live’s are lost. So many kind and compassionate people are working, fighting to ease this problem in various fields, not only in the field of medicine. Communities have got together as groups, clubs to work towards helping in healing through hobbies, sports, physical and many mental therapeutic activities as well. What I am doing also here in my blog is , in a small way is contributing my knowledge and experiences towards those who can make use of them to know that they also can control and recover enough to be well and lead a normal and happy life. It is to show by example, “To give Hope” to those still battling!
But as life has it, I am having to deal with an issue of, not only of ignorance but, “Knowingly trying to confuse and push me back” In these circumstances what would you do? Do you think it is a kind and compassionate thing to do to another human being who has gone through such an ordeal through years and lifted her head up, and now is working towards the benefit of others, quietly with no harm or disturbance to anyone? What motive and mind set do you think this type of people have? As in the society there are many types of destructive people. How do you deal with them?

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At the present stage of my life I have learnt to take them as, challenges that I have to face in order to overcome and become stronger. As we need challenges to test our strength and to move on to the next level of our lives. Life throws us curve balls from time to time and we do get shaken, but we can deal with them in many ways. Overcoming long term depression is not a small task, that shows, Strength, Courage and Patience, and above all Faith in the Powers above. I pray during sickness and sadness, for good health, in happiness, thankfulness and gratitude, daily morning and night, for myself and others. This is, where I derive, “My Strength” The Divine Powers which some have no clue. They think they can do anything and get away. For the moment yes. But not long term!

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There is no way that negativity can bring down the positive. Dharma, Righteousness always overcome evil. Light always chases the darkness away. My name by birth itself is, “Light” Darkness can never defeat me. It is a Lion himself who named me, “Light” and, his spirit is guiding me. I lead my life in accordance to, “The Laws of The Universe” I adhere to to the correct principles in life. I give. I donate. I share what I have with anyone. Even this blog is giving and sharing, as I am sharing my knowledge with others. The gift of knowledge is supposed to bring the the highest blessings according to Buddhism. So how can those who are morally deteriorated put me down or anyone else for that matter. You who is reading, never get discouraged or let anyone put you down for no reason. Take every experience, as a challenge, to gain strength, courage and confidence and to achieve you goals and win 🙂

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These are things that happen in the society not only to me. Some do not want others to rise up. Sadly they don’t know that helping another is helping themselves. In giving you receive. In blessing you are blessed. What goes around come around. They are “The laws of The Universe” that applies to all. Abiding by them, “The Universe supports us 🙂

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I hope you like what I have written and found somethings useful. As these are things we all face in life from time to time. Pass on to others who can make use of it. Thank you for reading ❤

Thanking for the picture quotes taken from the I net ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to All ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

Hello To All My Dear Readers 🙂

Hope all of you are well and happy. Thank you to all those who read my articles, like and follow the blog. Most of all a very big Thank You to those who take their time to leave a comment in appreciation or saying how and what they feel about the topic. This is very valuable as, each person look at life matters in a different way and we all can learn from another’s point of view 🙂

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Freedom in Healing is very important. Why? This is because we need to feel free to be ourselves to relax. Freedom is our right and no one can take it away. This is one issue that people have that they cannot say, or do the things they like which makes them stressed and unhappy. As long as we are doing the right thing, we do not have to worry about what other’s think, as what ever good or bad there will be some who will always criticize or find fault.This takes time as we need to realize this and be strong and brave to go on with our lives to live the way that is most agreeable to us 🙂

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To attain freedom there are many things we can and need to do. We need to let go of those unnecessary things and people that are binding us to the past or even the present, that stresses us and disturb our lives. We need to prioritize and have what is only needed for a peaceful and happy life, as having too many things and too many people around really waste our time and energy. As we get caught up with unnecessary talk, and things that does not add any real value to life. Few good people, of family and friends who are able to understand, see your worth and value, love and care for you is all you want. Not an army of people with noisy clutter as none of us going to war 😛

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Hope you like the article and learnt something from what I have written. Please do share and pass it on for those who can make use of it. Thank you for reading ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me to you ❤

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Deepa Nilamani 🙂

Hello To All My Dear Readers 🙂

Hope all of you are well. I have not been here for a while, as I have been busy writing some other articles. So I am sorry I have not been visiting some of your blogs too. I am re-writing this article as so many have missed the old articles. We are all aware in life everyday is not the same. We keep on changing and moving ahead. Even if we do not want to change, we do grow older by the day and changes happen physically and mentally, as well as the whole environment changes around us. That is the norm of life. With that there comes challenges over and over again for us to learn how to face and overcome them, to become stronger and wiser to move on in life to the next level 🙂

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Once you have overcome a challenge or challenges, you need to learn from them and organize yourself, to make sure the same things do not cause problems again. For this you need to, “Let Go” of the things and people that do not work for you anymore. Letting go usually, does not mean taking a bag and going away as so many posts show. As in life you cannot leave those who are dependent on you and walk off just like that. What it means mostly is, “Letting go from the Mind” and changing and adjusting to those people and situations that you have to live in, to fit in better 🙂

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Letting Go is a process. As in life from the moment we are born we are Letting Go isn’t it? First of all we let go of the womb that we grew for 9 months and entered the, seems like harsh world with a bang. From that time on wards, everything that we were born with, our hair, skin keeps on shedding and being renewed without our knowledge. Letting go is a, “Natural Process for us to, “Let Go” of the unwanted/old and move on to new that works for us” Its just like discarding our clothes that become too small for us as we grow on to our next size. Not only us it happens to animals too. Like reptiles, they too shed their whole length of outer skin from time to time. The eagle sheds all its feathers and even the beak after 40 years to renews it self for another 30 years. Then why is this, Letting Go become such a painful process ?

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This is when, “We are Forced to Let Go”, “Before we are ready” Just like pulling our hair or teeth before time. In Nature, there is always, a Time for everything. When we have to, or Forced to give up anything or people before we are ready only, it becomes painful” So there is always a, “Time to Let Go” if not it is difficult and painful. But sometimes so happens in life, whether we like or not we do have to let go as we need to move on and holding on doesn’t help. And once you accept life becomes much easier and pleasant. As you have less people and things to trouble you unnecessarily!!!

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Then how to make life a little easier for us, living in this complicated world? Well the most important word comes in, which is, “To be prepared to Let Go” when we know our work is done, and we are no more needed. Hard? Yes, but it is reality. When people have outgrown you, means they have changed their vibrations, hence their personality and their whole energy system. So they no longer able to sometimes live under the same roof with the same people, doing the same things like they used to. All that belongs to another era. Which is called by the name,”The Past” Letting Go if it is for our own good is difficult, but sometimes we have to, and once we do the relief is great. By letting go of the past you make room for the new to come in your life that will ultimately lead you to new places and people whom you fit in better and belong with, to lead a much happier, satisfying and fulfilled life 🙂

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Hope you enjoyed reading what I have written, and learnt something to help in your life or even someone else’s life. Knowledge is like ripples that travels over and across lands and seas all over the world bringing everyone closer to share and learn from each other. This is a wonderful video about the change that the eagle goes through. It is for us to learn how change and letting go helps us to move on to a better level in life. Enjoy 🙂

Thank you all for reading. You can share and pass on to those who can benefit from what has been written here ❤

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Thanking for the picture quotes from the I net ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

 

Hello To All My Dear Reader 🙂

I am re-doing some of the posts and this is exactly from 2 years ago. Looking back its an amazing, the journey I have come so far, in healing myself and advancing my knowledge, working, studying and going about in life as a, “Complete normal human being” Actually I am a much stronger and knowledgeable product now as a result of all the experiences I had experienced through the journey. This is because I made a concentrated effort in becoming well, making use of all the help I could get and above all, myself working towards healing 🙂

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Why I am writing like this is for those of you who are reading to have “Hope and Faith” and to Believe in becoming well in time, with medication, counselling and/or psychotherapy. It is possible to control and send the dragon back into its cave where it came from. In other words it goes into remission as it happens with so many other physical illnesses too. In becoming well, I have the opportunity in enlightening/guiding others who are in need of, I should say “Hope” to know that you also have that chance, the ability to, become well and lead a life of Happiness and Joy that you deserve ❤

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Depression is being very sad long term, and known as darkness because, if you are depressed, you do not see the colours of life. Meaning your eye tend to move on to dark and gloomy things even the clothes you wear and choose, tend to be dull and grey. Just like when its a rainy day and the sky is dark and all around you is gloomy. Also you lack energy, become lethargic, lack of appetite, sleep, at the same time drowsiness, and feeling of dullness in general towards living. These are what I have experienced, if you want more information you can refer books and the I net. At the same time the moment you get well, its just like the sun has come out and you see the world in all its glory. You become energized and full of enthusiasm to get on with life. Which I am now. So I know both the darkness and the light. Strange as, “Deepa” my name given according to my birth time means, “Light” Light has two meanings. The physical light, as well as, enlightening in knowledge. So somehow years ago, according to my birth time this was the suitable name which was given by a very wise person. It’s said we are born with a plan. So was I born for exactly this purpose ? In that case, is it why I went through all these challenges and tests to overcome for a purpose ? Time will give the answers 🙂

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So after more than half of my life gone what I feel now is that, all what I have gone through is, ” To be able to gain that knowledge, so that I can enlighten others on this topic. It’s strange how life has taken a turn as what I wanted to do was Botany, as I loved plants. I never wanted to do medicine or to be a doctor, but now I am studying psychology. If we are all born for some specific purpose and it seems this is my purpose, my mission. Aren’t I glad that I have got such a mission in my hands 🙂

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People go through hard times in their lives due to many different reasons. Being physically ill, problems in jobs, professions, lack of money and/or family/children problems. And sometimes all or many of these come together. People looking from outside, do not see what is going in others personal lives, and can discourage and hurt others with no reason. Someone who is going through a very bad time, might completely go off track, by some insensitive and ignorant people’s attitude and, pushing them further into darkness and gloom. Feeling desperate and not knowing what to do they might even end their lives. So do think before you say or do anything harsh without knowing what others are going through. These are the times that the human mind cannot take it and it breaks. So always be aware, just because someone is well dressed and smiling there can be lot going on unseen within !!!

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Saying broken is that your mind becomes ill just like the body. The soul, your spirit can be dampened, and it becomes too much for the mind and it begins to give up. Then the body also goes down with it, as the mind is also in the physical self, in short in the head somewhere !!!
Its not only people who always break you, mother nature also does that with her floods, volcanoes and many other tricks up her sleeves. And for those who ask why only pictures of ladies, here are some for the gentlemen too 🙂

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Not ten it can be hundreds of times, and some goes on for whole of their life time. This is why I am writing that it is possible for most of you to bring it down, keep it under control, if not fully to some extent, enough to lead a stress free life. If after 15 long years I overcome depression. So can you ❤

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This is what happens to those who are over loaded with stress. Your head is over working trying to find solutions. Its mostly stress that you get headaches and most of the other illnesses. Its like a chess game inside your head, trying to figure out the best ways to overcome the problems and solve the difficult situations. The other person becomes too tough you lose the game !!!

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Please do not look down upon people who have mental issues. Being mentally ill is Not being mad. Through stress, untold grief, sadness and abuse which often is not their fault many become confused and ill. This labeling and looking down upon people is wrong. All people have a right to lead a life of peace and happiness. “It is this stigma that is preventing a lot of people going for help to the doctor that is making them more ill. Mental illnesses are rising at an alarming rate. According to WHO by 2030 Depression will be the biggest cause of health burden in the world. “RIGHT NOW ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD , ONE PERSON TAKES THEIR OWN LIFE EVERY 30 SECONDS” and it is going up. I am sure glad I am on the, RIGHT SIDE OF LIFE, ENCOURAGING and SUPPORTING PEOPLE TO LIVE HEALTHY and HAPPY, and NOT DIE !!!

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Be Brave and seek out help. Don’t let anything spoil your life. You have the right to lead a good life ❤

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Once we open up, we help ourselves to feel good. To love and care for ourselves. As none of us are born perfect. Sometimes its not seen why somethings happened to us. No one makes a mistake or takes a wrong turn if they know that it will be a disaster. Sometimes it can be like putting out your hand out to survive to the closest thing, a person, when you are drowning in the river of stress. As our fist instinct is to survive this is how we are born. You are born to live and live to tell your story to others to lift them up too 🙂

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Its not only our problems and struggles, our successes and winnings also can be turned into stories to help others. I am touching on the good side too. As so many harp on the bad side and do not see the good they have. This is a result of my being positive Now and not being depressed. Now I can look from both sides of life 🙂

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Those who have gone through any physical or mental pain themselves can understand another’s pain or hardships better. Someone who never had a headache would find it hard to understand another’s pain in the head. But one doesn’t have to be, all that broken to understand another’s feelings. As all human beings have feelings, are intelligent and have a brain to think and analyse what is right and wrong. Each and everyone goes through some kind of experience, at some stage of their lives. Sometimes back when I posted this in my group, someone commented this is because, they feel the pinch !!!

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Well I am a survivor. I did fight to win over depression. We all have to, sort of fight over lot of things to achieve what we want in life. I feel quite good that in spite of being named the light,  I fell into darkness and managed to come out. I fought the darkness and became what I am today. Back to myself 🙂

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But we don’t go through all the experiences ourselves in one life. How I became well is from a combination of others experiences, my knowledge from very young days even before I got depressed has helped me. Even from books, magazines and other sources I come across. And I am not this small and certainly don’t live in a tea cup 😛

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I hope you enjoyed reading and the pictures. Its more like a picture story. And some of it will help you towards becoming well. Thank you for reading. God Bless ❤

Thanking for the picture quotes from Healthy place and Steve Maraboli ❤

Love, Light and Healing Energies from me 🙂

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

This is the link from: https://www.healthyplace.com/  if you want more information on mental health.

What is the Stand Up for Mental Health Campaign About?

Why Is It Time to Stand Up for Mental Health?

Join the Stand Up for Mental Health Campaign
Like other groups throughout history, people with a mental illness have been marginalized, discriminated against and made to feel like second class citizens. Others refused to tolerate it, why should you?

By Standing Up for Mental Health, you’ll let others know:

  • There is nothing “wrong” with having a mental illness.
  • People with a mental illness are not alone in what they are dealing with.
  • People with a mental illness shouldn’t feel ashamed or forced to hide their mental illness symptoms and desire for effective treatment.
  • Mental health stigma will no longer be tolerated.

 

Hello To My Dear Readers 🙂

I have been reading some articles and according to the latest statistics, mental illnesses are rising at an alarming rate. Millions world over are going through depression and many other mental issues. Sadly so many people are still not aware that the mind also gets sick like the body, even those who are highly educated in certain fields. Quite often I have heard people say it’s all in the mind and there is no such thing as depression !!!

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In Australia alone one is seven experience major depression in their life time. But 70% of them will not seek treatment. One of the main reasons for this is the stigma. This is actually common almost world over. The other reasons are not having access to formal mental health treatment due to being in remote areas, the cost and time limitations. The result of this is people becoming sick and unable to work or to lead their lives in the normal way and also very sadly ending their valuable lives giving grief to their loved ones and a loss to the whole of humanity.
In the past it was said that counselling online is of little help, now research has clearly shown that self-guided, online psychological therapy is effective for most people experiencing depression regardless of severity or back ground. Those of you who are reading, please do go for counselling or therapy as they are extremely helpful !!!

“DO NOT THINK ABOUT STIGMA – IT IS YOUR LIFE THAT MATTERS”

But if you are unable to go, until such time, read books articles and find information on line for self care. There is so much of knowledge in books, magazines and on the I net. Again this is if you are unable to go for medical help for some reason 🙂

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The word Health Organisation has stated that depression will be the biggest cause of health burden in the world by 2030 !!!
So this is the reason I thought I will try and increase writing more posts as I believe at least one person will make use of these tips and go for counselling, take medication or learn how to manage their moods and feel a little better. If I know I have made just one person feel better, valued and worth I am very happy. Each one of us are born for a very specific purpose and,
“You Are Very Unique and Special- Always Remember that”

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Hope you like what I have written and learnt something new or remembered something you already knew. Thank you for reading. Share and pass on 🙂

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Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies coming your way ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

Hello To My Dear Readers 🙂

I have written this article before but it was at the very beginning and I believe not many read it. Also now that I have more knowledge I thought of writing it again with new and added information. It is mainly about how you go about finding the correct doctor, counsellor or therapist when you need to go for medical help 🙂
We all know that each one of us have different personalities, and so does the medical personnel. More than the other fields when we are dealing with our minds, it is very important to find the correct doctor with whom you can be comfortable and tell your story, discuss your problems, ask advice or guidance. As you need to feel you are trusted and respected, or the moment you feel uncomfortable even with one word, your mood can go off and it becomes a problem rather than a help. I have experiences on this. There has been times that I have gone quite happy and confident and coming back with a very dimmed spirit and annoyed and hurt having the feeling that I was not understood or trusted. So anytime you are over stressed or imbalanced, try and find the correct doctor and visit them regularly, until the doctors or the therapist decide to stop seeing you. Counselling is very very important and extremely helpful in seeing and solving your problems in a satisfactory way 🙂

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Then comes the other Most Important part that, “You need to take your medication regularly and continue as long as you have to or for ever” Please make a note that this is very important as I too have stopped at times thinking I am well and have got relapses when I did so. When one goes through severe stress and trauma long term there will be an imbalance of chemicals in the body. And the medications are given to balance them out. Why I am saying this ? As when it was explained like that only I realized that, I really needed to take what ever I was supposed to take, in order to become well and continue to be well. So you need to know and believe that you can lead a normal life by learning to deal with it the correct way 🙂

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Coming out of depression or being well from mood disorder means that it is being managed/controlled with medication and everything else you are doing to keep up being well and, they have gone into remission or you can call it hibernation. Its like a seed in the ground waiting for the rains or the right conditions to lift its head up again. This does happen with many other illnesses as well. So medication is necessary to keep it under control or for prevention. But medication alone cannot do everything. A major part of it is in your hands too. You need to eat healthy and be active and maintain your body and be physically fit, as the body and mind is connected, for the mind to be strong the body has to be healthy too. You need to steer the mind on to the positive path and push aside the negativity as much as possible. For this you need to work at it. I will write about being positive in the next article, as I know some do not like or its too stressful to read very long posts. Hope this has given you some good insights that will help you in feeling better in some way 🙂

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Thank you for reading. Please do share and pass it on to those who can make use of what I have written 🙂

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Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to all ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

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Hello To All My Dear Readers 🙂

First of all, I welcome the many new readers and bloggers with much happiness. Your likes, comments and appreciations help and encourage me to feel happy and do better not only for me but, for all of us in the long run. Almost closing on 100 bloggers and, A Very Big Thank You to All, old and new family here in my site ❤
When it comes to Healing as I wrote before, just as taking responsibility, “We need to have that Desire, that great need/urge” to somehow overcome being low/sad or unhappy and make ourselves to be well and happy. This again we have to do ourselves. Others can help and encourage but it mainly, up to us to have that need and push ourselves along the path of Healing 🙂

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For this you need to be dedicated to the cause of healing. It does not happen overnight, it is a process of taking things step by step methodically. The world, the society is not an easy place to live in, especially if you are going through mental issues. It can be chaotic and hostile to you. So we need to find a place, an environment to suit our conditions, to grow undisturbed and peacefully in to a healthy person. This can be difficult, as in all ventures in life there is resistance, so we need to let go, of the people, things that hinder or block our path of Healing. In life we cannot change the whole set up at any time. As we cannot put ourselves in a safety bubble and live in isolation. We tend to meet/come across people and situations that hinder and disturb our progress from time to time. So if we have the Strength, Courage and Persistence to change, adjust and put aside what is unnecessary, we can be successful in our venture in Healing 🙂

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There are many more steps, and I will write one by one gradually. Share and/or pass it on to others who can make use of what I have written. Thank you for reading ❤

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Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to All ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂