Hello To All My Dear Reader 🙂

I am re-doing some of the posts and this is exactly from 2 years ago. Looking back its an amazing, the journey I have come so far, in healing myself and advancing my knowledge, working, studying and going about in life as a, “Complete normal human being” Actually I am a much stronger and knowledgeable product now as a result of all the experiences I had experienced through the journey. This is because I made a concentrated effort in becoming well, making use of all the help I could get and above all, myself working towards healing 🙂

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Why I am writing like this is for those of you who are reading to have “Hope and Faith” and to Believe in becoming well in time, with medication, counselling and/or psychotherapy. It is possible to control and send the dragon back into its cave where it came from. In other words it goes into remission as it happens with so many other physical illnesses too. In becoming well, I have the opportunity in enlightening/guiding others who are in need of, I should say “Hope” to know that you also have that chance, the ability to, become well and lead a life of Happiness and Joy that you deserve ❤

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Depression is being very sad long term, and known as darkness because, if you are depressed, you do not see the colours of life. Meaning your eye tend to move on to dark and gloomy things even the clothes you wear and choose, tend to be dull and grey. Just like when its a rainy day and the sky is dark and all around you is gloomy. Also you lack energy, become lethargic, lack of appetite, sleep, at the same time drowsiness, and feeling of dullness in general towards living. These are what I have experienced, if you want more information you can refer books and the I net. At the same time the moment you get well, its just like the sun has come out and you see the world in all its glory. You become energized and full of enthusiasm to get on with life. Which I am now. So I know both the darkness and the light. Strange as, “Deepa” my name given according to my birth time means, “Light” Light has two meanings. The physical light, as well as, enlightening in knowledge. So somehow years ago, according to my birth time this was the suitable name which was given by a very wise person. It’s said we are born with a plan. So was I born for exactly this purpose ? In that case, is it why I went through all these challenges and tests to overcome for a purpose ? Time will give the answers 🙂

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So after more than half of my life gone what I feel now is that, all what I have gone through is, ” To be able to gain that knowledge, so that I can enlighten others on this topic. It’s strange how life has taken a turn as what I wanted to do was Botany, as I loved plants. I never wanted to do medicine or to be a doctor, but now I am studying psychology. If we are all born for some specific purpose and it seems this is my purpose, my mission. Aren’t I glad that I have got such a mission in my hands 🙂

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People go through hard times in their lives due to many different reasons. Being physically ill, problems in jobs, professions, lack of money and/or family/children problems. And sometimes all or many of these come together. People looking from outside, do not see what is going in others personal lives, and can discourage and hurt others with no reason. Someone who is going through a very bad time, might completely go off track, by some insensitive and ignorant people’s attitude and, pushing them further into darkness and gloom. Feeling desperate and not knowing what to do they might even end their lives. So do think before you say or do anything harsh without knowing what others are going through. These are the times that the human mind cannot take it and it breaks. So always be aware, just because someone is well dressed and smiling there can be lot going on unseen within !!!

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Saying broken is that your mind becomes ill just like the body. The soul, your spirit can be dampened, and it becomes too much for the mind and it begins to give up. Then the body also goes down with it, as the mind is also in the physical self, in short in the head somewhere !!!
Its not only people who always break you, mother nature also does that with her floods, volcanoes and many other tricks up her sleeves. And for those who ask why only pictures of ladies, here are some for the gentlemen too 🙂

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Not ten it can be hundreds of times, and some goes on for whole of their life time. This is why I am writing that it is possible for most of you to bring it down, keep it under control, if not fully to some extent, enough to lead a stress free life. If after 15 long years I overcome depression. So can you ❤

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This is what happens to those who are over loaded with stress. Your head is over working trying to find solutions. Its mostly stress that you get headaches and most of the other illnesses. Its like a chess game inside your head, trying to figure out the best ways to overcome the problems and solve the difficult situations. The other person becomes too tough you lose the game !!!

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Please do not look down upon people who have mental issues. Being mentally ill is Not being mad. Through stress, untold grief, sadness and abuse which often is not their fault many become confused and ill. This labeling and looking down upon people is wrong. All people have a right to lead a life of peace and happiness. “It is this stigma that is preventing a lot of people going for help to the doctor that is making them more ill. Mental illnesses are rising at an alarming rate. According to WHO by 2030 Depression will be the biggest cause of health burden in the world. “RIGHT NOW ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD , ONE PERSON TAKES THEIR OWN LIFE EVERY 30 SECONDS” and it is going up. I am sure glad I am on the, RIGHT SIDE OF LIFE, ENCOURAGING and SUPPORTING PEOPLE TO LIVE HEALTHY and HAPPY, and NOT DIE !!!

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Be Brave and seek out help. Don’t let anything spoil your life. You have the right to lead a good life ❤

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Once we open up, we help ourselves to feel good. To love and care for ourselves. As none of us are born perfect. Sometimes its not seen why somethings happened to us. No one makes a mistake or takes a wrong turn if they know that it will be a disaster. Sometimes it can be like putting out your hand out to survive to the closest thing, a person, when you are drowning in the river of stress. As our fist instinct is to survive this is how we are born. You are born to live and live to tell your story to others to lift them up too 🙂

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Its not only our problems and struggles, our successes and winnings also can be turned into stories to help others. I am touching on the good side too. As so many harp on the bad side and do not see the good they have. This is a result of my being positive Now and not being depressed. Now I can look from both sides of life 🙂

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Those who have gone through any physical or mental pain themselves can understand another’s pain or hardships better. Someone who never had a headache would find it hard to understand another’s pain in the head. But one doesn’t have to be, all that broken to understand another’s feelings. As all human beings have feelings, are intelligent and have a brain to think and analyse what is right and wrong. Each and everyone goes through some kind of experience, at some stage of their lives. Sometimes back when I posted this in my group, someone commented this is because, they feel the pinch !!!

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Well I am a survivor. I did fight to win over depression. We all have to, sort of fight over lot of things to achieve what we want in life. I feel quite good that in spite of being named the light,  I fell into darkness and managed to come out. I fought the darkness and became what I am today. Back to myself 🙂

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But we don’t go through all the experiences ourselves in one life. How I became well is from a combination of others experiences, my knowledge from very young days even before I got depressed has helped me. Even from books, magazines and other sources I come across. And I am not this small and certainly don’t live in a tea cup 😛

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I hope you enjoyed reading and the pictures. Its more like a picture story. And some of it will help you towards becoming well. Thank you for reading. God Bless ❤

Thanking for the picture quotes from Healthy place and Steve Maraboli ❤

Love, Light and Healing Energies from me 🙂

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

This is the link from: https://www.healthyplace.com/  if you want more information on mental health.

What is the Stand Up for Mental Health Campaign About?

Why Is It Time to Stand Up for Mental Health?

Join the Stand Up for Mental Health Campaign
Like other groups throughout history, people with a mental illness have been marginalized, discriminated against and made to feel like second class citizens. Others refused to tolerate it, why should you?

By Standing Up for Mental Health, you’ll let others know:

  • There is nothing “wrong” with having a mental illness.
  • People with a mental illness are not alone in what they are dealing with.
  • People with a mental illness shouldn’t feel ashamed or forced to hide their mental illness symptoms and desire for effective treatment.
  • Mental health stigma will no longer be tolerated.

 

Hello To My Dear Readers 🙂

I have been reading some articles and according to the latest statistics, mental illnesses are rising at an alarming rate. Millions world over are going through depression and many other mental issues. Sadly so many people are still not aware that the mind also gets sick like the body, even those who are highly educated in certain fields. Quite often I have heard people say it’s all in the mind and there is no such thing as depression !!!

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In Australia alone one is seven experience major depression in their life time. But 70% of them will not seek treatment. One of the main reasons for this is the stigma. This is actually common almost world over. The other reasons are not having access to formal mental health treatment due to being in remote areas, the cost and time limitations. The result of this is people becoming sick and unable to work or to lead their lives in the normal way and also very sadly ending their valuable lives giving grief to their loved ones and a loss to the whole of humanity.
In the past it was said that counselling online is of little help, now research has clearly shown that self-guided, online psychological therapy is effective for most people experiencing depression regardless of severity or back ground. Those of you who are reading, please do go for counselling or therapy as they are extremely helpful !!!

“DO NOT THINK ABOUT STIGMA – IT IS YOUR LIFE THAT MATTERS”

But if you are unable to go, until such time, read books articles and find information on line for self care. There is so much of knowledge in books, magazines and on the I net. Again this is if you are unable to go for medical help for some reason 🙂

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The word Health Organisation has stated that depression will be the biggest cause of health burden in the world by 2030 !!!
So this is the reason I thought I will try and increase writing more posts as I believe at least one person will make use of these tips and go for counselling, take medication or learn how to manage their moods and feel a little better. If I know I have made just one person feel better, valued and worth I am very happy. Each one of us are born for a very specific purpose and,
“You Are Very Unique and Special- Always Remember that”

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Hope you like what I have written and learnt something new or remembered something you already knew. Thank you for reading. Share and pass on 🙂

Thanking for the pictures quotes from the I net ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies coming your way ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

Hello To My Dear Readers 🙂

I have written this article before but it was at the very beginning and I believe not many read it. Also now that I have more knowledge I thought of writing it again with new and added information. It is mainly about how you go about finding the correct doctor, counsellor or therapist when you need to go for medical help 🙂
We all know that each one of us have different personalities, and so does the medical personnel. More than the other fields when we are dealing with our minds, it is very important to find the correct doctor with whom you can be comfortable and tell your story, discuss your problems, ask advice or guidance. As you need to feel you are trusted and respected, or the moment you feel uncomfortable even with one word, your mood can go off and it becomes a problem rather than a help. I have experiences on this. There has been times that I have gone quite happy and confident and coming back with a very dimmed spirit and annoyed and hurt having the feeling that I was not understood or trusted. So anytime you are over stressed or imbalanced, try and find the correct doctor and visit them regularly, until the doctors or the therapist decide to stop seeing you. Counselling is very very important and extremely helpful in seeing and solving your problems in a satisfactory way 🙂

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Then comes the other Most Important part that, “You need to take your medication regularly and continue as long as you have to or for ever” Please make a note that this is very important as I too have stopped at times thinking I am well and have got relapses when I did so. When one goes through severe stress and trauma long term there will be an imbalance of chemicals in the body. And the medications are given to balance them out. Why I am saying this ? As when it was explained like that only I realized that, I really needed to take what ever I was supposed to take, in order to become well and continue to be well. So you need to know and believe that you can lead a normal life by learning to deal with it the correct way 🙂

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Coming out of depression or being well from mood disorder means that it is being managed/controlled with medication and everything else you are doing to keep up being well and, they have gone into remission or you can call it hibernation. Its like a seed in the ground waiting for the rains or the right conditions to lift its head up again. This does happen with many other illnesses as well. So medication is necessary to keep it under control or for prevention. But medication alone cannot do everything. A major part of it is in your hands too. You need to eat healthy and be active and maintain your body and be physically fit, as the body and mind is connected, for the mind to be strong the body has to be healthy too. You need to steer the mind on to the positive path and push aside the negativity as much as possible. For this you need to work at it. I will write about being positive in the next article, as I know some do not like or its too stressful to read very long posts. Hope this has given you some good insights that will help you in feeling better in some way 🙂

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Thank you for reading. Please do share and pass it on to those who can make use of what I have written 🙂

Thanking for the quotes from the I net ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to all ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

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Hello To All My Dear Readers 🙂

First of all, I welcome the many new readers and bloggers with much happiness. Your likes, comments and appreciations help and encourage me to feel happy and do better not only for me but, for all of us in the long run. Almost closing on 100 bloggers and, A Very Big Thank You to All, old and new family here in my site ❤
When it comes to Healing as I wrote before, just as taking responsibility, “We need to have that Desire, that great need/urge” to somehow overcome being low/sad or unhappy and make ourselves to be well and happy. This again we have to do ourselves. Others can help and encourage but it mainly, up to us to have that need and push ourselves along the path of Healing 🙂

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For this you need to be dedicated to the cause of healing. It does not happen overnight, it is a process of taking things step by step methodically. The world, the society is not an easy place to live in, especially if you are going through mental issues. It can be chaotic and hostile to you. So we need to find a place, an environment to suit our conditions, to grow undisturbed and peacefully in to a healthy person. This can be difficult, as in all ventures in life there is resistance, so we need to let go, of the people, things that hinder or block our path of Healing. In life we cannot change the whole set up at any time. As we cannot put ourselves in a safety bubble and live in isolation. We tend to meet/come across people and situations that hinder and disturb our progress from time to time. So if we have the Strength, Courage and Persistence to change, adjust and put aside what is unnecessary, we can be successful in our venture in Healing 🙂

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There are many more steps, and I will write one by one gradually. Share and/or pass it on to others who can make use of what I have written. Thank you for reading ❤

This is my other site that I write poetry for relaxation: https://deepanilamani.com/

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to All ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

End of A Very Long Journey !

Hello To All My Dear Readers 🙂

First of all let me wish All My Dear Readers A Very Happy New Year 🙂

Thank you all for coming to my blog and liking and supporting me. When you read and appreciate, I feel what I write help in some way that I am encouraged to do more and better. Since I wrote my last article there has been questions as to how I managed to recover from depression, and what I did. So this includes answers to some of those questions and some may be what I have written before, but then as time goes they are with added knowledge and experiences !!!
I waited a little as the mind takes a very long time to clear out of all Trauma you went through, to be able to start to remember exactly what happened to you, that over stressed you and made you mentally ill. One can compare the mind to a muddy glass of water clearing up, as the mud particles settles down, the mind too start to clear to be settled enough to write your story !!!

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Until you really clear your mind, that is to say until you get over most of the pain, you sort of need to keep away from the places and people who upset you. This is not to say close the door and stay in the room or isolate yourself, but at this time if you have a lot of time for yourself to rest and think clearly without others disturbing your thought pattern you can get back in to your own way of doing things much quicker. Just like covering a physical wound, we need to safe guard our minds too from outside disturbances until it becomes well !!!

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Why you need a good environment is, in the silence you hear yourself. You are really able to understand what works best to you to feel happy and relaxed !

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You also need to let go of people and situations that keeps on digging at your heart and hurting and making you sad. I know we cannot just pack a bag and leave. What I mean is if you cannot move away physically, you need to start letting go/detaching yourself from all that mentally. When you detach yourself from the mind, automatically you are able to have less disturbance from those that hurt you !

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I have been writing that in life, challenges come for us to face them get over them and become stronger and move on to the next level. The reason why we get hurt and upset is, “We take what happens extremely personally, thinking they happen only to us” But each person crosses our path for a reason. They all carry some message, good or bad. I know we being ordinary human beings, its difficult to face extreme harsh and cruel things that happens to our lives. But, a very big but, “somehow if we take them as messengers that crosses our path” we are better able to handle the situations in a much better way. There is no one in the world who has Not gone through any kind of pain or hardship. One thing I have to say is, many think that mental conditions happen through relationships only. But it can be anything. Major events that mother earth throws at us like, volcanoes, floods and earth quakes where people lose family, friends, houses and money, also failing exams, losing jobs all contribute to becoming very ill !!!

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Once you realize this, everything begin to fall into place and you see a pattern that has been happening, and you begin to heal slowly but surely 🙂

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Once you begin to heal you don’t want to be wasting time talking about all the negative things that happened to you in the past. Its how it happened to me. I felt I had lost so much time and I started catching up. I did two short courses. The first one on, Personal Development from which I learnt so much about people’s behaviors and how to face them. The second one on, Natural Health and Healing that I expanded my knowledge about healing the natural way. Now on going, “A Diploma in Psychology which has opened my eyes in a very different light and discovering so much about the human mind. I have to say its the best thing that happened to me” So all of them boosted my inner growth and turned me around and brought back that confidence and strength in me. I can say I have bounced back stronger. We all have to keep on trying. If we try hard enough, “We all can make progress well enough to lead a good life” 🙂

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Once we take our lives in to our hands and do what makes us happy, then our soul comes alive again and then we have healed. Yes you need medical help. That you definitely have to have and medications what has to help you. But there is a very big part in your hands, as its you who is always with you and knows exactly what is happening. Everyone can help, But ultimately, Healing is in the hands of the person who is unwell 🙂

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It has been a very long journey, and finally I have healed myself from my mental pains. You need to educate yourself so as to become wise. The sixth sense, also called the third eye helps you to know how life works. Through all that you, Find the “Truth” The answers to why certain things happened to you and around you. But you don’t need to run after those who have hurt and harmed you. You have wasted enough time. You forgive not for the other person, but yourself, and move on with your life. “Punishment comes to those who do wrong, not once, But over and over again, knowing that they are doing the wrong thing” ***Human beings have no excuse as they have so much of education and guidance from the day they are born to help them lead good lives***Human life is so valuable and it’s a pity that some think its only they need to live well and to hurt and harm others. Still that is life, and we need to learn our lessons and move on. The beauty of it is, “As survivors we become, “Better and stronger people to give a helping hand to others to stand up”. There by our lives becomes Peaceful and Blessed. Things that money cannot buy !!!

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I hope everyone who reads will at least find one answer to their questions, and learnt something new to help you. If you know of others who might benefit from what I have written, Please do share or pass it on. Thank you for reading 🙂

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me ❤

May God Bless You All ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

Hello To My Dear Readers 🙂

Hope all of you are keeping well and Happy. And some of you looking forward to holidays and Christmas celebrations. End of 2016 and going to be a new year too. For me it marks, “Three years free of depression and four years free of mood disorder/bipolar” Now that I know I am free from depression, I thought of writing what I know and how, “I did and what I am doing to remain free and positive” 🙂
From my experiences over about 17 years what I have realized is, “That it’s We that need to really want to change for the better. We alone have to say enough is enough I want to somehow come out of this mess and lead a better life. For this we need Courage To Change and then work towards improving our lives to make it work for us” 🙂

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Once you decide to Heal, other factors come in like, Counselling and Medication, according what type of issues you have. You don’t have to feel bad or ashamed to go for counselling or to a doctor regarding mental issues as, “The Mind is in the Body and not a part outside” Its those who think otherwise, who have to be ashamed of as, “They are ignorant” on this matter, as so many are having mental issues just as much as physical illnesses. When we are born we have the right to live free and in peace. And if this doesn’t happen we cannot sit in one place and wait, we have to get up and move towards what we want to do and to lead a good life. That is our right as human beings. If you think of what others might say then your whole life, you have to live in the darkness !!!

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This is very true for most of us, and some of you might know this is what happened or this is what you also did. There comes a point, for anything, a limit for tolerance or for being patient what you are going through, or even what someone or some others are doing to you. The above can be for anything. A situation in life, like a relationship , a job or even regarding your health 🙂

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When it comes to me, I feel it’s a pity that so many suffer long term. I know each person it can be different. But in this modern world in many countries, so much of medical help is available. There are reading materials, relaxation programs and so much centered on human wellness. I firmly believe that so many can, if not fully recover at least go as far as to keep them under control to lead normal and happy life. Try. Try. Try 🙂

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I have gone through a lot. Naturally, or else I wont get depressed and stay that long. The fact is with medical help, time and knowledge gained, you understand and realize so many things that didn’t realize the times you were under stress. When my mind began to settle, it slowly dawned to me the things that I went through, and suddenly it hit me. Its compared to the light bulb effect. As its like suddenly someone switched on a light and you see things clearly. Did that happen to me ? Did I go through all that and how ? I got so much of mixed feelings, of sadness even anger why others around didn’t do anything, and why it had to go on for such a long time. But then I realized that in life there is a pattern and each incident had followed each other. This is the best way as, “Once you accept what happened to you, only then you can let go and change” 🙂

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In a way, “The mind is a very fascinating and mysterious thing” As how I was seeing or realizing was like step by step. As if everything came together it would have been too much for my mind. Actually this is how break downs happens, when so many stressful things fall on to you at once, that you have no time to get over from one before the other thing or things happen. And for a few days I was like in shock remembering the things that I went through and in wonder how I got through it all. But then I discovered the, “Most important thing about healing”,

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This is what I realized. As almost all of us get mentally sick or ill because of stressful things that happen to us or grief and pain given to us by others. It becomes too much for the mind that, “It gives up” It cannot function the normal way so all sorts of funny things happen to us. This is the time the doctors and counselors play a big part, with medical help. There is much to write about different counselling and how that suits ones personality. That will come in another article. For now today its 4th of December 2016, “I can very safely say that I have become well from depression” and that there is so much of Hope for any of you who read this. Again I need to add that a very big part of it is in your hands too. As its, “Your Life for You to be Happy” 🙂

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Its a very big achievement for me. So many tell this, above all I am Happy for myself. As in life, basically we are only for ourselves. Meaning it’s we that know what is best for us. Sometimes even our closest family fail to understand or able to support us exactly how it helps as they cannot fully understand what’s going on in our minds !!!
Why I started my blog is to, “Encourage and give Hope and Faith”that you can become well or to keep under control, is possible to most illnesses. And You Must Believe and have Faith and work towards making your life Happy 🙂

Thank you for reading. All what I want is to hear and know is, what I write here help those of you who read to make your lives better. When I know that I will be the Happiest 🙂

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me 🙂

Deepa Nilamani ❤

Healing from ~ Depression !

Hello To All My Dear Readers 🙂

I am re- doing some of the articles as with time, I am completely recovered from the 15 year long term depression, and been completely free of it almost 3 years up to ~ 9th October 2016. I have expanded my knowledge and gained more experiences in life. I have moved on tremendously from the past and am moving on still. Life is an ever changing process and the only constant is, Change 🙂
Some of the old articles are my past, and I want to write how I am, “Now” the present time. In short, one can say I am, “Re-writing my past again, in a positive way” Am I taking medication ? Yes basic dose of, preventive medication and going for regular check ups. I value my health very much, especially now as I know he difference between being sick and healthy. I have a healthy diet, proper exercises, rest and relaxation so that I am fit and healthy, both in body and mind. This is how I can write about depression after three years of being free from it 🙂

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After all these years, looking back, I have now realized that this is very true. Although at the time when you are going through all the stress and trauma you are not aware. Its not possible to Let Go or Leave stressful life situations just like that, especially if there are other lives depending on you, so very often one is almost forced to tolerate and bear up whether you like it or not, until such time that you can make those changes. Sometimes when the load of stress becomes too much, it can be a very small thing that breaks you finally. It’s said, “That it’s the last straw that breaks the camels back” It’s also like a volcano erupting. I have always thought of it this way. That everything keeps on collecting and collecting, and suddenly the mind blows !!!

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The sadness and grief eats into you, it goes deeper and stays longer than necessary so much so that  alters the chemical balance of your mind and body. This is something that many, Do Not Know ? Why ? How can anyone say, it’s all in the mind. Mental illnesses are just not in the mind its in the body too, as mind is in the body. How can people think that mind s elsewhere !!! When someone is physically ill then that person is ill. When its a mental illness, “Its only in the mind or there is no such thing as mental illness” This is something that some of the so called highly educated people think and say, and it is Time to change. This is why I am writing and doing this blog. Not to earn money, But to make people aware and enlighten the foolish !!! Sorry these are things that I am still going through and I am writing on, “Behalf of whole of Humanity” ❤

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I know depression. It makes one feel lethargic, sleepy, lack of appetite and no energy to do anything. It disrupts your day to day life and you cannot be or do things how you did before. All illnesses are psychosomatic ~ both mind and body. So when the mind gets affected, naturally when the health of the body goes down. I know what Bipolar disorder means, its under control now. I know what PTSD is too. It’s Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Remembering the past Trauma, “The Grief, Painful things one has gone through in life” And knowingly so many people in real life and even on the I net still stress and disturb people like us when all what we are trying to do is to HELP others. My Intentions are Purely to Help, to give Hope to Live, Not end their lives, so that they too can lift their heads up. Sometimes the world, the society can be a very cruel and a vicious place !!!

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Why we get sad or upset is because we are unable to be who we are and do the things that we like. Yes  we know we all have to abide by some form of discipline. We need to fit into family, work, society to some extent, as human beings we cannot just say and do things only how it suits us. But sometimes we are controlled too much. Instead of “adjusting” to fit in or live in harmony with another person or persons (it can be any life situation), sometimes we have to “completely change” from who we are. This is going completely against our natural way of life, our personality that we are born with. You can think of yourself wearing a dress or suit that is too tight, not to your color/style, or eating foods that is not to your taste. How do you feel ? Uncomfortable. This causes friction, stress. Which in turn makes you uneasy, unhappy, even angry having to do something you don’t like. Naturally. We are born to be who we are. For a short time yes, as sometimes we are compelled to do things we are not comfortable with, in certain situations. Long term ? No ? Why ? Because we are born to be free, and constantly that real person inside of us, “The real me” is struggling to come out. Again another reason why depression happens, when our spirits get dimmed. When we are not “Allowed to be who we are, to be able to live the life we are born to live 🙂

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This is where I always say it’s, “Guidance and Not control” Guidance is with loving kindness, and controlling is being selfish ~ where one is almost forced to fit in according to another person’s needs and desires. So in life doing things that is against your personality keeps on stressing you. Apparently there can be lack of understanding and love too as you don’t have to go through such difficult situations if there are people who really care, and see or know what is happening and help with the situation. This is of course, “Before depression sets in” Once it does of course it’s a different story !!!

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Yes many think its easy to say get out of it. But it is a, “Very Strong Force” it takes over you. It’s like a black mist that descends upon you from nowhere. For me it was not 24/7, but from time to time it used to raise its head up. There were times for days on end, I just couldn’t keep my head up, as if my neck had no strength. Where ever I went I used to put my head down and sleep. My head felt like a heavy stone. At one time I was about 30 kilos less than now, around 40 kilos, with hardly any appetite almost half of my weight. Now ? A bit over 😛 This is why I have posted my face, to see what I am now as proof, Happy Healthy and Smiling. I feel immensely Blessed 🙂

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When I think of these times, I shiver and its a wonder, a Miracle almost, how I got out of it. But I worked at it and still do. I become so overwhelmed with gratitude, and makes me to write. Those who have Not gone through a severe life crisis, cannot understand what it is to Bounce back and come back to your normal self. This is why I have Dedicated myself for service. “Pure service is Not expecting anything in return” Just by writing and giving my knowledge itself is a Joy. I cannot describe the satisfaction I get. Service is in my blood from generations. So much so I cannot mention anyone’s name. But this is, My knowledge from what I have gone through and what I am doing. My own venture, which I feel I am   Blessed to have got the opportunity to serve all people as much as possible 🙂

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You do need medication and counselling/therapy and what ever medical assistance to fight it. Just like all illnesses, mental or physical. But a major part of it is in your hands too. You need to work at it. You need to be persistent. If after 15 long years, I have defeated this force, “You Can too” We are all part of the universe and the universe gives us the Strength to be who we are. We need only to try ❤

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Thank you all for reading. I do hop you have found something new and useful or reminded or confirmed things you already knew. Its a very big relief to have written this and finished. As then “I have sort of Let Gone” that chapter. Been thinking of writing this for quite some time. Please do share or pass on for others who can make use of what I have written. It is useful as its first hand knowledge and tips. You can see me as I am now and I am living proof of overcoming depression and leading a completely normal life 🙂

God Bless and Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂