Hello to All My Dear Readers 🙂
Thanking everyone who read and follow, and especially seeing many of you have liked, gives me great satisfaction and encouragement to do better. This is sort of a continuation from the last article as I touched on rejection. Please excuse me for taking a little time in writing answers to some of your requests on, how to deal with it. I have to get into that mindset to write. Slowly my mind begin to fill up with ideas and then, suddenly I get this great need to write it, to free my mind of it. Its like baking a cake. Once done you have to take it out of the oven, and of course you can’t eat the article, but you can read and share 😛
For those of you who are reading for the first time, you have to know that what I am writing is, “Mostly my own first hand knowledge through my experiences gone/going through in life” and of course in my mind there is knowledge from far back as I can remember even as a child, books the internet and also what I absorb/observe from other peoples lives as well. We all know we do not nor cannot have all round knowledge and experiences in every aspect of life. And this is why we read and learn from others too, to expand our knowledge and learn to improve our lives there by, “Pass on to others, for their benefit” 🙂
Why I needed some time was, I was thinking exactly, “How to counteract rejection. As rejection is something we all face at all times in various ways and from various people and situations, right from the beginning of our lives from our childhood, not just from one person or once or twice” Also we know all these are challenges that, “All human beings go through at some stage or other in their lives”, as I have written again and again before too. Why ?
By overcoming difficulties we become stronger, so that we become stronger to face the challenges life throws at us, and learn to live a more happier and a better quality of life in Peace and Harmony ❤
So what does rejection do exactly ? Rejection affects us very badly. The pain you feel in your mind, is also felt by the body/physically. It has been shown scientifically that the regions of the brain activated in response to rejection are the same as those activated by physical pain. Rejection also has a negative impact on the immune system and destroys our sense of self-worth/self-esteem. And this leaves us insecure and with a diminished sense of belonging !!!
What do we do then ? First make sure/clarify that we have not misunderstood what ever maybe. Be it a person or a situation. If not then we need to find the antidote. What is that 😀
The antidote to rejection is, “Acceptance, Appreciation, Understanding, Caring and above all Love/Loving kindness” We need to find people and situations where these are found. But sometimes it may be you are alone or isolated. Or the exact times you want you cannot find such things/people. In that case we can do things on our own too, that we like, to make ourselves Happy. These can be anything according to each persons personality. In my case I love reading, listening to music, gardening, chakra dancing, colouring for relaxation/mindfulness, even house work as I love to keep a neat house and cooking for others. Doing things for others when you can, gives a very big satisfaction, “In giving you receive” Also for me writing all this ~ knowing so many of you read, appreciate and benefit 🙂
Even if you have others, having some, “Me time” is very important. It can be meditation, a relaxing bath, or just sitting in nature quietly to free you mind. When all what is going on in your life is in you head, it gets to a point where your mind gets, “Saturated ~ its like you have over eaten” This is called by the all famous name, “Stress” and you need some quiet time to relax – to detox your mind. Its just like clearing your house its, de-cluttering your mind !!!
Silence. The best treatment for stress. You don’t really need to meditate. The meaning of meditation is, being mindful all the time of what you are doing and saying. Some can really meditate and find peace. But if you sit in silence and relax your mind that is more than enough. Some even sit near the sea and watch the waves go up and down. When you mind relaxes the whole body slows down. Then you fall in line with the beat of The Universe/Mother Nature. As we are all part of her, why ?
What ever the colour, race or religion, in the end we all join her “Its Ashes to Ashes and Dust to Dust” If all people think of this the world will be a much better place to live isn’t it !!!
I hope you like what I have written and enjoy reading. I also hope you are learning useful things that will help you to live better and happier. Thank you for reading 🙂
Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to all ❤
Deepa Nilamani 🙂