Hello to All My Dear Readers ❤
Thanking everyone who read and follow, and especially seeing many of you have liked, gives me great satisfaction and encouragement to do better. This is sort of a continuation from the last article as I touched on rejection. Please excuse me for taking a little time in writing answers to some of your requests on, how to deal with it. I have to get into that mindset to write. Slowly my mind begin to fill up with ideas and then, suddenly I get this great need to write it, to free my mind of it. Its like baking a cake. Once done you have to take it out of the oven, and of course you can’t eat the article, but you can read and share and eat “The cake” 😛
For those of you who are reading for the first time, you have to know that what I am writing is, “Mostly my own first hand knowledge through my experiences gone/going through in life” and of course in my mind there is knowledge from far back as I can remember even as a child, books the internet and also what I absorb/observe from other peoples lives as well. “We all know we do not nor cannot have all round knowledge and experiences in every aspect of life. And this is why we read and learn from others too, to expand our knowledge and learn to improve our lives there by giving and sharing” ❤
Why I needed some time was, I was thinking exactly, “How to counteract rejection. As rejection is something we all face at certain times in various ways and from various people and situations, right from the beginning of our lives from our childhood, not just from one person or once or twice” Also we know all these are challenges that, “All human beings go through at some stage or other in their lives”, as I have written again and again before too. Why ? By overcoming difficulties we become stronger, so that we become stronger to face the challenges life throws at us, and learn to live a more happier and a better quality of life in Peace and Harmony ❤
So what does rejection do exactly ? What you feel in your mind, is also felt by the body/physically. It has been shown scientifically that the regions of the brain activated in response to rejection are the same as those activated by physical pain. Rejection also has a negative impact on the immune system and affects our sense of self-worth/self-esteem. And this leaves us insecure and with a diminished sense of belonging. What do we do then ? First make sure/clarify that we have not misunderstood what ever maybe. Be it a person or a situation. If not then we need to find the antidote. What is that 😀
The antidote to rejection is, “Acceptance, Appreciation, Understanding, Caring and above all Love/Loving kindness” We need to find people and situations where these are found. But sometimes it may be you are alone or isolated. Or the exact times you want, you cannot find such things/people. In that case we can do things on our own too, that we like, to make ourselves Happy. Even if you have others, having some, “Me time” is very important. Doing things for others when you can, gives a very big satisfaction, “In giving you receive” Also for me writing all this ~ knowing so many of you read, appreciate and benefit ❤
It’s Us that exactly know what “We need and Like, so We can do things for ourselves, To Take Care of ourselves even in small ways, to make us feel “Relaxed and Positive” These can be anything according to each persons personality. There are lot of things one can do, that agrees with what each one likes to do. Although people do not realize, even house work is therapeutic/helpful. I love to keep a neat house so I like house work, cook for myself 😛 and even for my family and others 🙂
It will sound surprising, but washing clothes and dishes is said to be Therapeutic/helpful. which I also do 🙂
I do a lot of reading, listening to soothing music, gardening, colouring also relaxes the mind ~ what I have posted below ~ we can find anything to colour. I have even bought children’s colouring books that anyone can colour, or those who can even paint and draw ❤
It can be meditation, a relaxing bath, or just sitting in nature quietly to free you mind. When all what is going on in your life is in you head, it gets to a point where your mind gets, “Saturated ~ its like you have over eaten” This is called by the all famous name, “Stress” and you need some quiet time to relax – to detox/clear, your mind. Its just like clearing your house its, de-cluttering your mind !!!
Silence. The best treatment for stress. Some can and do meditate very seriously. But if you sit in silence and relax your mind that is more than enough ❤
In ordinary life, you don’t really need to sit and meditate very seriously sitting for hours. Generally, what it means is “Being mindful all the time of what you are thinking, saying and doing “. Some do meditate very seriously. But if you sit in silence and relax your mind, that is more than enough, to calm the mind and find Peace ❤
You can walk around or sit in nature, even near water, rivers or even the sea and watch the waves go up and down. When you mind is at Peace, You become very Relaxed. Then you fall in line with the beat of “Mother Nature”. As we are all part of her. What ever the colour, race or religion, If all people think of this, “The world will be a much better place to live isn’t it” !!!
Latest Update 6th March 2020:Up to date with the Birthday article 111th and The Introductory page: Who I am & Why I am Writing! I have Published 112 posts on This Website. I am in Good Health and as, “I have been able to, “Receive Healing Energy in to My Hands” since “Beginning of 2016” I have become “Very Positive” I have to be isn’t it? It is not something that I can buy. All my Hard work and Praying has been rewarded. “Not only for me but” Healing Energy can go to others where ever it is needed to be received with a Loving Kindness” even You ❤
So “I am having to Edit and Update All The Posts from The Very Beginning” This is My Birthday and, “A New Chapter and A New Beginning”. I am Moving on. I have Learnt lot of New Things and Still Learning. Upgrading Myself to A New Wave Length ~ A New Chapter in My Life and I Wish so for You also. Please click this Link which will take You to The Birthday Post Birthday!❤
On Top Right Hand side you are able to see: The word “Menu” when you click on it, You will see will see The word “Home” Which is The Introductory Page about: Who I am & Why I am Writing!
And then “All the 112 posts from “The Beginning is shown”, under “Home”, also There will still be The older Topics “On The Left Hand side “Under ~ Recent Posts” with “The New Topics adding up” Happy Reading ❤
And what I have been doing is, “Taken the Therapists Voices with me and have been Moving forward Telling My Own Story in Helping Others to have “Faith, Hope and to Heal” and Lead a Life of Good Health, Happiness and Joy in this Post, and if You click on this Link in Green You can read this Post about: Who I am Now & Why I am Writing!
Please know that the coloured Topics in Green, if you “Click” on them “Will take you to My other different posts of Mine and Other’s websites also ~ which you will be able to find more information and even Pronunciation also”. I also have another website with “My own little Poems and Pictures of some of My Hobbies” if you are interested on seeing, “What else I am up to” 🙂 during my spare time you can have a look at :https://deepanilamani.com/ ❤
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I hope you like what I have written and enjoy reading. I also hope you are learning useful things that will help you to live better and happier. Lots of Love and Hugs from me ❤ ❤ ❤
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Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to all ❤
May God’s Blessings Be Upon You All ❤
Deepa Nilamani 🙂