Healing ~ Basic Steps!

Deepa 1Hello To All My Dear Readers ❤

I have written this article at the very beginning in, October 2015 and I see not many have read. Also there are requests to write the basic steps in detail. So I am writing it again with, “New experiences and knowledge I have gained over a a period of over 3 years” as today is: 14th February 2019 🙂

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This is a short article explaining about Trauma. When you experience deep sadness or grief, it is referred as Trauma. (a deeply distressing or disturbing experience) It can be physical too, then its to do with the body. (Psychological trauma is a type of damage to the mind that occurs as a result of a severely distressing event. Trauma is often the result of an overwhelming amount of stress that exceeds one’s ability to cope, or integrate the emotions involved with that experience. A traumatic event involves one’s experience, or repeating events of being overwhelmed that can be precipitated in weeks, years, or even decades as the person struggles to cope with the immediate circumstances, eventually leading to serious, long-term negative consequences ~ Courtesy Wikipedia!

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Why people get hurt or sad is, when they are criticized, put down, controlled or blamed continuously, and when they feel they don’t deserve it and it’s wrong and unfair. If they are guilty of any wrong doings, then deep in their hearts they know they have done it and they do deserve some of it. But when they feel they don’t deserve it, the insults, the harsh Words Words and Words ! affects one’s hearts and makes wounds that will be difficult and take a long time to heal!

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These are what stays on collecting inside you, weighing you down, making you feel miserable and low. So when too many things happen all at once, and then the last thing can be like what is said, ” The last straw that breaks the Camel’s back” that will finally push you over, which will lead to break downs. Break downs doesn’t happen if there is support, love and care around. But the thing is sometimes how ever much you have people around you, they may not know, nor will some really understand as to what you are going through. As usually it is difficult for so many to understand unless, “They have experienced themselves so sometimes sadly  it can be that, “The very ones who should be “Caring and supporting you, will be the ones who will (That Thing called Stress !!!) stress and be unhelpful for you to heal”!

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Its difficult to tell what to do in this situations as for each person the circumstances are different, as well as for each person the strength of the mind also is different. So anytime you do feel overly stressed and unable to handle them alone, and/or, if your low moods do not go away, please do go and see a doctor and get help. In some countries You are able to go to psychiatrist itself. In some countries, “You have to first go to a GP. Usually the method is to go to a GP “(general practitioner) ~ In the medical profession, a general practitioner (GP) is a medical doctor who treats acute and chronic illnesses and provides preventive care and health education to patients” ~ Courtesy of the I net!

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As that will avoid a long and unnecessary suffering to you and, to so many people, who depend on you too sometimes in your family. Above all your life is valuable and your health is a very important part of it. And you alone have to know where to draw the line and safe guard and take care of yourself. Its your life and you are the caretaker of Yourself no one else 🙂

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Whether it is mild or severe, pain is pain in different amounts. And when it comes to Healing from ~ Depression !, we have to let our feelings of stress out, meaning speak out and discuss with the counselors, doctors and therapists or who ever you are dealing with. Also you need to discuss with your closest, and that is your family members, as they are the people whom you come across almost daily, and the most important people that need to know what is going on with you, as otherwise they will not know how to support you ❤ ~ Healing ~ Trauma !

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I know sometimes how hard it is when you cannot get over the low mood. It seems to go on, but know that, “You can control enough and get over with, “Counselling and Psychotherapy ! and Medication”. I am writing like this is because “I have overcome Depression and Mood Disorder” over time with all this, and working on myself, with “Dedication over time with Patience”. It may seem a hard and difficult task when you feel down, but TRUST me if I have become better, so “Can You” But You need to “Be Strong and Kind and Patient with Yourself” You may or may not have help from your family and friends to support you, but understand again, “That those who have not gone through, are unable to fully understand how and what You feel, and You might feel not supported, “But you can try and explain yourself or even much better, “To get your doctor or your counsellor to explain to them. In the mean time have “Faith and Patience in Yourself ❤

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At the times You feel well enough, try and read self help books, or go through the Online Psychological Therapy ! I net to find answers and advice too from good sites. At times try to relax and even take a nap, if you don’t feel like doing anything, it may be you need to rest so give in and try to sleep. You will relax and feel better. I know there will be those who advice You with all good intentions, like doing a (Things We Love to Do!) Hobby. But When we cannot even think straight or eat properly, “How can one do a Hobby? You can if you already have one and/or feel up to it. “The important thing is to find something that you will, “Really Like to Do” ❤

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It can be drawing, painting, even housework or cooking your favourite dish, or anything that will distract you and make you, “Look forward in Doing”. Or it can be simple as, (We Each have Our Own Path!)” Just sitting and looking out of the window at the sky to see how the clouds go by and the birds fly or how the moon comes up and the stars”. Know and follow what works best for You ❤

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I have now realized that with medical help of counselling and medication, and on our part if we work hard on becoming well with, “Dedication, Persistence and Perseverance”, We can make progress in getting over most of the effects of trauma and, “Ultimately learn to put back the past and lead a happy life”. Why don’t you try it too ❤ I wish you so and have Strength and Patience to do so ❤

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Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to You ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

You are Stronger than You Think!

Deepa 1Hello To My Dear Readers ❤

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I have thought of some posts to life your mood anytime you need a little boost ❤

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This is a Beautiful video about, “Hope” please do watch it, and the Music is Beautiful and uplifting too ❤

I Hope all these will Be Helpful at times when you feel alone and/or when your feel a little dim. Trust me, if you can listen to some uplifting music, (as doing other things might too much for you, at certain times). it really helps, it does for me. If you can listen a little loud all the better 😛 but of course it might be you have to listen through the headphones, not to disturb the others, I do Love Music and when I am listening I listen through the headphones, if you like to dance or do some movements even better 😛 As dancing relaxes you and get all the Happy Hormones to work This is a Beautiful video I was sent by a friend and now I am passing on for those who will like and to pass it on for your friends and Loved ones for them to feel Good too ❤

Always Remember You Matter and Keep Going The World Needs You 🙂 ❤

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You must know that, You need not be very beautiful, rich or famous, just as you are, “You are a Valuable Human Being” ❤

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Thank You for reading. I hope you will give out your own views? You may share/or pass it on for others benefit too. Those who like poetry may check on my personal website:https://deepanilamani.com/ ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to You ❤

Thanking the I net for the posts I have taken ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

My Life Up To Now – January 2018!

Deepa 1Hello To All My Dear Readers ❤

Although my story was going to come out at a later date with other news, how things are happening in my life right now, “I have received guidance to write it now and here”!
I have come a long way from being ill, and why I started this blog with many supporting me, is to help others with what I have learnt along the way. Although we rely on medication and the doctors, a very big part is in our hands, as the doctors do not live with us, they have their own life too! They see us only for a short time, and it is we who know what is going on with us in daily life, and what will work best for us. The whole world knows, how serious mental issues are, the sad part is not only those who are ignorant but there are people who, “Knowingly hurt and disturb those who are gone or going through issues” After going through such an ordeal I have raised my head up, being kind and helpful to so many, now “I have to face destructive, negative beings who are trying to use everything possible to disturb and upset me”!

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I do not know how many of you face this kind of situation? To come across those who have no feelings and, “Take joy in destroying and upsetting others”? There are many reasons for people to become mentally ill. This is through long term stress and trauma, also injustice and all kinds of abuse as well as disasters from mother nature. There are those who give their hand when people fall, unfortunately there are some who try to push you down further, as what I have been facing for some time!

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In the world there are all sorts of people. The kind and soft, the wicked and harsh. The fact is wickedness is a result of an evil mind, which produces evil thoughts and words. Thoughts are energy and evil thoughts produce a very strong negative force that begins to act against the normal way the body works. The body begins to make toxins, instead of good chemicals. “A toxin is a poisonous substance produced within living cells or organisms. It simply means, “It is a biologically produced poison” This poison begins to eat up the body from the inside and until it comes out as diseases that cannot be detected, and then it is too late. It is like the, “Termites, eating away – destroying another will destroy oneself” Even when it is happening sadly some cannot stop their wickedness!

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Healing is, physical, mental, emotional and spiritual all together. How I have healed is giving attention to all of these. And now well on the way on my spiritual path, and I have advanced myself on it. In order to achieve the higher knowledge you need to free up your mind. The material world is full of greed and unrest. You cannot balance your chakra’s and develop the third eye if you hang on to things. What ever I have not been given, held back I have let gone, and actually they are nothing once you gain the higher knowledge, as once you achieve it, you receive things that money cannot buy. It is true that we need money, but money is only needed to pay for the essentials. There are many things that money cannot buy, like “Good Health”, and illnesses money cannot cure. “The biggest Wealth is Health” And I have achieved that health. “I have been pushed right to the bottom through *Wickedness*, and I have Bounced back – Through meditation and prayers. I am able to, “Receive energy from The Universe and no one can take it away as it is a, “Gift from God”. I have gained it through, “Sheer hard work, Dedication and Sacrifice” ~ (Which comes down the Generations, from My Great Grand Father and Grand Father for which I am very Thankful and Grateful, as all this time I have kept silent. As I am not known personally to clear any doubts This is the Link that You may check their details are there:https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/G._P._Wickramarachchi)
I am No more a Survivor but “I Have Survived and ready to Guide others with Blessings from “Almighty God, The Higher Powers, The Universe” ❤

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If ever you come across situations like this, having to face selfish and cruel people, who ill treat you and try to disturb your life, know that, there is always help from above. It is said that, “When all else fail people turn to religion” This is true as when there is nothing else to do, we sit and pray and ask for divine intervention. And know that you will get it. Justice will always come. You must NEVER LOOSE HOPE. As long as you are in the right, you will get help in the way of strength and guidance in knowing how to go about your life. Always have Hope and Faith also Patience until life turns in your favour. It will ❤

Today I was especially guided for some reason, as I did not intend writing this article, and I am Grateful to Almighty God, The Higher Powers and The Universe for the guidance. I am Blessed ❤

Thank you for reading, and take inspiration and also I hope you learnt something new. You may share or pass it on with those who can make use of what I have written ❤

Thanking for the picture quotes taken from the I net and the sites ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

End of A Very Long Journey !

Deepa 1Hello To All My Dear Readers 🙂

First of all let me wish All My Dear Readers A Very Happy New Year 🙂

Thank you all for coming to my blog and liking and supporting me. When you read and appreciate, I feel what I write help in some way that I am encouraged to do more and better. Since I wrote my last article there has been questions as to how I managed to recover from depression, and what I did. So this includes answers to some of those questions and some may be what I have written before, but then as time goes they are with added knowledge and experiences!!!
I waited a little as the mind takes a very long time to clear out of all Trauma you went through, to be able to start to remember exactly what happened to you, that over stressed you and made you mentally ill. One can compare the mind to a muddy glass of water clearing up, as the mud particles settles down, the mind too start to clear to be settled enough to write your story!!!

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Until you really clear your mind, that is to say until you get over most of the pain, you sort of need to keep away from the places and people who upset you. This is not to say close the door and stay in the room or isolate yourself, but at this time if you have a lot of time for yourself to rest and think clearly without others disturbing your thought pattern you can get back in to your own way of doing things much quicker. Just like covering a physical wound, we need to safe guard our minds too from outside disturbances until it becomes well!!!

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Why you need a good environment is, in the silence you hear yourself. You are really able to understand what works best to you to feel happy and relaxed !

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You also need to let go of people and situations that keeps on digging at your heart and hurting and making you sad. I know we cannot just pack a bag and leave. What I mean is if you cannot move away physically, you need to start letting go/detaching yourself from all that mentally. When you detach yourself from the mind, automatically you are able to have less disturbance from those that hurt you !

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I have been writing that in life, challenges come for us to face them get over them and become stronger and move on to the next level. The reason why we get hurt and upset is, “We take what happens extremely personally, thinking they happen only to us” But each person crosses our path for a reason. They all carry some message, good or bad. I know we being ordinary human beings, its difficult to face extreme harsh and cruel things that happens to our lives. But, a very big but, “somehow if we take them as messengers that crosses our path” we are better able to handle the situations in a much better way. There is no one in the world who has Not gone through any kind of pain or hardship. One thing I have to say is, many think that mental conditions happen through relationships only. But it can be anything. Major events that mother earth throws at us like, volcanoes, floods and earth quakes where people lose family, friends, houses and money, also failing exams, losing jobs all contribute to becoming very ill!!!

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Once you realize this, everything begin to fall into place and you see a pattern that has been happening, and you begin to heal slowly but surely 🙂

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Once you begin to heal you don’t want to be wasting time talking about all the negative things that happened to you in the past. Its how it happened to me. I felt I had lost so much time and I started catching up. I did two short courses. The first one on, Personal Development from which I learnt so much about people’s behaviors and how to face them. The second one on, Natural Health and Healing that I expanded my knowledge about healing the natural way. Now on going, “A Diploma in Psychology which has opened my eyes in a very different light and discovering so much about the human mind. I have to say its the best thing that happened to me” So all of them boosted my inner growth and turned me around and brought back that confidence and strength in me. I can say I have bounced back stronger. We all have to keep on trying. If we try hard enough, “We all can make progress well enough to lead a good life” 🙂

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Once we take our lives in to our hands and do what makes us happy, then our soul comes alive again and then we have healed. Yes you need medical help. That you definitely have to have and medications what has to help you. But there is a very big part in your hands, as its you who is always with you and knows exactly what is happening. Everyone can help, But ultimately, Healing is in the hands of the person who is unwell 🙂

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It has been a very long journey, and finally I have healed myself from my mental pains. You need to educate yourself so as to become wise. The sixth sense, also called the third eye helps you to know how life works. Through all that you, Find the “Truth” The answers to why certain things happened to you and around you. But you don’t need to run after those who have hurt and harmed you. You have wasted enough time. You forgive not for the other person, but yourself, and move on with your life. “Punishment comes to those who do wrong, not once, But over and over again, knowing that they are doing the wrong thing” ***Human beings have no excuse as they have so much of education and guidance from the day they are born to help them lead good lives***Human life is so valuable and it’s a pity that some think its only they need to live well and to hurt and harm others. Still that is life, and we need to learn our lessons and move on. The beauty of it is, “As survivors we become, “Better and stronger people to give a helping hand to others to stand up”. There by our lives becomes Peaceful and Blessed. Things that money cannot buy!!!

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I hope everyone who reads will at least find one answer to their questions, and learnt something new to help you. If you know of others who might benefit from what I have written, Please do share or pass it on. Thank you for reading ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me ❤

Thanking for the pictures taken from the I net ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You All ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

Tests in Life !

Deepa 1Hello To All My Dear Readers 🙂

I hope all of you are keeping well and happy. I was going to continue on the subject of depression, but something else turned up that detoured me from writing. It was to give a helping hand to someone who needed some encouragement to build up her confidence as she had many health issues. As we all know that disease is both body and mind and very often, its the mind that makes the body sick. But its not all who see it this way!

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I was trying to enlighten her with books and quotes and pictures, but she simple refused to listen to what I was saying and sticking to her age old habits and beliefs, which were exactly what was filling her body and mind with negativity and resulting her having so many illnesses. We can all learn from every one. Even here on the I net, the blogs what we are doing is sharing our knowledge and experiences for others to learn and, we are all learning new things at the same time. When people think they know everything then you cannot make them to learn. Usually its the, “Ego” that stands in between!!!

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In life there are those who do new things, or take a different paths than others, and sometimes these people are looked upon as different or even odd. So in this incident, even I was looked upon as odd. Those who do not read or upgrade their knowledge in this fast moving world, fall behind. Its also very necessary to keep your body and mind both moving,  for good health. It has proven scientifically that those who are active physically and keep their minds going are healthier, live longer and alert even in their old ages 🙂

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All these are scientific proof to show, how much the mind can help, control how our bodies can work. What powers it has to combat stress and help in healing. From the experience although I got confused to a certain extent, I got back into my reading and confirmed that I am Not odd Lol 😛 And I have taken it as a positive experience to feel it was a test of faith in my knowledge and even of myself. And by finding information to write this article too it has helped to confirm that I am correct in what I write and say and also to restore my confidence in myself again. Also to show those of you who are reading, that in life we face many challenges/tests to overcome and become stronger to go to that next level up to move on further in life 🙂

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So always remember when you come across difficulties that they come as tests, and Not think why this is happening ? Why me ? As always there is a reason for everything that happens in life. If you look in a positive way and have faith then its easier to deal with what life throws at you from time to time in testing you, how strong you are ❤

dim-8I hope you like what I have written and learn something new or confirmed what you already know. Please pass on or share for those who can make use of this too ❤

Thank you for reading. Many Blessings of Love and Light from me ❤

Thanking for the posts taken from the I net ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

Inner Guidance !

Deepa 1Hello to All My Dear Readers ❤

Hope all my readers are keeping well and happy. This is a topic I never thought of writing until a few days back. Life is such that suddenly there are changes. But I was expecting major changed as this month is very special. There are two months of the year that are very special in my family, meaning almost all close family birthdays are on these two months of the year. There are many mysteries in life, and these are signs to show that people are meant to cross each other’s path or even come together as family or friends. Even here on the blogs see how many of us connect, although from completely different cultures, age groups, and countries we find we have so many common interests and issues that we share. So this month is special and, “Today is a very special day as its birthday of my grandfather, the person that I believe I have the most inner guidance from. He was highly educated, very wise and and down right simple and honourable. He did not work for money, he never wanted any publicity and dedicated his whole life for the country and its people”. Giving and sharing is inborn in me, and it is in my families, coming down the generations. I believe I have got influenced by many people, but seeing what he and my grand mother were doing, as a child itself I too wanted to do service, although at that time I was really unaware what sort of service I was going to do. So “I Dedicate this article for my grandparents and all the others who also did service in their own ways and, who influenced and showed me the value of pure service” ❤

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When it comes to, “Inner Guidance” we have to look within. We cannot always ask others. They do not understand our own path. It is we who have to find our own answers. In my case I meditate and turn to prayers. And last night after intense praying, these are what my eye went to, and I have taken all of them as guidance 🙂

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You can take however you believe as no one speaks to us in the form of a voice, and answers come as messages through other people, animals and many other ways, that we also call them as co-incidences too. Only you have to believe in something. For some it’s “Almighty God, for some it’s The Universe, Higher Powers, Angles and then for some it can be the Spirits of those who have left mother earth”. For me, “I respect all forms and I keep an open mind for what ever that comes through to me” ❤

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When we make changes or take different turns, we are not exactly sure if we are doing the right thing. Inner guidance is, “Very subtle” But you feel, you have that sixth sense or the instinct that something is not really right at some point. These are the times, I really turn to prayers and pray very hard, until I feel I am being heard and also I do feel that I am shown the way 🙂

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Its not easy if you have to rely on yourself alone, to inner guidance all the time. As we are human, sometimes we tend to doubt and become impatient too when things don’t move as we like or when things go wrong. These are times that we do need the support of others, like family or friends. As human beings we are Not born to be or live alone. Although I like my own company and like a lot of time for myself ~ this is because I do a lot of reading and writing so need a lot of peacefulness around me. But when I need I do have people to ask and support me too. Just like most of the animals, we also move around with groups ❤

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The road in life is not always smooth. This is because we need challenges to grow. There are bumps, pits, bends and many other obstacles along the way. But all these are lessons to learn grow and move forward in to higher grounds to live better and happier 🙂

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But I keep walking along, “My Path” and how I know, as only I have walked along it and only I know what it is. I look for, “Inner Guidance” as that is the only source that knows more than me and where I am going and only source that can guide me 🙂

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Everything in life works according to a certain pattern. We need to know this and act accordingly. Its, “The Laws of The Universe” Its only then we are able to make full use of our talents and gifts. We are all born with some sort of Talent or Gift. And its up to us to use that gift for ourselves and for the others benefit. Its only then we have done our duty to the world, mother earth, to The Universe. That is our purpose, as human beings who have been given the privilege to walk on mother earth and enjoy all what she gives us. As human beings, Its our Duty to Serve All our brothers and sisters honestly and with dedication” Only then will we be Blessed in this world and where ever we are going when we leave, to be in Peace 🙂

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I hope you liked reading what I have written, and learnt something new? We are always learning from each other and until the very end. Knowledge is the only thing that gives us wisdom to open our inner eye and find the truth. Which brings us Peace. Isn’t that we all want in the end ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to All ❤

Thanking The I net for the posts shared ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

How To Change Your Luck !

Hello To All My Dear Readers 🙂

Hope all of you enjoy reading my articles. What exactly is Luck ? Luck is to take charge of your actions into your hands. We have to work hard to become successful. Many consider doing well, having money, being successful is to be Lucky. But is it just something called Luck ?

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Sometimes when we are unable to do well in life and when we lose we feel we are unlucky. Then we have to look at how we are going about in our day to day life. Our studies, our jobs, our homes what ever that we are involved in. If we are not doing well that means we are not doing something right and we have to make changes, meaning changes, improvements for the better 🙂

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Be it what ever you call it, Fate, Destiny or Luck we are all given talents, gifts, abilities and disabilities the almost the same way. Of course as always there are exceptions. And its up to us to make use of them as best as possible to become successful in life !!!

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“How we make use of them, Determines Our Luck” !!!

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The more we work towards changing our luck, the more we take charge of our lives.  And we become positive, we feel good about ourselves and get less angry. We become secure and strong. This leads to a healthier life 🙂

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Making changes for the better, makes you feel better and you begin to like yourself better. When you begin to like yourself and feel positive you begin to do more and more things in better ways and life improves. Starting with small changes leads to bigger changes. And suddenly Life has changed for the better. That means, “You have Changed Your Luck” 😀

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Hope all of you like what I have written, and will make those changes to make your life better and change your Luck. I wish You All The Very Best. Thank you for reading 🙂

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me to you ❤

Thanking for the Picture Quotes from the I net ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂