Healing ~ Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder!

Hello My Dear Readers, here I am again 🙂

I have been wanting to write here, but some unforeseen issues developed and I was thrown off track. Life is such that you don’t know what suddenly lands on you. If its something good then its fantastic. But if its not so then its trouble especially for those who are very sensitive and are having mental issues. So this is why its important to continue your medication as long as you have to. So I thought I will enlighten some of you on this topic, and yet again this is how I will want to read, as when you are stressed you don’t and cant read too much of information. I have been pushed back into remembering certain things, that wont go away. This is the problem with mental illness. As until you get disturbed or shaken up, you don’t know what is hiding in your mind. Its just not always what people do, but mother nature also play havoc at times and they become traumatic events that leaves you highly stressed. Losing your possessions, loved ones or to have to face fear, sadness or pain!!!
Post-traumatic disorder happens, when something triggers you. “Trigger is anything that sets you off emotionally and activates your memories of your trauma. They are specific to each person how and what they have gone through” And you begin to re-experience these events that you have seen or experienced before. Each person goes through different experiences and each persons ability to deal with them differs according to their personality, their strengths ❤

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I am not having nightmares. But certain memories which had been buried has come out again and they are trying to push past my current state of mind. I am stable and doing everything quite well. But I am unable to concentrate on my studies, which is very annoying as I have been doing so with a lot of enthusiasm and energy. I have been battling with it from about four months, and was getting over when I was shaken again. But everything happens for a good reason, as I have not gone to the psychiatrist for almost one and a half years, I have thought of getting some counselling again. As each time you get shaken up you find out things about yourself and you need to make changes in order they do not happen again 🙂
Outside forces, people can disturb us. But then its only ourselves who have to battle it out and come out. So we need to set boundaries, in order to safeguard ourselves. Its not easy to come out of it once it sets in. With my own experiences I am saying that you need to go to a psychologist or a psychiatrist for help. And also keep up with your current medication if you are taking any. And look after your health, and try to keep to your normal routine as much as possible 🙂

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Actually although I wanted to come and write here, I was having nausea and drowsiness as well. But thankfully they are getting less. Still I have not gone to the psychiatrist. So I will be updating all of you, after the visit, and it will be interesting to follow my progress. And I will have to make a genuine effort as I have to write positive things here, about my becoming well isn’t it 🙂

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This post will make you remember all about PTSD. As its difficult to silence the mind once its disturbed and the thoughts that keep on coming, restricts the body or us going about the usual ways and doing things in life. This is why anyone has to be very careful with their words and even dealing with others. As we don’t know what another person is going through although they are smiling from outside!!!

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Thank you for reading. Follow my journey. In a way it will be very beneficial to all those who make use of what I write, as you are observing first hand what is going on with me and how I am managing and over coming. And I will 🙂

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Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me ❤

May God’s Blessing  Be Upon You ❤

Deepa 1Deepa Nilamani 🙂

 

Healing ~ Trauma !

Hello To My Dear Readers 🙂

This is a short article about Trauma. When you experience deep sadness or grief, it is referred as Trauma. (a deeply distressing or disturbing experience) It can be physical too, then its to do with the body. (Psychological trauma is a type of damage to the mind that occurs as a result of a severely distressing event. Trauma is often the result of an overwhelming amount of stress that exceeds one’s ability to cope, or integrate the emotions involved with that experience. A traumatic event involves one’s experience, or repeating events of being overwhelmed that can be precipitated in weeks, years, or even decades as the person struggles to cope with the immediate circumstances, eventually leading to serious, long-term negative consequences ~ Wikipedia)
Whether it is mild or severe, pain is pain in different amounts. And when it comes to healing, we have to let our feelings of distress out, meaning speak out and discuss with the counselors, doctors and therapists or who ever you are dealing with. Also you need to discuss with your closest, and that is your family members, as they are the people whom you come across almost daily, and the most important people that need to know what is going on with you, as otherwise they will not know how to support you !!!

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Why people get hurt or sad is, when they are criticized, put down, controlled or blamed continuously, and when they feel they don’t deserve it and it’s wrong and unfair. If they are guilty of any wrong doings, then deep in their hearts they know they have done it and they do deserve some of it. But when they feel they don’t deserve it, the insults, the harsh words go in like a knife through ones hearts and makes wounds that will be difficult and take a very long time to heal. These are what stays on collecting inside you, weighing you down, making you feel miserable and low, which will lead to break downs. Break downs doesn’t happen if there is support, love and care around. But the thing is sometimes how ever much you have people around you, they may not know, nor will some really understand as to what you are going through. Or sometimes, sadly  it can be that, the very ones who should be “Caring and supporting you, will be the ones who will stress and be unhelpful for you to heal!

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So when too many things happen all at once, and then the last thing can be like what is said, ” The last straw that breaks the Camel’s back” that will finally push you over. Its difficult to tell what to do in this situations as for each person the circumstances are different, as well as for each person the strength of the mind also is different. So anytime you do feel overly stressed and unable to handle them alone, please do go and see a doctor and get help. As that will avoid a long and unnecessary suffering to you and to so many people around you, who depend on you too sometimes in your family. Above all your life is valuable and your health is a very important part of it. And you alone have to know where to draw the line and safe guard and take care of yourself. Its your life and you are the caretaker of yourself no one else 🙂

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This is why Love is so important in healing. As long after you keep on hearing those harsh and cruel words said to you. Some can say forget but its only those who have gone through know this. If they can they will forget and live happily. Who will want to lead a sad life ? No one. As we are all born to live well and happy. Other than natural disasters like floods, earth quakes and things we cannot control, the stress and trauma that people go through because of what others say and do to them, is what breaks them. It takes a very long time to lessen the painful, harsh and cruel things said or done to them. And true the medical personnel and medication all has to be there. But the most important facts are,  Kindness, Caring and Love as all living creatures need to be loved and cared for. All those hurt feelings are softened by some one or some people being kind and caring to you. Its just like when you fall and hurt yourself and someone comes and talks to you kindly or helps you to get up, already you feel ok !!!

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In time some memories do fade and the pain and the sadness gets less. But if its not taken out and seen to, they do stay inside. You think you are out of it or healed, but the moment something happens to upset you, you realize that there are some memories that are deep inside that needs to be taken care of. We cannot see what is in the mind, and we ourselves are not aware until someone upsets us and the whole things spills out like Pandora’s box. Healing takes a, “Very Long Time” It depends on how much you have gone through and how the people around you care, love and support you. Many can help you but ultimately its the person itself who can and has to heal themselves. Becoming well is only part of healing. Now I have come out of depression, over one year ago, and staying out of it 🙂

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We need to all work on it with all available resources, and leave the rest up to Time, God or the Powers above which ever who ever you believe in. As its not all and everything that we can do alone and fully, and at the exact times we want them to happen !!!

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P.S: Now this is 26th May 2018 and I have edited this article, which was originally written 2 years ago. Since then, I have healed from depression and my bipolar/mood disorder has gone into remission. That means I have got over most of the effects of trauma. I have now realized that with medical help of counselling and medication, and on our part if we work hard on becoming well with dedication and perseverance we can make progress in getting over most of the effects of trauma and ultimately learn to put back the past and lead a happy life. Why don’t you try it too 🙂 I wish you so and have strength and patience to do so ❤

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Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me ❤

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Deepa 1Deepa Nilamani 🙂

Welcome To My World !

Hello To All My Dear Readers. 🙂

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I started this blog to spread the message on mental wellness. We all go through some form of difficulties in Life. And I too have gone through mine. Due to the ups and downs I went through one after the other, suddenly the last incident pushed me to a state that, I happen to go through depression. For almost fifteen years I went through depression as well as bipolar disorder from time to time. Since December 2013 I was cleared from counselling, being said that I had come back to normal by my psychiatrist. A word I never expected to have heard in my entire life. Suddenly the clouds had moved away, and out came the sun. The world opened up to me 🙂
Knowing what it is be depressed, and because of the stigma attached to it, many do not want to go for treatment, making it worse and even ending their valuable lives. Getting out of long term depression is like a miracle. There were so many who asked how and also my doctor encouraged me to write, for the benefit of others. The reason I started this blog is, I want to show the world that depression can be overcome and even Bipolar disorder can be controlled well enough to lead a normal life. And being mentally ill is no different to being physically ill. As mind and body are together. Mental illness also can be cured or controlled and they also can be normal as everyone to live in Dignity and Respect with everyone else in the world 🙂
I am studying psychology ~ counselling and psychotherapy, at the moment to give back even more knowledge and experiences to those of you read my Blog. “But make note that, this is not exactly professional counselling”, but this is, mainly “My Journey on how I overcame depression and mood disorder ~ as an Update I am also writing on other Topics of Life Health and Healing too” I hope all those reading my blog will learn something new, or remember what you already know. And make use of them to lead a better and happier life 🙂

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20th May 2018: This is my latest update. It’s almost three years since I wrote this, and today I am able to tell that, I am Still going strong. Completely recovered and living free from depression. “I will be updating some of the old articles with my new knowledge and added experiences and also for the benefit of those who are new to the blog”, as well as to confirm that it is possible to overcome and become completely well too. Now that my mood is even more uplifted, my choice of colours and posts have changed too accordingly. My eye goes to new pictures that resonate with how I am feeling now that I am feeling very much more Positive than when I was feeling unwell.. It does happen. “Know that it is Possible ~ You too can come out into the light and live Happily” 🙂

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So this is my other website: https://deepanilamani.com/home/
I have started this as relaxation since some time back, which is more of the poems that I have started to write. Please do have a look into it, to see what I am up to and if some of you like what I post ❤

Thank You for coming in to my website and looking up. I hope you enjoyed reading and find new information from my journey as well as “Encouragement, Inspiration and Hope”. This is my main intention to make you the readers feel More Positive and to have that feeling you also can reach up and make ‘Yourselves Better and Happier” 🙂

“It is all free”. You can “Down load ~ Take print outs” “share and/or pass it on also” for others who can benefit from this article and the posts. Any questions or comments are most welcome. I hope All those Read will be able to make the maximum use of all these facts and make, “Your Lives More Healthy and able to Lead Better lives in Happiness and Peace”. I wish it to be so.”Peace which is our Ultimate Goal in Life” ❤ ❤ ❤

14th April 2019 Update: I keeping in Very Good Health and also The Good News is “I have also been able to, “Develop Healing Energy in to My Hands” since “Beginning of 2016” ~ which I have also added as an update in: Who am I and Why I am Writing !

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Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to You ❤

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May God’s Blessings be upon You ❤

Deepa 1Deepa Nilamani 🙂