Taking Care of Me!

Hello To, All My Readers, Blogging Friends and Followers ❤

Hope All of You are keeping in Good Health as much as possible. “Keeping yourself Positive and Motivated as Best as possible. I have been writing about Various ways to be able to Lead a Good Life”. Today I am writing a post about, “Taking Care of Oneself” which is a very Valuable Lesson to each one of us, in order to be able to Lead a good life”!

Work can make us feel good about ourselves and give us a sense of purpose; it’s an important way to help us to protect and improve our mental health and wellbeing. However, sometimes work and life stress can negatively affect our health. Mental health is not fixed or static. We can move back and forth along this at different times during our lives. To cope with the stresses of work and overcome life’s daily challenges, it is important we stay as mentally well as possible. This can help us better overcome challenges, build healthy relationships and work more productively. 

Stress is part of everyday life, and it is not always a problem. A little bit of stress – like the stress you feel during a job interview – can sometimes help you perform better. It is usually temporary and can help you to focus and do your best under pressure. Workplace stress is something we all experience, whether it’s in the form of heavy workloads, or just workplace culture, it can all contribute to us feeling pressured at work. Like stress in general, when workplace stress starts to become intense, comes from multiple sources, or is drawn out for long periods of time, it can increase risks to physical and mental health or cause an existing condition to making it more!

It’s important to recognize that mental health can be affected in multiple ways. While there is stress relating to our work environments that need to be managed, we must also remember to monitor the stresses in our personal life as well.  Learning to identify when you’re stressed – so that you can avoid or manage stressful situations – is an important way to stay well. Everyone is different, with different roles – at home and at work – and there is no single best approach to staying mentally well, but there are several things you can do every day to improve your wellbeing. The points in each of the four segments of this ‘Taking care of yourself and staying well’ section can all contribute to getting the balance right, so you continue to contribute to your work role and nurture your career and allow time for important people and interests in your personal life.

Now you have to know why I chose this Topic. It is because I have been Donating and Giving so much of My Money, Energy and Time, it came to a Point I felt, I was Not Getting Back hardly anything or even Gratitude and feel rather a bit sad! So, I did look at all what I have been doing in the past and, “Decided that I have to Look after myself first as No one is able to Know what is important to me, and they go about doing things that they want not so much aware of the person, that is Me!

1st October 2022. See how hard I am working for You All. It’s 6.36 in the Morning. And I just finished and how I am at home in my room. Only now I will catch up with some sleep and rest. I took of myself as there is no one to take a photo 😛

I hope You learnt something new or remembered things You already knew. As usual I referred many books magazines and the I net for extra knowledge and picture posts to Make you better informed 🙂

I am in Good Health and as, “I have been able to, “Receive Healing Energy into My Hands since “Beginning of 2016”” Maximum Healing Energy can go to others too, and wherever it is needed to be received with a Clear Mind and Lot of Loving Kindness ❤

Latest Update: 1st October 2022. This is “The 203rd Post” and with the “Introductory Page this will be all in Total up to date, 204 posts. On Top Right-Hand side, you are able to see: The word “Menu” when you click on it, you will see the word “Home” All the posts from “The Very Beginning comes ~ Under “Home”. Which is The Introductory Page about: Who I am & Why I am Writing!

As always, it is all free”. You can share and pass it on also for others who can benefit from this post. I hope All those who Read will be able to make the maximum use of all these facts and make, “Your Lives More Healthy and able to Lead Better lives in Happiness and Peace”. I wish it to be so as,” Peace which is our Ultimate Goal in Life ❤

Thanking, “The I net for the Websites I have taken the Information” the “Picture quotes I have shared” and to https://www.online-image-editor.com/ for the Quotes I have done Myself ❤

Sending Love, Light and Healing Energies to All ❤

May God’s Blessn’s Be Upon You<3

Deepa Nilamani ❤

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Therapy ~ Being Strong!

Hello To All My Readers, Followers and Blogging Friends ❤

I hope as usual all of you are keeping in Good Health as much as possible. Now that I have started My Mission, “Working towards Mental Wellness openly, I have pasted Stickers on my Little Car also 🙂

After writing about “I Care” I am writing about Being Strong, I have written an article some time back, You are Stronger than You Think! These are “The latest pens I have got to” Distribute Free with the Website Cards ❤

With so much happening with “The current Health issue” Not only of Mental Wellness” But all around I thought going further and “Encouraging and Motivating To Be Stronger Is Very Important” They have come out Beautifully. All of you can down load the pictures “Its only the pens I cannot give”!

From Time to Time there can be There are lots of changes and challenges around our lives. See the present “Health Issues” There are forces around that we can deal with, but then without facing them with Strength, Sometimes, “We allow them to influence our lives too much”! This is because we have not realized how Strong our minds are. So by believing that these will be able to make our lives successful or unsuccessful, we “Allow them to Control our lives instead of us taking the upper hand and become the Masters and become Independent of all these forces that try to influence us”!

Any time something like this happens, “you need to discuss with your closest, and that is your family members, as they are the people whom you come across almost daily, and the most important people that need to know what is going on with you, as otherwise they will not know how to support you. The thing is sometimes how ever much you have people around you, they may not know, nor will some really understand what you are going through. Or sometimes  it can be that, the very ones who should be “Caring and supporting you will get upset themselves and might be not able to help you to heal”. At these times see if you can find “A Friend, even an outsider who Understand” You and “Now You can reach me on the I net ❤

Know That, “It MATTERS to ME that YOU become “Well and I CARE” ❤ and it “Hurts me to Feel that you feel hurt or sad”. I know how it hurts when people are unkind or cruel. And sometimes things do not work the way you want. “DO NOT GIVE UP IN ANYWAY” or try to do things that will harm your Health in anyway. Know that You can Heal. It is in this post: Healing ~ Taking Full Responsibility !

“Be Strong” and some how “HOLD ON” and “TALK” to someone who can be Kind and Listen To You. You Know that although I don’t know you personally, as I have developed, “My Third Eye”. My senses are VERY STRONG and I might FEEL that someone is in NEED and Healing Energy can Travel to You ❤
Thoughts can Travel Long Distance and also “HEALING ENERGY” which is, The “GIFT that I have got by “Working Very Hard for Years, Giving, Sharing and Praying Very Hard with Dedication and Sacrifice: “Prayer energy which also can be called Healing Energy” can travel far and wide to distant places too. If You click this link You can go to another of My Posts Explaining about Energy. Its not possible to cover everything in one post as well it can be too much to Read Understand and Take in: Energy Healing!

Counselling is Not just for people who have a problem. It can be for, “Advice for some studies or a job or any other personal matter to get the “Best Advice Possible from those who are Qualified and have Better Knowledge and Understanding”!

I Hope all these will Be Helpful at times when your feel You need some Strength . Because, “Think this way” ❤

Trust me, if you can listen to some uplifting music, (as doing other things might too much for you, at certain times). it really helps, it does for me ❤

If you can listen a little loud all the better, but of course it might be you have to listen through the headphones, not to disturb the others, I do Love Music and when I am listening I listen through the headphones, if you like to dance or do some movements even sitting and watching can Help to Relax and Distract ❤

Latest Update: 1st March 2022. This is “The 177th Post” and with the “Introductory Page this will be all in Total up to date, 178th posts. On Top Right Hand side you are able to see: The word “Menu” when you click on it, You will see will see The word “Home” All the posts from “The Very Beginning comes ~ Under “Home”. Which is The Introductory Page about: Who I am & Why I am Writing!

I am in Good Health and as, “I have been able to, “Receive Healing Energy in to My Hands” since “Beginning of 2016” All my Hard work and Praying has been rewarded. Healing Energy can go to others too, and where ever it is needed to be received with a Clear Mind and Lot of Loving Kindness.

Note: There is a change: The Topics from The very beginning up to 152 is, Posts That Has Been Published ~ 1! and “The 2nd Lot is being added to the: Posts That Has Been Published ~ 2!

Also: “On The Left Hand side “Under the, “Recent Posts” with “The New Topics adding up. “It will be too long to post so many number of posts on the side. You can also “Click and see all The older Topics” Under “Archives and Categories”. Make Note: “Archives” and “Meta” Which has been repeated, some change of format at the moment and I am unable to change!

I am Moving on as usual with “My Own Journey of Wellness, Encouraging and Healing” So that Everyone can have “Faith, Hope and to Heal” To Lead a Better Life of Good Health, Happiness and Joy”. If you click on the Link You can Read This Post: The Therapists Voice Forward!

The Topics in Green, if you “Click” on them “Will take you to My other different posts which you will be able to find more information and even Pronunciation”. I have another website with “My own little Poems and Pictures of some of My Hobbies” if you are interested on seeing, “What else I am doing” during my spare time you can have a look at :https://deepanilamani.com/

As always, It is all free”. You can share and pass it on also for others who can benefit from this post. I hope All those who Read will be able to make the maximum use of all these facts and make, “Your Lives More Healthy and able to Lead Better lives in Happiness and Peace”. I wish it to be so as, ”Peace which is our Ultimate Goal in Life ❤

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Latest Update Congrats! I am My Path! is getting noticed. 328 other websites have started receiving updates. Well websites are adding up even more than the “E mail followers. I don’t know how, “But it is really “Encouraging me and Making me feel “Fully satisfied and worth the expense, Effort and Time I put in, that more people are interested in what I write and post as, “I am Not aware most who is reading exactly (unless someone comment underneath) or who are these Readers and from which Country even”!

Thanking https://www.vistaprint.com.au/ for the “Website cards Stickers and Pens” I have got done, https://www.online-image-editor.com/ for the picture Quotes I have done through it ❤

Sending Love, Light and Healing Energies to All ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa Nilamani ❤


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Resilience ~ Revised!

Hello To All My Readers, Followers an Blogging Friends ❤

I Hope All of You are in Good Health as usual, and “Keeping yourself Positive and Motivated as Best as possible in these trying times” I am so Fortunate to have come across this Book, “Roadmap To Resilience”, and so Lucky to be able to download it free from the Doctors Website 🙂

Roadmap to Resilience
Donald Meichenbaum, Ph.D.

In this time of a world-wide pandemic, it is important to keep in mind the high level of resilience that individuals, families and communities evidence. In order to support and bolster such resilience, I am making my book “Roadmap To Resilience” available for “FREE” to help individuals cope with ongoing adversities and losses.

Topics include ways to:

  1. Handle intense emotions (fear, anxiety, depression, loneliness, boredom, anger, grief, guilt, and shame). Specific suggestions on ways NOT to let these emotions overwhelm you are included. How to name and tame your emotions; how to accept, tolerate, control and share your feelings are discussed. How not to allow your feelings “hijack” your resourcefulness and undermine your resilience is included. LEARN HOW TO TALK BACK TO YOUR AMYGDALA — your lower emotional brain and learn how to sleep better.
  2. Access help from others and ways “to give, to get.”
  3. Develop and deliberately practice resilience-engendering behaviors such as relaxation, meditation, yoga, exercise, gratitude, forgiveness, meaning-making activities, use humor, group support, your religion and faith, Internet resources, etc.. LEARN HOW OTHER FOLKS HAVE USED POSITIVE COPING STRATEGIES.
  4. Ways to cope with the coronavirus  is included in an ADDENDUM.  Read “Resilient  Voices”

    In this time of a world-wide pandemic, it is important to keep in mind the high level of resilience that individuals, families and communities evidence. In order to support and bolster such resilience, I am making my book ROADMAP TO RESILIENCE available for FREE to help individuals cope with ongoing adversities and losses.

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We have to be Thankful and Grateful To Dr: – Donald Meichenbaum, Ph.D. for this Book and The Post!

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The fact is I have done so many Topics The Doctor has mentioned in Detail from “The very Beginning for over 6 years from: 2015 up to now 2022″! You will be able to check in Posts That Has Been Published ~ 1! and Posts That Has Been Published ~ 2!. Also in Both, ” Roadmap To Resilience Appendix A! and Roadmap To Resilience Appendix B!

Latest Update: 13th of January 2022. This is “The 171th Post” and with the “Introductory Page this will be all in Total up to date, 172 posts. On Top Right Hand side you are able to see: The word “Menu” when you click on it, You will see will see The word “Home” All the posts from “The Very Beginning comes ~ Under “Home”. Which is The Introductory Page about: Who I am & Why I am Writing!

I am also getting Congratulated. From “WordPress”. Well I have been working Very Hard even through the nights also to Bring out The Best Possible Posts 🙂
🎉 Congrats! I am My Path is getting noticed. 320 websites have started receiving updates 🙂

I am in Good Health and as, “I have been able to, “Receive Healing Energy in to My Hands” since “Beginning of 2016” All my Hard work and Praying has been rewarded. Healing Energy can go to others too, and where ever it is needed to be received with a Clear Mind and Lot of Loving Kindness ❤

The old Topics are, “On The Left Hand side “Under the, “Recent Posts” with “The New Topics adding up. “It will be too long to post so many number of posts on the side. You can “Click and see all The older Topics” Under “Archives and Categories”. Make Note: “Archives” and “Meta” Which has been repeated, some change of format at the moment and I am unable to change ❤

I am Moving on as usual with “My Own Journey of Wellness, Encouraging and Healing” So that Everyone can have “Faith, Hope and to Heal” To Lead a Better Life of Good Health, Happiness and Joy”. If you click on the Link You can Read This Post: The Therapists Voice Forward!

The Topics in Green, if you “Click” on them “Will take you to My other different posts which you will be able to find more information and even Pronunciation”. I have another website with “My own little Poems and Pictures of some of My Hobbies” if you are interested on seeing, “What else I am doing” during my spare time you can have a look at :https://deepanilamani.com/ 

As always, It is all free”. You can share and pass it on also for others who can benefit from this post. I hope All those who Read will be able to make the maximum use of all these facts and make, “Your Lives More Healthy and able to Lead Better lives in Happiness and Peace”. I wish it to be so as, ”Peace which is our Ultimate Goal in Life ❤

Thanking the Internet for the Doctors Picture and His Website which “The Book was Posted” and My being able to down load it Free ❤

Sending Love, Light and Healing Energies to All ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa Nilamani ❤

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Roadmap To Resilience~Appendix A!

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I Hope All of You are in Good Health, and “Keeping yourself Positive and Motivated as Best as possible in these trying times”. I have come across this “Book and His Advice ~ How To stay Healthy”. This is the 2nd part in Continuation:

Roadmap to Resilience
Donald Meichenbaum, Ph.D.

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This full post below is from Dr. – Donald Meichenbaum, Ph.D. I am sharing from his site. The rest is as usual which I write after my posts. The update


APPENDIX A:

Resilience Checklist: My Personal Resilience Plan: Creating a Vision of the Future

In each of the following fitness areas, identify the specific things you plan to do in order to improve your level of resilience. The number refers to the Action Plan # for each item, followed by a link to the page. Check-off those that you wish to focus on. How much confidence do you have that you will be able to follow through on each resilience-bolstering behavior?

Physical Fitness

#1. Take care of my body.
#2. Exercise regularly.
#3. Get quality sleep.
#4. Eat healthy.
#5. Avoid mood-altering drugs or overuse of alcohol.
#6. Use healthy coping procedures—engage nature.
#7. Avoid high-risk dangerous behaviors.
#8. Other examples of ways I can keep physically fit.

Interpersonal Fitness

#9. Recognize that deployment changes everyone and that readjustment takes time.
#10. Reconnect with social supports.
#11. Lean on others and seek and accept help.
#12. Give back and help others. Share my “islands of competence” with others.
#13. Participate in a social network.
#14. Share my emotions with someone I trust.
#15. How To: Improve Communication Skills
#16. How To: Be a Good Social Problem-solver
#17. How To: Improve my Conflict Management Skills
#18. How To: Nurture My Relationship with my partner or spouse
#19. Overcome barriers to seeking help.
#20. Use community resources such as websites, telephone hotlines.
#21. Use my cultural or ethnic traditions, rituals and identity as a support aide.
#22. Find a role model or mentor.
#23. Be proud of the mission that I served with my “Band of Brothers/Sisters.”
#24. Use pets to maintain and develop relationships and as a way to manage moods.
#25. Other examples of ways to develop and use relationships.

Emotional Fitness

Ways to Increase Positive Emotions

#26. Cultivate positive emotions (use hobbies and pleasurable activities).
#27. Make a “bucket list” of emotional uplifting activities and then just do it!
#28. Show “grit”—ability to pursue with determination long-term goals (“Choose hard right over easy wrong.”).
#29. Use positive humor.
#30. Express gratitude.

Ways To Regulate Negative Emotions

#31. Use “opposite actions” to cope with intense emotions.
#32. Give myself permission to experience and share emotions (feel sad, cry, grieve, become angry).
#33. Face my fears.
#34. Engage in constructive grieving (memorialize and honor those who have been lost).
#35. Share my story and the “rest of my story” of what led me to survive (share lessons learned).
#36. Handle and overcome my “emotional pain” that comes with feelings of being disconnected.
#37. Journal—use “writing cure.”
#38. Use creative and expressive activities to work through my feelings.
#39. Enjoy the benefits of self-disclosure.
#40. Re-story my life and share evidence of my resilience.
#41. How To: Use Relaxation and Mindfulness Skills
#42. Change my self-talk.
#43. Engage in non-negative thinking and become more stress-hardy
#44. Other examples of ways to improve my emotional fitness.

Thinking Fitness

#45. Be psychologically flexible.
#46. Use constructive thinking and consider alternative solutions/pathways.
#47. Establish achievable goals.
#48. Establish realistic expectations.
#49. Look at things differently.
#50. Use hope to achieve goals.
#51. Be realistically optimistic and goal-directed.
#52. Bolster a sense of self-confidence and self-efficacy.
#53. Engage in benefit-finding (“Search for the silver lining.”).
#54. Engage in benefit-remembering.
#55. Engage in downward comparison (consider those less fortunate).
#56. Go on a “meaning making mission.” List and share positive military experiences with others.
#57. Engage in altruistic (helping) behaviors.
#58. Engage in “pass forward” and move toward “post-traumatic growth.”
#59. Consider the lessons learned that I can share with others.
#60. Be mindful, “mentalize” and stay in the present.
#61. Associate with people who share my positive values in life and help me re-author my story.
#62. Use my “Change Talk”, the language of “hope” and “becoming,” and my RE-verbs.
#63. Avoid debilitating guilt and shame reactions.
#64. Avoid “thinking traps.”
#65. Nurture a positive view of myself, others and the future.
#66. Create a “healing story.”
#67. Other examples of ways to improve my thinking fitness.

Behavioral Fitness

#68. Develop safe regular routines.
#69. Stay calm under pressure. Keep my cool.
#70. Prepare for possible high-risk situations.
#71. Break tasks into doable subtasks.
#72. Avoid avoidance and accept, tolerate, confront and experience past traumatic events. Get unstuck from the past.
#73. Improve my “people-picking” skills. Avoid people, places and things that get me into trouble.
#74. Take a “news holiday.”
#75. Co-exist with my difficult memories and use positive emotions to undo negative memories.
#76. Self-disclose to a trusted person.
#77. Join a social group that gives my life a sense of purpose.
#78. Establish a “new normal.” Renegotiate my role and responsibilities.
#79. Adopt a “can do” attitude.
#80. Read to find comfort.
#81. Gather information (visit websites).
#82. Avoid making things “worse.”
#83. Continue my “journey of healing” and view setbacks as “learning opportunities.”
#84. Use my “action plans” and “backup plans.”
#85. Other examples of ways to improve my behavioral fitness.

Spiritual Fitness

#86. Use positive religious/spiritual ways of coping.
#87. Avoid using negative religious/spiritual ways of coping.
#88. Rekindle hope.
#89. Visit the chaplain or some other clergy person for assistance.
#90. Use some form of spiritual/religious/devotional activities.
#91. Participate in a spiritual and religious group.
#92. Engage in spiritual/religious rituals.
#93. Engage in commemorative services.
#94. Forgive others and forgive oneself.
#95. Use “self-compassion” and “loving-kindness” meditations toward others and toward oneself.
#96. Use my spiritual/religious beliefs and traditions to find comfort and peace of mind.
#97. Share the spiritual lessons learned from my trauma experiences and deployment.
#98. Address my “moral injuries” and “soul wounds.”
#99. Reset my “moral compass” and refocus on my core values and attitudes that I brought home from my deployment (H-SLIDER).
#100. Recognize life is short and commit to living each moment fully and enter a stage of “generativity”—give to future generations.
#101. Other examples of ways to improve my spiritual fitness.

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You have to Thank Dr: – Donald Meichenbaum, Ph.D. for this post.

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Latest Update: 8th of January 2022. This is “The 169th Post” and with the “Introductory Page this will be all in Total up to date, 170 posts. On Top Right-Hand side, you are able to see: The word “Menu” when you click on it, you will see the word “Home” All the posts from “The Very Beginning comes ~ Under “Home”. Which is The Introductory Page about: Who I am & Why I am Writing!

I am in Good Health and as, “I have been able to, “Receive Healing Energy in to My Hands” since “Beginning of 2016” All my Hard work and Praying has been rewarded. Healing Energy can go to others too, and where ever it is needed to be received with a Clear Mind and Lot of Loving Kindness

The old Topics are, “On The Left Hand side “Under the, “Recent Posts” with “The New Topics adding up. “It will be too long to post so many number of posts on the side. You can “Click and see all The older Topics” Under “Archives and Categories”. Make Note: “Archives” and “Meta” Which has been repeated, some change of format at the moment and I am unable to change ❤

I am Moving on as usual with “My Own Journey of Wellness, Encouraging and Healing” So that Everyone can have “Faith, Hope and to Heal” To Lead a Better Life of Good Health, Happiness and Joy”. If you click on the Link You can Read This Post: The Therapists Voice Forward!

The Topics in Green, if you “Click” on them “Will take you to My other different posts which you will be able to find more information and even Pronunciation”. I have another website with “My own little Poems and Pictures of some of My Hobbies” if you are interested on seeing, “What else I am doing” during my spare time you can have a look at :https://deepanilamani.com/  🙂

It is all free”. You can share and pass it on also for others who can benefit from this post. I hope All those who Read will be able to make the maximum use of all these facts and make, “Your Lives More Healthy and able to Lead Better lives in Happiness and Peace”. I wish it to be so as, ”Peace which is our Ultimate Goal in Life ❤

Sending Love, Light and Healing Energies to All ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa Nilamani ❤

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