Freedom To Be You!

Hello To All My Dear Readers ❤

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Today I am writing about, “A Very Important Topic ~ It is about Freedom” It is based on how people try to Manipulate some of us. “The secret of freedom is courage. This verse about Behaviour, is one which I greatly believe from ~ Erich Seligmann Fromm!

Erich Fromm 2Erich Seligmann Fromm (March 23, 1900 – March 18, 1980) was a German-born American social psychologist,   psychoanalystsociologisthumanistic philosopher. Fromm believed that freedom was an aspect of human nature that we either embrace or escape. He observed that embracing our freedom of will was healthy, whereas escaping freedom through the use of escape mechanisms was the root of psychological conflicts. Fromm outlined three of the most common escape mechanisms: automaton conformity, authoritarianism, and destructiveness. Automaton conformity is changing one’s ideal self to conform to a perception of society’s preferred type of personality, losing one’s true self in the process. Automaton conformity displaces the burden of choice from self to society. Authoritarianism is giving control of oneself to another. By submitting one’s freedom to someone else, this act removes the freedom of choice almost entirely. Lastly, destructiveness is any process which attempts to eliminate others or the world as a whole, all to escape freedom ~ Courtesy of https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erich_Fromm!

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Behaviour – “If other people do not understand our behaviour what can we do. We behave according to our personalities”.
Their request that, “We must only do what they understand, is an attempt to, ‘Dictate’ as mostly they ‘Resent’ our ‘Freedom’ and our ‘Courage’ to be ourselves.
We owe nobody an explanation or an accounting, as long as, ‘Our acts Do Not Hurt or Infringe them’.
How many lives have been ‘Ruined’ by this need to explain, which usually implies that the explanation be, ‘Understood’ i.e. Approved.
“Let Your Deeds be Judged”. And, ‘From Your Deeds ~ Your real Intentions’
But know that, “A Free Person Owes an Explanation Only to Himself/Herself” And to,’The Few’ “Who may have Justified Claim for Explanation” ~Erich Fromm.

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As human beings, “Freedom is Very Important. In fact it is to, “All Living beings” including the animal kingdom” We are all born with, “A Unique Personality to each other and we all have that need to Behave, to Act and overall Live according to how our personality is”. As I wrote before, “We have the Right to Live freely” how we want, as long as we do not do the wrong things that is harmful to ourselves or to others!

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When we are restricted or prevented is, “The time we feel,”Stressed” That Thing called Stress !!!and if it is how we have to live, Long term it’s through because of this Stress we become unwell/sick”. As human beings, “We are lucky that we can learn from others, read and so much of resources to learn ~ How best we can go about to Live according to our personalities/ our ways of doing thing in life ~ how we like to do things” This is by educating ourselves ❤

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So we can Learn so many things ourselves as, “We are the only people who know exactly what and how we want to act and do things, to be relaxed, comfortable and at ease, as “The term Dis-ease simply means lack of ease or harmony within the body” ~ The I net! So to be in Harmony within the body, “Just be You” ❤

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I hope you like what I wrote and learnt something new, or remembered things you already knew. I know it is sometimes not easy, but have Courage and try as much as do things for you to be relaxed and Happy ❤

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Thank You for reading. I hope you will give out your own views too? You may share/or pass it on for others benefit so that they also can learn from what I have written. Those who like poetry may check on my personal website:https://deepanilamani.com/ ❤

Thanking https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wikipedia, The I net for the posts I have taken ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to You ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa 1Deepa Nilamani 🙂

 

End The Stigma ~ Discrimination Stops with You!

Hello To My Dear Readers ❤

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I hope you all enjoyed reading the first two articles on the chakras Chakra Healing!. I am taking a break and writing on a very important topic which is about the, “Stigma in Mental Health” The reason I thought of writing this topic is, now after almost 5 years since it was declared that, “I have come back to normal”, there are some who are still trying to classify me as unwell. The disappointing fact is, this is to do with some people whom I thought knew me very well, these people seems not to have, “Any sort of experiences, knowledge and are clueless about mental health to know that, “I have come so far in attaining knowledge not only on mental health and also on other matters in life. And now that, “I am mentally healthy and also a motivator” I cannot understand how some can see me otherwise!

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I have written before too, that millions world over are going through depression Healing from ~ Depression ! and other mental health problems. And the world Health Organisation has stated that depression Healing ~ Desire To Heal ! will be the biggest cause of health burden by 2030!

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In Australia alone, one in seven experience major depression Courage to Heal ~ Depression ! in their life time. But 70% of them will not seek treatment. One of the main reasons for this is the stigma. This is actually common almost world over. But why does it have to be different from being physically sick?

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When there are so many who support and work towards improving mental health and acknowledge mental illness are also, just like physical illnesses, there are some others even highly educated, who are foolish enough to be ignorant of what mental illnesses are. And this is what is causing the stigma and preventing people seeking medical help to get themselves better!

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There are so many who suffer from various physical illnesses. They do get better and overcome them, even cancer goes into remission and then they go about as normal human beings. Then Why? when the mind becomes ill and becomes well and/or goes into remission they can never get over the label as mentally ill? Mind Power of the Mind ! is also part of the body, it is not outside floating somewhere! Why cannot people as human beings with good brain power cannot think of this?

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As someone who has completely overcome, why I am writing The Power of Hand Writing! is, to do my duty even in a small way, in standing up for those who are going through their own problems. As, if as many as those who can speak out on behalf of the people who are in need of support and enlighten the society, the world what mental issues are, the world will be a better place with more healthy and happy people 🙂

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Are you ready to support? To stand up? Or are you one of those who try to push and see others fall? But the fact is, we are all connected. All of us are energy and one goes down it affects all the others like the ripples in the water. Why is it that some are unable to support others and see them rise up? As, “We Rise by Lifting Others” Are you Ready to support to, “Stop the Stigma”? We are all soul brothers and sisters. One family that belongs to each other!

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Always Remember that, “Mind is also part of the physical body and It also has, “THE RIGHT TO BE UNWELL SOMETIMES” IT’S OK to BE NOT OK ~ sometimes” Read This Article too ❤  https://iammypath.com/2019/02/08/you-are-stronger-than-you-think/

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Thank you for reading. I hope you enjoyed reading and, learnt something new or remembered somethings you already knew. You may share or/and pass it on for others who can make use of it ❤

Those who like poetry may check on my personal website to read up my little poems: https://deepanilamani.com/ ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me ❤

Thanking for the pictures quotes from the I net ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa 1Deepa Nilamani 🙂

Rise Above The Storm!

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Hello To All My Dear Readers ❤

I welcome all the new bloggers, followers and readers with happiness, and a big thank you for the old and the new readers. We are growing and I am glad that so many are finding what I write useful. Most of all it gives me great pleasure in giving out my knowledge and experiences for the benefit of others welfare ❤
Its over one year since a wicked soul robbed some of my confidential documents and some other sentimental things, to confuse and upset me, knowing what my mental condition was. Against all odds I have completely overcome the situation and bounced back even stronger. I was told by my doctor that it was a good test to see how I could cope, and how strong I have become mentally, which is a great leap forward. Yes to have gone through that storm, has certainly given me more confidence and further strengthened me 🙂

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We all know in life, things keep on changing and we need to adapt and change with the current situations. Each change is a challenge, a test that comes for us to overcome to go to the next level. You can take these tests as how ever you believe in, by Almighty God, The Higher powers or The Universe. All living beings even the trees and what ever in nature, the whole environment goes through these changes. Our survival depends on, “How successfully we face and adapt to these changes” 🙂

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Once we have overcome these challenges, the curve balls life throws at us, we find we have come out as a different people, than before, with more strength and resilience to face even stronger challenges that come our way ❤

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When life hits you hard, when you face the storms and tornadoes that come upon you, that is when you need to be most calm. Take a step back, study the situation, stay strong, stay grounded and then you are able to know exactly how to tackle the challenges and tests that come as wild weathers of destructive storms and the tornadoes. As in life there are some things, that we can only learn during a storm!

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I hope you liked what I have read and found something useful to make use of your stormy times. Please share and pass on to others who can make use of the article. Thank you for reading ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me ❤

Thanking for the posts Taken from The I net ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa 1Deepa Nilamani 🙂

 

Gratitude ~ In Healing !

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Hello To All My Dear Readers ❤

The topic Gratitude is quite a long overdue topic that I meant to write, but somehow the time never came, and going through some of the articles on other blogs, I thought now is the correct time to write about it 🙂
Learning about Gratitude go far back as 2005 from Sri-Lanka. I am a avid reader and as usual when I was looking for books, I came across this book called, “Taking Care of Me” in the self-help section. It was at the time of my depression, and it was a habit to find books to help myself in whatever I could. There was an e mail address by the author in this book and I happen to send her an e mail, that started a process of being coached free through e mails then, as well as a long standing friendship up to now. So below is the book and this article is in, Gratitude to my coach and friend, “The Gratitude Guru M.K.Mueller 🙂

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There is much to the meaning of Gratitude. How I was trained was to, write 5 Gratitudes daily and, gradually I was looking for new things that I am Grateful to write, and without my knowledge my mind was slowly changing to a positive way of thinking. So that was a very big step, in lifting myself from depression. You can start by whatever things you are Grateful for but it has to be new ones everyday. Below is something of an example ❤

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Writing or journaling is the best way to put your mind into order. “Journaling for Mental Health. … Now it’s called journaling. It’s simply writing down your thoughts and feelings to understand them more clearly. And if you struggle with stress, depression, or anxiety, keeping a journal can help you gain control of your emotions and improve your mental health” ~ The I net !!!

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Writing Gratitudes completely changes your attitude towards how you look and see things in life. There is much to explain and I will be covering them in articles following this. For those of you who are keen there is another book also called, “8 To Great” which MK Mueller has made me a trainer of it. In your case, you can either write on your own at home, or do it among family members or even through e mails with friends. That makes you to do it everyday. This is MK and the other book which is also a very good book that has helped me a lot ❤

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This is not advertising but this is in thankfulness and to show that help comes from completely unknown and surprising ways too. The coaching and training I was given has gone a long way in helping me overcome depression. And what I am writing here also is what I have learnt through that. It is after 12 years that I am writing in Gratitude to her ! In 2005 when I was down did I think that today I will be writing on my blog of my recovery ? Life can change the next day. You too can lift yourself up but, you have to work and be persistent. You need to be strong, take courage and have patience. Life can change for the better and you can come out into the Light 🙂

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Hope you have enjoyed reading and learnt something new from what I have written. It is very late almost 3 am in the morning in Brisbane !!! There will be more coming about Gratitude. Until then Good Night and God Bless from me ❤

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Thanking for the Quotes that I have taken from the I net ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa 1Deepa Nilamani 🙂

Why Do some people Try to Spoil other’s Lives for No Reason ?

Hello To All My Dear Readers ❤

Hope all of you are doing well and being Happy. I am quite Happy, as the Blog is growing and, more and more readers are joining, seen and unseen no matter as long as its being read and being helped in some way. In my case I get so much of satisfaction in writing, it helps me to put my thoughts in order as well as give out my views and to relax after I do my studying. Do comment and questions are always welcome. It keeps the Blog alive and interesting when so many bring out their way of looking at life 🙂
Well here I am trying to figure out why some people are always trying to stand across your progress, spoil your friendships/relationships, and maybe even studies and job opportunities, in short come in between and and try to mess other’s lives even if you have done Nothing wrong to them !!! When I wanted to write on this topic I cam across them as, “Toxic People” Going through certain events that has and is happening around me, now I have realized that they are indeed, “The Toxic People” who put in their poison arrows and try to spoil others lives !!!

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What is the real reason that these people become, “Toxic” to others. It need not be that they are poor or struggling in life but, it is because they have, “The wrong Values in Life” Its true that we all need that green stuff called money to pay our bills and buy things to eat and live. But some make Money the Priority and thereby, “Lose their value as human beings” Money can be earned but, ” Can you make or buy a Human Life” !!! Money, material things are to be used to, “Live as Dignified Human Beings” Instead these people, “Lose their humanness and Dignity” by becoming slaves to those pieces of paper. Actually these people do not realise that being, “Toxic to others, they become Toxic to themselves ~ “Wrong thinking brings about, “Negative Vibrations and Acids in the body” that “eat up the cells instead of making them” and many chronic illnesses comes up, that these green pieces called money is unable to Heal” !!!

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From what I have been observing, I have also realized that these toxic people, “Have No clue what so ever in, The Laws of the Universe, anything to do with any kind of religion, prayers or what is really Good or Bad” In short, “They do not have any Ethics, Dignity or Morals” Naturally they are not at peace or have any kind of real Happiness in their lives” So those who know the real values of life and live according to them, “Are they to blame for other’s unhappiness” ?

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In life, in religions generally we are always told about dealing what ever the wrong doings of others with “Loving Kindness”. To forgive and to show understanding. But the fact is, with some people, “They mistake your Kindness for Weakness” This topic is often debated even on Face Book and by many people. I will write a article itself on this later on. The more tolerant and patient you are the more attacks are being landed on one. “My being an exceptionally Tolerant and Patient to others unkindness, I have personal experiences on this issue, and that is why I am able to write. What is the solution ? Are they as ignorant and naïve as they show ? No !
It is not that these people are Not aware. They know exactly where to hit, whatever their reasons are, mind you they always have a reason, an excuse !!!

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In life there is, “Good and Bad” and so people also come under this category. Its the people that makes a society. And in this society we come across all these types of Good and Bad people. How ever much good one is, someone will find something wrong. In History we find so many good people being harmed, even killed trying to spread Goodness and Peace to the people. So who are we ? Most of us are ordinary human beings, going about doing ordinary things in our way without harming anyone else. Still we can be targeted for unkindness and cruelty. I really cannot see reason for this, other than these people’s minds needs correcting to discipline their behaviour. But we cannot change others, the society or the world. We can only change and adjust ourselves 🙂

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Actually I have come to this stage. Although initially I do get thrown back, when suddenly I face a challenge I never expected. But I soon realise, and pray for guidance and answers, I get them, in time and I am able to move on stronger and better. I have faced a challenge soon after my birthday last month and my prayers were answered and now just in a month I am back on my feet and moving on. Saying that, it does not mean there are no more challenges. Every time you pass a test/challenge, the next one is on as long as we live. That is how life is, it is not what/how we choose There is no straight road for anything !!!

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If you look at things this way. “The Toxic people are those who brings us messages that brings us pain and sadness. Causes us to trip and fall. The Kind/Good people are those who Help and pull us up. Its like Angels and Devils 😛 We as people need both these kinds of people to grow in every way. If and when we know how to manage theses two kinds of people, that is the time we have matured enough or become wise enough, to weave our way through most of the obstacles in life with much less stress or difficulty. And then I believe, “We would have earned the right and also able to spend the rest of our lives, in Dignity, Happiness and Peace. What do you think ? This is me at this stage of my life 🙂

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Thank you all for reading. I hope you found something new or remembered something you had forgotten, that helped or inspired you in some way. Questions and comments are welcome. This is my other Blog of poetry for those who are interested in poetry to have a look: https://deepanilamani.com

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me to All of You ❤

Thanking for the Quotes I have taken from the I net ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa 1Deepa Nilamani 🙂