Hello To My Dear Readers 🙂

This is about what happens when we come to an end of one chapter of our journey of becoming well. When we come to a certain ending of our healing, we get the need to clear up and wrap up any unfinished tasks. These can be when others have taken our responsibilities or duties, when we have not been well enough to do ourselves. No one exactly need to tell us, but this is a sign that one has come back to normal state of mind, and it automatically sets in!
It is also about clearing any misunderstanding of us been avoiding or keeping away, from some people or places. It can also be that during the times of confusion, we may have acted or reacted which may have hurt or offended some. This happens mainly with those who have issues with mood disorder. Very often these are not serious offenses, but it is mainly when we have been unwell, and have not been active in mixing up with people we need to clear up certain issues before getting back in to life again 🙂
In short we are taking control of our lives again to carry on with what we need to do, in our own time and in our own ways. This is very important as it is only when we are able to lead our lives independently, that our minds become active and we get energised and our brains begin to function properly that in turn helps the process of healing to improve even more. When you begin to feel better, try and start doing the little things and then you are able to move on to the bigger tasks gradually. As at some time we all need to get back on to living the normal life and the quicker we get into it the better 🙂

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Hope you enjoyed reading what I have written and learnt something new or remembered something you already knew. Please do pass it or or share with those who can make use of it. Thank You for reading ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies ❤

Here is my other blog of poetry for those of you who like poems:https://deepanilamani.com/2017/12/02/as-you-sleep/

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

Hello To All My Dear Readers 🙂

Hope all of you are well. I have not been here for a while, as I have been busy writing some other articles. So I am sorry I have not been visiting some of your blogs too. I am re-writing this article as so many have missed the old articles. We are all aware in life everyday is not the same. We keep on changing and moving ahead. Even if we do not want to change, we do grow older by the day and changes happen physically and mentally, as well as the whole environment changes around us. That is the norm of life. With that there comes challenges over and over again for us to learn how to face and overcome them, to become stronger and wiser to move on in life to the next level 🙂

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Once you have overcome a challenge or challenges, you need to learn from them and organize yourself, to make sure the same things do not cause problems again. For this you need to, “Let Go” of the things and people that do not work for you anymore. Letting go usually, does not mean taking a bag and going away as so many posts show. As in life you cannot leave those who are dependent on you and walk off just like that. What it means mostly is, “Letting go from the Mind” and changing and adjusting to those people and situations that you have to live in, to fit in better 🙂

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Letting Go is a process. As in life from the moment we are born we are Letting Go isn’t it? First of all we let go of the womb that we grew for 9 months and entered the, seems like harsh world with a bang. From that time on wards, everything that we were born with, our hair, skin keeps on shedding and being renewed without our knowledge. Letting go is a, “Natural Process for us to, “Let Go” of the unwanted/old and move on to new that works for us” Its just like discarding our clothes that become too small for us as we grow on to our next size. Not only us it happens to animals too. Like reptiles, they too shed their whole length of outer skin from time to time. The eagle sheds all its feathers and even the beak after 40 years to renews it self for another 30 years. Then why is this, Letting Go become such a painful process ?

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This is when, “We are Forced to Let Go”, “Before we are ready” Just like pulling our hair or teeth before time. In Nature, there is always, a Time for everything. When we have to, or Forced to give up anything or people before we are ready only, it becomes painful” So there is always a, “Time to Let Go” if not it is difficult and painful. But sometimes so happens in life, whether we like or not we do have to let go as we need to move on and holding on doesn’t help. And once you accept life becomes much easier and pleasant. As you have less people and things to trouble you unnecessarily!!!

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Then how to make life a little easier for us, living in this complicated world? Well the most important word comes in, which is, “To be prepared to Let Go” when we know our work is done, and we are no more needed. Hard? Yes, but it is reality. When people have outgrown you, means they have changed their vibrations, hence their personality and their whole energy system. So they no longer able to sometimes live under the same roof with the same people, doing the same things like they used to. All that belongs to another era. Which is called by the name,”The Past” Letting Go if it is for our own good is difficult, but sometimes we have to, and once we do the relief is great. By letting go of the past you make room for the new to come in your life that will ultimately lead you to new places and people whom you fit in better and belong with, to lead a much happier, satisfying and fulfilled life 🙂

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Hope you enjoyed reading what I have written, and learnt something to help in your life or even someone else’s life. Knowledge is like ripples that travels over and across lands and seas all over the world bringing everyone closer to share and learn from each other. This is a wonderful video about the change that the eagle goes through. It is for us to learn how change and letting go helps us to move on to a better level in life. Enjoy 🙂

Thank you all for reading. You can share and pass on to those who can benefit from what has been written here ❤

This is my other blog where I write little poems for those who enjoy poetry:https://deepanilamani.com/

Thanking for the picture quotes from the I net ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

 

Hello To All My Dear Reader 🙂

I am re-doing some of the posts and this is exactly from 2 years ago. Looking back its an amazing, the journey I have come so far, in healing myself and advancing my knowledge, working, studying and going about in life as a, “Complete normal human being” Actually I am a much stronger and knowledgeable product now as a result of all the experiences I had experienced through the journey. This is because I made a concentrated effort in becoming well, making use of all the help I could get and above all, myself working towards healing 🙂

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Why I am writing like this is for those of you who are reading to have “Hope and Faith” and to Believe in becoming well in time, with medication, counselling and/or psychotherapy. It is possible to control and send the dragon back into its cave where it came from. In other words it goes into remission as it happens with so many other physical illnesses too. In becoming well, I have the opportunity in enlightening/guiding others who are in need of, I should say “Hope” to know that you also have that chance, the ability to, become well and lead a life of Happiness and Joy that you deserve ❤

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Depression is being very sad long term, and known as darkness because, if you are depressed, you do not see the colours of life. Meaning your eye tend to move on to dark and gloomy things even the clothes you wear and choose, tend to be dull and grey. Just like when its a rainy day and the sky is dark and all around you is gloomy. Also you lack energy, become lethargic, lack of appetite, sleep, at the same time drowsiness, and feeling of dullness in general towards living. These are what I have experienced, if you want more information you can refer books and the I net. At the same time the moment you get well, its just like the sun has come out and you see the world in all its glory. You become energized and full of enthusiasm to get on with life. Which I am now. So I know both the darkness and the light. Strange as, “Deepa” my name given according to my birth time means, “Light” Light has two meanings. The physical light, as well as, enlightening in knowledge. So somehow years ago, according to my birth time this was the suitable name which was given by a very wise person. It’s said we are born with a plan. So was I born for exactly this purpose ? In that case, is it why I went through all these challenges and tests to overcome for a purpose ? Time will give the answers 🙂

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So after more than half of my life gone what I feel now is that, all what I have gone through is, ” To be able to gain that knowledge, so that I can enlighten others on this topic. It’s strange how life has taken a turn as what I wanted to do was Botany, as I loved plants. I never wanted to do medicine or to be a doctor, but now I am studying psychology. If we are all born for some specific purpose and it seems this is my purpose, my mission. Aren’t I glad that I have got such a mission in my hands 🙂

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People go through hard times in their lives due to many different reasons. Being physically ill, problems in jobs, professions, lack of money and/or family/children problems. And sometimes all or many of these come together. People looking from outside, do not see what is going in others personal lives, and can discourage and hurt others with no reason. Someone who is going through a very bad time, might completely go off track, by some insensitive and ignorant people’s attitude and, pushing them further into darkness and gloom. Feeling desperate and not knowing what to do they might even end their lives. So do think before you say or do anything harsh without knowing what others are going through. These are the times that the human mind cannot take it and it breaks. So always be aware, just because someone is well dressed and smiling there can be lot going on unseen within !!!

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Saying broken is that your mind becomes ill just like the body. The soul, your spirit can be dampened, and it becomes too much for the mind and it begins to give up. Then the body also goes down with it, as the mind is also in the physical self, in short in the head somewhere !!!
Its not only people who always break you, mother nature also does that with her floods, volcanoes and many other tricks up her sleeves. And for those who ask why only pictures of ladies, here are some for the gentlemen too 🙂

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Not ten it can be hundreds of times, and some goes on for whole of their life time. This is why I am writing that it is possible for most of you to bring it down, keep it under control, if not fully to some extent, enough to lead a stress free life. If after 15 long years I overcome depression. So can you ❤

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This is what happens to those who are over loaded with stress. Your head is over working trying to find solutions. Its mostly stress that you get headaches and most of the other illnesses. Its like a chess game inside your head, trying to figure out the best ways to overcome the problems and solve the difficult situations. The other person becomes too tough you lose the game !!!

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Please do not look down upon people who have mental issues. Being mentally ill is Not being mad. Through stress, untold grief, sadness and abuse which often is not their fault many become confused and ill. This labeling and looking down upon people is wrong. All people have a right to lead a life of peace and happiness. “It is this stigma that is preventing a lot of people going for help to the doctor that is making them more ill. Mental illnesses are rising at an alarming rate. According to WHO by 2030 Depression will be the biggest cause of health burden in the world. “RIGHT NOW ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD , ONE PERSON TAKES THEIR OWN LIFE EVERY 30 SECONDS” and it is going up. I am sure glad I am on the, RIGHT SIDE OF LIFE, ENCOURAGING and SUPPORTING PEOPLE TO LIVE HEALTHY and HAPPY, and NOT DIE !!!

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Be Brave and seek out help. Don’t let anything spoil your life. You have the right to lead a good life ❤

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Once we open up, we help ourselves to feel good. To love and care for ourselves. As none of us are born perfect. Sometimes its not seen why somethings happened to us. No one makes a mistake or takes a wrong turn if they know that it will be a disaster. Sometimes it can be like putting out your hand out to survive to the closest thing, a person, when you are drowning in the river of stress. As our fist instinct is to survive this is how we are born. You are born to live and live to tell your story to others to lift them up too 🙂

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Its not only our problems and struggles, our successes and winnings also can be turned into stories to help others. I am touching on the good side too. As so many harp on the bad side and do not see the good they have. This is a result of my being positive Now and not being depressed. Now I can look from both sides of life 🙂

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Those who have gone through any physical or mental pain themselves can understand another’s pain or hardships better. Someone who never had a headache would find it hard to understand another’s pain in the head. But one doesn’t have to be, all that broken to understand another’s feelings. As all human beings have feelings, are intelligent and have a brain to think and analyse what is right and wrong. Each and everyone goes through some kind of experience, at some stage of their lives. Sometimes back when I posted this in my group, someone commented this is because, they feel the pinch !!!

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Well I am a survivor. I did fight to win over depression. We all have to, sort of fight over lot of things to achieve what we want in life. I feel quite good that in spite of being named the light,  I fell into darkness and managed to come out. I fought the darkness and became what I am today. Back to myself 🙂

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But we don’t go through all the experiences ourselves in one life. How I became well is from a combination of others experiences, my knowledge from very young days even before I got depressed has helped me. Even from books, magazines and other sources I come across. And I am not this small and certainly don’t live in a tea cup 😛

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I hope you enjoyed reading and the pictures. Its more like a picture story. And some of it will help you towards becoming well. Thank you for reading. God Bless ❤

Thanking for the picture quotes from Healthy place and Steve Maraboli ❤

Love, Light and Healing Energies from me 🙂

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

This is the link from: https://www.healthyplace.com/  if you want more information on mental health.

What is the Stand Up for Mental Health Campaign About?

Why Is It Time to Stand Up for Mental Health?

Join the Stand Up for Mental Health Campaign
Like other groups throughout history, people with a mental illness have been marginalized, discriminated against and made to feel like second class citizens. Others refused to tolerate it, why should you?

By Standing Up for Mental Health, you’ll let others know:

  • There is nothing “wrong” with having a mental illness.
  • People with a mental illness are not alone in what they are dealing with.
  • People with a mental illness shouldn’t feel ashamed or forced to hide their mental illness symptoms and desire for effective treatment.
  • Mental health stigma will no longer be tolerated.

 

Hello To My Dear Readers 🙂

I have been reading some articles and according to the latest statistics, mental illnesses are rising at an alarming rate. Millions world over are going through depression and many other mental issues. Sadly so many people are still not aware that the mind also gets sick like the body, even those who are highly educated in certain fields. Quite often I have heard people say it’s all in the mind and there is no such thing as depression !!!

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In Australia alone one is seven experience major depression in their life time. But 70% of them will not seek treatment. One of the main reasons for this is the stigma. This is actually common almost world over. The other reasons are not having access to formal mental health treatment due to being in remote areas, the cost and time limitations. The result of this is people becoming sick and unable to work or to lead their lives in the normal way and also very sadly ending their valuable lives giving grief to their loved ones and a loss to the whole of humanity.
In the past it was said that counselling online is of little help, now research has clearly shown that self-guided, online psychological therapy is effective for most people experiencing depression regardless of severity or back ground. Those of you who are reading, please do go for counselling or therapy as they are extremely helpful !!!

“DO NOT THINK ABOUT STIGMA – IT IS YOUR LIFE THAT MATTERS”

But if you are unable to go, until such time, read books articles and find information on line for self care. There is so much of knowledge in books, magazines and on the I net. Again this is if you are unable to go for medical help for some reason 🙂

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The word Health Organisation has stated that depression will be the biggest cause of health burden in the world by 2030 !!!
So this is the reason I thought I will try and increase writing more posts as I believe at least one person will make use of these tips and go for counselling, take medication or learn how to manage their moods and feel a little better. If I know I have made just one person feel better, valued and worth I am very happy. Each one of us are born for a very specific purpose and,
“You Are Very Unique and Special- Always Remember that”

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Hope you like what I have written and learnt something new or remembered something you already knew. Thank you for reading. Share and pass on 🙂

Thanking for the pictures quotes from the I net ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies coming your way ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

Hello To My Dear Readers 🙂

I have written this article before but it was at the very beginning and I believe not many read it. Also now that I have more knowledge I thought of writing it again with new and added information. It is mainly about how you go about finding the correct doctor, counsellor or therapist when you need to go for medical help 🙂
We all know that each one of us have different personalities, and so does the medical personnel. More than the other fields when we are dealing with our minds, it is very important to find the correct doctor with whom you can be comfortable and tell your story, discuss your problems, ask advice or guidance. As you need to feel you are trusted and respected, or the moment you feel uncomfortable even with one word, your mood can go off and it becomes a problem rather than a help. I have experiences on this. There has been times that I have gone quite happy and confident and coming back with a very dimmed spirit and annoyed and hurt having the feeling that I was not understood or trusted. So anytime you are over stressed or imbalanced, try and find the correct doctor and visit them regularly, until the doctors or the therapist decide to stop seeing you. Counselling is very very important and extremely helpful in seeing and solving your problems in a satisfactory way 🙂

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Then comes the other Most Important part that, “You need to take your medication regularly and continue as long as you have to or for ever” Please make a note that this is very important as I too have stopped at times thinking I am well and have got relapses when I did so. When one goes through severe stress and trauma long term there will be an imbalance of chemicals in the body. And the medications are given to balance them out. Why I am saying this ? As when it was explained like that only I realized that, I really needed to take what ever I was supposed to take, in order to become well and continue to be well. So you need to know and believe that you can lead a normal life by learning to deal with it the correct way 🙂

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Coming out of depression or being well from mood disorder means that it is being managed/controlled with medication and everything else you are doing to keep up being well and, they have gone into remission or you can call it hibernation. Its like a seed in the ground waiting for the rains or the right conditions to lift its head up again. This does happen with many other illnesses as well. So medication is necessary to keep it under control or for prevention. But medication alone cannot do everything. A major part of it is in your hands too. You need to eat healthy and be active and maintain your body and be physically fit, as the body and mind is connected, for the mind to be strong the body has to be healthy too. You need to steer the mind on to the positive path and push aside the negativity as much as possible. For this you need to work at it. I will write about being positive in the next article, as I know some do not like or its too stressful to read very long posts. Hope this has given you some good insights that will help you in feeling better in some way 🙂

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Thank you for reading. Please do share and pass it on to those who can make use of what I have written 🙂

Thanking for the quotes from the I net ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to all ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

Hello To My Dear Readers 🙂

Thought of writing about stress. A common topic, a word but a real challenge to manage and overcome, but possible. Definition from the I net:

“A state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or demanding circumstances”

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Stress is not only at work but everywhere. It can be at home, with family, friends and even doing hobbies and during many things in everyday life. We can become stressed doing thing we do not like or even doing things we like to do. The difference is we try to go beyond what we can do, “its like running against time or going against the natural order” There is a pattern a timing for everything in life. True there are times that we do have to quicken our step in order to keep up with this fast moving world, but its not with everything and all the time. In life we have choices and we need to choose correctly 🙂

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We need to prioritize in life on how we can manage what we have to do. We cannot do everything all the time. There are things we can and not do according to age limits. We have to accept what we can and cannot do. In short we need to learn to let go of the unnecessary and things we cannot change in life. There is always things we can do, and people whom we can have around who do not stress us. At least one or two good family or friends, who can understand and care for us. There is always jobs and life situations that we can fit into but there is always that exception. In that case we have to change the way we thing and take them as tests !!!

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None of us work 24/7 and there is always some free time to relax. Also relaxing does not need a lot of money either. Of course if one can have enough money to spend, there are many expensive ways to relax. But actually relaxing is becoming one with mother nature. The closer you become to mother earth, by ways of food clothes and living the closer you become to a stress free life. It is difficult to lead a complete stress free life in this present times. But there are plenty of simple way to relax and reduce our stress levels and enjoy a balanced and healthy life 🙂

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You can see from this chart many many things you can do in order to relax and relieve stress. You will also notice many things are about how to enjoy nature. We are part of The Universe hence part of Mother Earth. We need to live in ways that we are close to nature as much as possible. Even if you lead busy lives in the city, once in a way to go to the beach, rivers, parks, even a swim in a pool will bring your body closer to the natural state. Hope you read up and follow some of them as I do too 🙂

Tank you for reading. Share and pass it on for others who can benefit from this 🙂

Thanking the I net for the quotes ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

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Hello To All My Dear Readers 🙂

Welcome to my blog. We have now 101 blogs who have liked us. Thank you all those of you who read, and a Big Thank for My blogging family who have made it possible for my blog to reach up to that mark ❤
Today I am writing how people are reacting, towards others. Helping or hurting, especially to those who have mental issues and/or of sensitive nature. Be it mental issues or any other subjects, by sharing and exchanging we broaden our horizons. That is what human race is, and even in the animal kingdom they learn from each other. Its a wonderful thing that the young Royal family from The UK itself has come out into the open to share what they also have gone through, and got together to wok towards mental issues. As there are many who think its all in the mind or even take it up as a joke or a weapon to harm or hurt another !!!

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I started to write here with the support and encouragement of so many people, who valued my knowledge and experiences on how I overcame depression. Especially the doctor itself who said even if I help just one person to take medication, go to the doctor or to feel happy its a great blessing. But sadly since recently, I have come across some who have made use of what I write to, upset and hurt me !!! I am a human being a mother, who was separated from my children for almost 13 years and, who lost half of my weight at one time not being able to eat. The doctors see me as a miracle having fought depression for almost 15 years and come out of it. I have worked as a tutor of English and now lead a normal life, and also studying for a Diploma in psychology. Yes its difficult sometimes to concentrate, as its lot of hard work but, I am enjoying learning the facts and also to prove that someone like me can study too. I am Not earning from here but paying to write in order to be of help, even by few words to give Hope and Faith. Those who value human life, and Not only money know the value and so many are reading and benefiting. But for some its a joke, and to do things behind my back to upset me !!! For what purpose ? I do not harm or hurt anyone !!! What I write here is Not gossip or personal details. It is knowledge to help others !!! This is not only for me but happens to so many innocent people even on Face Book. Wicked and evil minded people who do not want to see another doing well !!!

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We as human beings are one with the Universe. The Universal Declaration of Human Rights – a Declaration adopted by the United Nations General Assembly supports the ideology that,”All Human beings are born free and equal in dignity and rights” They are endowed with reason and conscience and should act towards one another in a spirit of brotherhood” Those play silly pranks to upset others, are just selfish and self centered !!!

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There are millions who are going through depression and other mental issues. So many in the world over, the royalty, professionals, artists, workers of all fields are bent on working towards mental wellness now. So many are dedicated towards human wellness and peace. So am I. I have dedicated myself for service and these things are not jokes. Working against someone’s progress, happiness and peace are all with negative thoughts that makes one sick in return. When you harm another you harm Yourself. What goes around comes around. Its, “The Laws of the Universe” No one escapes. All have to pay for their consequences !!!

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Giving pain to someone who has gone through severe pain and grief is a crime. And these are people who know that. Its not philosophy but its science. That is why religions are there to be guided to know what is right and wrong. Not to just preach to others or talk big. When the boomerang comes back there will be no place to run, as its Not a physical thing, Good or the bad we do they will always come behind us, whether we like it or not. That is the basis of all what everyone teach !!!

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Thank you for reading. Share, pass it on for others too who can make use of what I write. Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to All ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂