Hello To All My Dear Readers 🙂

Thanking all those who read my articles and comment, like and follow my blog. Hope all of you are well and finding what I write useful in some way to further enhance and advance your life 🙂
I don’t know if this topic is relevant to everyone, but this is something that I have had to be facing since sometime. We all know that mental illnesses are not recognized and understood, even by some of the so called educated people. Why I say, “so called educated people” is, if people are really educated, then they cannot be ignorant of the fact that mind becomes ill just like the body. As where is the mind? In the body! Then how can mind not become ill? Then why does mental illnesses looked down upon or seen them as some outcasts in the society?
It is well known that world over depression is a serious issue threatening the future, becoming the biggest health problem by 2030. There are millions who are depressed and millions yet to come. Suicide rate is going up. Valuable time and live’s are lost. So many kind and compassionate people are working, fighting to ease this problem in various fields, not only in the field of medicine. Communities have got together as groups, clubs to work towards helping in healing through hobbies, sports, physical and many mental therapeutic activities as well. What I am doing also here in my blog is , in a small way is contributing my knowledge and experiences towards those who can make use of them to know that they also can control and recover enough to be well and lead a normal and happy life. It is to show by example, “To give Hope” to those still battling!
But as life has it, I am having to deal with an issue of, not only of ignorance but, “Knowingly trying to confuse and push me back” In these circumstances what would you do? Do you think it is a kind and compassionate thing to do to another human being who has gone through such an ordeal through years and lifted her head up, and now is working towards the benefit of others, quietly with no harm or disturbance to anyone? What motive and mind set do you think this type of people have? As in the society there are many types of destructive people. How do you deal with them?

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At the present stage of my life I have learnt to take them as, challenges that I have to face in order to overcome and become stronger. As we need challenges to test our strength and to move on to the next level of our lives. Life throws us curve balls from time to time and we do get shaken, but we can deal with them in many ways. Overcoming long term depression is not a small task, that shows, Strength, Courage and Patience, and above all Faith in the Powers above. I pray during sickness and sadness, for good health, in happiness, thankfulness and gratitude, daily morning and night, for myself and others. This is, where I derive, “My Strength” The Divine Powers which some have no clue. They think they can do anything and get away. For the moment yes. But not long term!

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There is no way that negativity can bring down the positive. Dharma, Righteousness always overcome evil. Light always chases the darkness away. My name by birth itself is, “Light” Darkness can never defeat me. It is a Lion himself who named me, “Light” and, his spirit is guiding me. I lead my life in accordance to, “The Laws of The Universe” I adhere to to the correct principles in life. I give. I donate. I share what I have with anyone. Even this blog is giving and sharing, as I am sharing my knowledge with others. The gift of knowledge is supposed to bring the the highest blessings according to Buddhism. So how can those who are morally deteriorated put me down or anyone else for that matter. You who is reading, never get discouraged or let anyone put you down for no reason. Take every experience, as a challenge, to gain strength, courage and confidence and to achieve you goals and win 🙂

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These are things that happen in the society not only to me. Some do not want others to rise up. Sadly they don’t know that helping another is helping themselves. In giving you receive. In blessing you are blessed. What goes around come around. They are “The laws of The Universe” that applies to all. Abiding by them, “The Universe supports us 🙂

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I hope you like what I have written and found somethings useful. As these are things we all face in life from time to time. Pass on to others who can make use of it. Thank you for reading ❤

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Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to All ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

Hello To All My Dear Readers 🙂

Hope all of you are well. I have not been here for a while, as I have been busy writing some other articles. So I am sorry I have not been visiting some of your blogs too. I am re-writing this article as so many have missed the old articles. We are all aware in life everyday is not the same. We keep on changing and moving ahead. Even if we do not want to change, we do grow older by the day and changes happen physically and mentally, as well as the whole environment changes around us. That is the norm of life. With that there comes challenges over and over again for us to learn how to face and overcome them, to become stronger and wiser to move on in life to the next level 🙂

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Once you have overcome a challenge or challenges, you need to learn from them and organize yourself, to make sure the same things do not cause problems again. For this you need to, “Let Go” of the things and people that do not work for you anymore. Letting go usually, does not mean taking a bag and going away as so many posts show. As in life you cannot leave those who are dependent on you and walk off just like that. What it means mostly is, “Letting go from the Mind” and changing and adjusting to those people and situations that you have to live in, to fit in better 🙂

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Letting Go is a process. As in life from the moment we are born we are Letting Go isn’t it? First of all we let go of the womb that we grew for 9 months and entered the, seems like harsh world with a bang. From that time on wards, everything that we were born with, our hair, skin keeps on shedding and being renewed without our knowledge. Letting go is a, “Natural Process for us to, “Let Go” of the unwanted/old and move on to new that works for us” Its just like discarding our clothes that become too small for us as we grow on to our next size. Not only us it happens to animals too. Like reptiles, they too shed their whole length of outer skin from time to time. The eagle sheds all its feathers and even the beak after 40 years to renews it self for another 30 years. Then why is this, Letting Go become such a painful process ?

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This is when, “We are Forced to Let Go”, “Before we are ready” Just like pulling our hair or teeth before time. In Nature, there is always, a Time for everything. When we have to, or Forced to give up anything or people before we are ready only, it becomes painful” So there is always a, “Time to Let Go” if not it is difficult and painful. But sometimes so happens in life, whether we like or not we do have to let go as we need to move on and holding on doesn’t help. And once you accept life becomes much easier and pleasant. As you have less people and things to trouble you unnecessarily!!!

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Then how to make life a little easier for us, living in this complicated world? Well the most important word comes in, which is, “To be prepared to Let Go” when we know our work is done, and we are no more needed. Hard? Yes, but it is reality. When people have outgrown you, means they have changed their vibrations, hence their personality and their whole energy system. So they no longer able to sometimes live under the same roof with the same people, doing the same things like they used to. All that belongs to another era. Which is called by the name,”The Past” Letting Go if it is for our own good is difficult, but sometimes we have to, and once we do the relief is great. By letting go of the past you make room for the new to come in your life that will ultimately lead you to new places and people whom you fit in better and belong with, to lead a much happier, satisfying and fulfilled life 🙂

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Hope you enjoyed reading what I have written, and learnt something to help in your life or even someone else’s life. Knowledge is like ripples that travels over and across lands and seas all over the world bringing everyone closer to share and learn from each other. This is a wonderful video about the change that the eagle goes through. It is for us to learn how change and letting go helps us to move on to a better level in life. Enjoy 🙂

Thank you all for reading. You can share and pass on to those who can benefit from what has been written here ❤

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Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

 

Hello to All My Dear Readers 🙂

Thanking everyone who read and follow, and especially seeing many of you have liked, gives me great satisfaction and encouragement to do better. This is sort of a continuation from the last article as I touched on rejection. Please excuse me for taking a little time in writing answers to some of your requests on, how to deal with it. I have to get into that mindset to write. Slowly my mind begin to fill up with ideas and then, suddenly I get this great need to write it, to free my mind of it. Its like baking a cake. Once done you have to take it out of the oven, and of course you can’t eat the article, but you can read and share 😛
For those of you who are reading for the first time, you have to know that what I am writing is, “Mostly my own first hand knowledge through my experiences gone/going through in life” and of course in my mind there is knowledge from far back as I can remember even as a child, books the internet and also what I absorb/observe from other peoples lives as well. We all know we do not nor cannot have all round knowledge and experiences in every aspect of life. And this is why we read and learn from others too, to expand our knowledge and learn to improve our lives there by, “Pass on to others, for their benefit” 🙂
Why I needed some time was, I was thinking exactly, “How to counteract rejection. As rejection is something we all face at all times in various ways and from various people and situations, right from the beginning of our lives from our childhood, not just from one person or once or twice” Also we know all these are challenges that, “All human beings go through at some stage or other in their lives”, as I have written again and again before too. Why ?
By overcoming difficulties we become stronger, so that we become stronger to face the challenges life throws at us, and learn to live a more happier and a better quality of life in Peace and Harmony ❤

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So what does rejection do exactly ? Rejection affects us very badly. The pain you feel in your mind, is also felt by the body/physically. It has been shown scientifically that the regions of the brain activated in response to rejection are the same as those activated by physical pain. Rejection also has a negative impact on the immune system and destroys our sense of self-worth/self-esteem. And this leaves us insecure and with a diminished sense of belonging !!!
What do we do then ? First make sure/clarify that we have not misunderstood what ever maybe. Be it a person or a situation. If not then we need to find the antidote. What is that 😀

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The antidote to rejection is, “Acceptance, Appreciation, Understanding, Caring and above all Love/Loving kindness” We need to find people and situations where these are found. But sometimes it may be you are alone or isolated. Or the exact times you want you cannot find such things/people. In that case we can do things on our own too, that we like, to make ourselves Happy. These can be anything according to each persons personality. In my case I love reading, listening to music, gardening, chakra dancing, colouring for relaxation/mindfulness, even house work as I love to keep a neat house and cooking for others. Doing things for others when you can, gives a very big satisfaction, “In giving you receive” Also for me writing all this ~ knowing so many of you read, appreciate and benefit 🙂

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Even if you have others, having some, “Me time” is very important. It can be meditation, a relaxing bath, or just sitting in nature quietly to free you mind. When all what is going on in your life is in you head, it gets to a point where your mind gets, “Saturated ~ its like you have over eaten” This is called by the all famous name, “Stress” and you need some quiet time to relax – to detox your mind. Its just like clearing your house its, de-cluttering your mind !!!

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Silence. The best treatment for stress. You don’t really need to meditate. The meaning of meditation is, being mindful all the time of what you are doing and saying. Some can really meditate and find peace. But if you sit in silence and relax your mind that is more than enough. Some even sit near the sea and watch the waves go up and down. When you mind relaxes the whole body slows down. Then you fall in line with the beat of The Universe/Mother Nature. As we are all part of her, why ?
What ever the colour, race or religion, in the end we all join her “Its Ashes to Ashes and Dust to Dust” If all people think of this the world will be a much better place to live isn’t it !!!

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I hope you like what I have written and enjoy reading. I also hope you are learning useful things that will help you to live better and happier. Thank you for reading 🙂

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to all ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

 

Hello To All My Dear Readers 🙂

Hope you all are keeping well. I have taken a while to come here, as I am going through some major changes in my life and needed to settle my mind before writing. We are changing everyday, but from time to time we do go through major changes from one phase to another. These can be work, relationships, children, money or anything at all, but usually they go together with one’s age 🙂
From children we become adults and with that, jobs, marriage and our children come in. I feel that this middle chapter takes almost half of our life span. Although there are many major changes within this period as children mature, its only when they finally leave home, comes the next major change. Parents feel their absence and a long line of things they did suddenly comes to an end and they are left with a big hole or a gap that needs to be filled, in their hearts as well as in their lives. This is called as the empty nest syndrome and is mostly felt by the mother as usually its the mother who is around them while father’s are more at work. But then it can be for the father too or for both the parents, depending on who is more closer to the children when they are growing up. At the same time usually the parents are also close to their age of retirement from their jobs which makes it even harder to digest !!!
For me I have now passed this middle chapter and was mostly concentrating on my work.  And now that too seems to have come to an end which is another huge life change. I find that in life we cannot, master two completely different topics well, at the same time. Once I began to heal and started to get back into my normal life, my mind was full of ideas on healing. For me, being involved in teaching English, and Healing became two completely different things. I found my mind was constantly pulling on to what was going on my life at the time, which was all about health and healing. I had made a huge effort to come out of depression and naturally my mind was full of all that and my whole life took on to another path !!!
Although there was a detour, I still continued working as a part time English tutor, but I did not find enough satisfaction as its not all who value when someone is trying to teach them free. They do not understand how much of time, energy and sacrifice that is put in for volunteering. When engaged in the process of giving, “in any life situation not only in work, be it outsiders, friends or family one needs to feel appreciated in some form. As in life its, “Both giving and receiving. Its then only the real giving process is complete” ❤
I faced a situation where I felt rejected. Rejection is a very strong word, which has a very negative effect. It can come in many forms. It can be in the way of comparing with others, belittling you, putting you down, avoiding, in short its a total lack of caring and disrespect towards another. This makes the rejected person feel let down, unwanted, insulted and it gives a feeling that you have failed as a person or/and in what ever you have been entrusted with. It loses one’s confidence and a sense of worth and its not easy to overcome them just like that. It can take a toll on ones mind and you can become depressed and ultimately mentally ill. Actually these are exactly the situations that pushes normal people to become not normal and having to struggle to become normal again. Then there are very few to acknowledge or to give a hand to pull you up. I know this and exactly why I am writing and doing this blog ❤
Rejection is one of the worst things that can happen to someone who is depressed or even come out of depression. Yes I am out of it, but as we all know many illnesses, be it physical or mental can lift their heads up given the right conditions. They go into remission and are like seeds waiting for the rains to come out from their hiding places. Its not easy for people like us, as we can’t be running to the counsellor or the therapist all the time like little children to the mother 😛
But its when suddenly things hit you hard, and usually its not one there can be a few of the stones falling on your head at the same time, that we find it difficult to cope. Then what do we do ? I had been wanting this change from work, But I didn’t stop I was just going on. Very often in life, although we know its time we made that change, we don’t usually make major changes all by ourselves. This is the time when, God/The Universe/The Higher Powers decide to step in. We get a push. How ? Being hurt, disappointed or being rejected. And if we don’t take it we get a bigger push until it hits us hard and we are almost forced to take that decision. This is why it’s said that, we are given the same lesson over and over again if we don’t listen or make those changes we need in order to move on in life !!!
So when things get shaken up, if you take them up as challenges, you can really benefit from them. As you then, stop what ever you are doing and have a very good look at what’s going on with your life at that moment, and think is this what I want ? What is life telling me ? Stress and pain acknowledged with wisdom, helps you to find that exact venture, the path that you are really supposed to follow ❤

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When things don’t really work for you and you keep on getting pushed, you feel, “This has gone on long enough, I do not want to cry or keep on going through this pain. I need to live better, “Then that will be the exact time of your turning point, of making that decision to make that change. As that will be heard by your mind and, “Unknown to you, the mind will be working towards it” It will be letting go of the unwanted and streamlining your life to serve you better. For this you need to prioritise. To clean your life from the clutter and to know exactly what you want from life 🙂

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In my case I have been isolating myself completely. All phones off and no sound no nothing just eating, sleeping and relaxing in silence. Its then that your mind becomes clear and you find out/realise, “What you really want from life. What will make you happy. How you can achieve it” We cannot depend on others, as most of them don’t understand, or they are not there when we need them. That is exactly how it is too. Because it’s not other’s job to think or decide for us. Its our life and its we who know what we want. And if sometimes you find there is no one to ask, “This is because its you alone that has to find your own answers. As its only you that know who you are exactly and what You want from life. And then you need to be strong and brave enough to take that step and start all over again 🙂

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I hope you liked what I have written and enjoyed reading. I also hope you have learnt something from what I have gone through, and is going through, “For your benefit to improve your way of living” Thank you for reading 🙂

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to you ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

 

 

Hello My Dear Readers 🙂

First of all may I wish you all a Very Happy New Year !

Yes I have not written for a month, as I had to recover from a very stressful period. Suddenly life threw a very hard curve ball at me which put me quite off my track and took me almost six months to get back on my feet again. Finally I have begun to raise my head up and getting back to my usual routine. This is not due to one person or one particular event, but a series of happenings over six months, that annoyingly almost pushed me back from all the hard work in the past !!!

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These disruptions happen to all of us in different doses at the most unexpected times of our lives, that throws us off balance completely sometimes. Luckily I held on and was a very good test of my strength. I did get stressed, anxiety set in getting drowsy, but I never got depressed. So its a very big comfort to me, to know that I will never fall into that darkness again what ever life throws at me. And that I can face challenges with courage 🙂

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I had settled myself and was going on with my work and studies, and did not expect any major disturbance like this. With this problem suddenly, my mind jumped on to another track trying to sort out this and hence there was a clash wanting to go on with my usual routine, and the mind trying to sort out another issue at the same time. This was high stress as the mind cannot cope with, two major issues at the same time. I had to stop almost everything that I was doing and take a complete break, as I needed a clear mind to solve the problem I had in hand. Unlike dealing with people, dealing with a system, one can be completely helpless, as the systems work according to very strict rules, which almost has no room for any personal needs unless life threatening serious problems. With all what is going on from one side, in life there comes a balance too as, when one system is stressing, I have got immense support from, the medical system. “They are people who really know the value of human life. Especially those who have struggled and come up and are trying to help others” They have faith and believe in my mission, my working towards encouraging and motivating others from what I have and going through. They cannot get me out of the system, but they can safeguard me from being unduly stressed so that I can get on with my life with all what I am doing. I am so very grateful and blessed to have such wonderful and caring people by my side. I thank them all the time, and they tell me when we are doing good to others, in turn they come back to us too 🙂

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“I am like a tree ravaged by burning fire which has burnt over and over with time .. yet again, Risen, stronger every time even before the rains come. I rise over and over again like the bird of fire, the Phoenix 🙂

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My mind is finally settling down, writing here at length itself is a sign that my mind is back on track again. We come across so much of problems, due to various reasons. With all this, I went down both mentally and physically. When you feel weak in your mind automatically your physical health goes down too, due to lack of appetite, sleep and rest. I became so stressed that I could not even concentrate on my course. Which worried me thinking if I had taken on too much too soon. But thank goodness I am able to put my mind on to it again !!!

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Challenges are part and parcel of life, they come for us to face and learn more, and become stronger. That is how we move on to higher grounds. I have sat down and thought of ways how I can face them better next time. I have joined a group exercise class as doing things with others there is a different atmosphere as well companionship when one is living alone. Your good hormones start to work to make you more positive and you can lose some weight and have a better shape too 😛
There will be a next time and a next time for challenges. Every time we fall we need to rise again and again to face the world with more strength and courage. As human beings that is possible. This is the beauty of human life. We can always learn and plan better and keep on moving, becoming better and better as long as we live. Isn’t that true ?

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Hope you learn something new from what I have written and then pass on to another of what you learn. That again is the beauty and the value of knowledge. Knowledge is enhanced when shared and it travels far and wide like the ripples all over the world, touching so many others, and lifting up the darkness and lighting their lives with colour and beauty 🙂

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Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me. May you find Joy and may you find Happiness and Peace 🙂

God Bless ❤

Deepa Nilamani ❤