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Hope All of You are keeping in Good Health as much as possible. “Keeping yourself Positive and Motivated as Best as possible in these times” of Health issues of Natural and man made difficulties. I have been writing about Various ways of Therapies to Become Well” and deal with these ups and downs. And now it is making use of almost All the Topics I am writing about a ‘A Very important Topic How to be in Control of Your Life”!

The need to master. Everyone wants to have the Feeling that he is in Charge of him or herself and that as time goes by, he is more and more in Charge of the forces that affect him or her. If anyone feels that, this cannot be done, then that person gets Discouraged and becomes unhappy. By taking control of your life, you become the sole person who sets goals and brings changes to your life without being influenced by anyone or anything. You take responsibility for all aspects of your life and have the power to decide how it will unfold. You are in charge of your efforts and the vision for your future.

Most people want to be in good health, experience well-being, be satisfied with work, accept themselves, be respected, and have supportive relationships. If your life feels hectic, monotonous, or incomplete, then you need to get back in control. Anything that holds value in life requires time, effort, focus, and is likely to cause discomfort along the way. Be the person you want to be, and live the life you want by learning how to change your thinking, make lifestyle modifications, and be productive.

Define control. Figure out what taking control of your life means to you. Is it the ability to influence your destiny, regulate your present, keep your negative behavior in check, or do you simply want more willpower? Taking control of your life requires working through multiple challenges, including your own perceptions, building self-confidence as well as taking an action. Determine what you want more control over, and that will help focus your energy.

Control your life or someone else will. Control of your life starts with controlling your mind by regulating the thoughts that you choose to dwell upon. Your thoughts determine your actions, and your actions determine the life that you live. May these quotes inspire you to take control of your life and elevate it to the level that you know within yourself you can take it.

1. “Don’t let someone else control what you do in life. It’s your decisions, your outcomes, your life.”

2. “No one has power over you unless you give it to them, you are in control of your life and your choices decide your own fate.”

3. “Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over, instead of craving control over what you don’t.

“Control your thoughts. Decide about that which you will think and concentrate upon. You are in charge of your life to the degree you take charge of your thoughts.”

Consider your values. You need to determine what your values are so that you can get your priorities straight. Think about what and who is important to you — Is it freedom, happiness, equality, money, your family? Write down a list of your values (at least 10 of them), preferably in order from most important to least important.

• Think about what you are doing right now to support each of your values, and how your values are affecting your life. It can help to consider what a person that you respect would think of your values and whether this would change what they are.
• Decide what you have to do to boost your self-esteem and satisfaction with life. Think about the person you want to be and what character traits, ways of thinking, behavior patterns, and life you would have as that person.

Cultivate good character traits. When you improve beneficial character traits and virtues, you will gain more control over your life. This is because having these traits will encourage you to obtain your goals and taken on other qualities that you want. Good traits to work on for this purpose are courage, temperance, wisdom, and self-discipline.

• Having courage means you draw on your strength and willpower to accomplish what you need or want to, despite some form of adversity. For example, this can be taking a business risk, doing well in school, or some selfless act that sets you apart from others. Courage is the opposite of fear, and can be developed by allowing yourself to be vulnerable, acknowledging your fears, exposing yourself to the things you are afraid of, and doing acts that are considered courageous regularly.^[4]
• Temperance (moderation or self-restraint) is important because it allows you to maintain perspective, calmness, self-control.
• Wisdom encourages you to gain knowledge and experience so that you can use information for a higher purpose, such as in service of humanity or living a good life. You gain wisdom through trying new experiences, and seeking knowledge.
• Self-discipline is imperative to gaining control of your life because it allows you to put all your intentions into action. This skill is developed over time and with practice as you accomplish each smaller goal on the way to achieving a larger vision. Always visualize your goals like you have already met them. Practice self-control every day by making small changes and sticking to them, even something like opening every door with your left hand. Being successful at these small changes will make the larger ones easier.

Create goals. Find out what you really want out of life this year — a house, a good job, a healthy relationship? Write each goal down, and then come up with ideas that can help you accomplish that goal. Write these ideas down into positive action statements, such as, “I will save up money.” Then, go over all your goals and ideas, and decide on three goals and three action statements for each one that you will do.

• Avoid statements like this, “I don’t want to be shy anymore and keep being lonely.” This doesn’t define a direction to go or an action to take to meet your goal. Instead, try something like: “I will be more open to building relationships with this year by saying “yes” to every social invitation and asking a friend to do something at least once a week.”
• Consider your options. Don’t define yourself by your problems but by the opportunities available to you. focus on how you can earn a raise, make extra money on the side, or change jobs.
• If you want, you can set goals according to different areas of your life, like work, health, relationships, etc. Break goals down into short-term (daily, weekly) and more long-term (monthly, yearly) ones.
• Don’t be afraid to modify your goals and ideas as time goes on and you figure out what works and what doesn’t. The point is that you take control of your life and the direction you are headed.
  
  

Let go of baggage. Sometimes negative thoughts or experiences can be tough to let go — you may have a feeling that they define you, or they may be so habitual you may be afraid to be without them, or you may simply not know how to let go. You must learn that you are not your problems and that they do not determine your worth as a person or how you make choices today. Learning to let go of past will help you become more solution-oriented, broaden your vision, and help you take control of your life.

• Practice mindfulness. One way to free yourself from the past is to focus on the present. With mindfulness, you are actively giving your attention to the present moment — how you feel in your body, how the sun feels on your face — just observing. Instead of judging your thoughts (or yourself), you observe and note them. Mindfulness takes practice, but the benefits can be enormous.
• Make amends. If you remember a mistake in your past, then it may help you to make amends. If you judge yourself for the way you teased your little sister, reach out to her (it can be face-to-face or in a letter), apologizing for your behavior. Give her the chance to tell you how she feels. Be aware that making amends may not repair a damaged relationship, but it can help you let go of the past and move forward.

• Learn to meet your own needs. Get a job so you can support yourself if you live off of someone else. Then move out, and live on your own.
• Ask yourself, “What do I want to do today?” and make your own decisions. Think about what you love doing and what you feel passionately about. Don’t rely on others to tell you what to do or like.

1. Get organized. Organization is important when you want to take control of your life. If everything is chaos in your head and in your house, then it is difficult to know where to start to solve any messes. Keep everything as neat as possible at home and at work so you don’t have to deal with clutter, and remember to put things back where they should be. Make lists, use a calendar and make decisions often instead of putting everything off.
   • Read papers, email and mail right away and take action right away, whether that means throwing it out, paying a bill or responding to a letter.
   • Set up a daily schedule throughout the week, such as shopping, family time, appointments, task lists, etc.
   • Try and De clutter. Sell, Donate so that you can have space for things you need can be new or used items also. I also do this. Don’t hold on to something just because you could potentially use it in the future.
   • Work on one thing at a time, particularly something small like a closet, and organize that first. Then move onto the next thing.

Spend some time on your appearance. Devoting some energy toward the way you appear to others can go a long way to make you feel better and more in control. Get a haircut, dye your hair, or do your hair in a new style. This is a simple way of doing your hair as well as a “Pony Tail” or there are some who can try different ways, as friends to practice to start to work as hair dressers and for fun 🙂

You don’t have to buy new clothes itself. Among friends even exchange when they get too fitting or for other things. Actually even I have some good things, not too expensive. I don’t go for luxury they look nice and and don’t like to sell and too good to donate for some who do not know the real value and who will be careful like me and appreciate them also. Or some do sew, each can do what they can even cook or give from gardening fruits or vegetables even like eggs or cooked food. And be sure to see things in a “Positive way” try and smile as often as possible. Be mindful of how much you spend, though, so you can keep control of your finances.

Take care of yourself. Pay attention to what you eat, how much you eat and try to get some exercise every day. For strengthening your willpower, you will want to eat small portions. These foods include lean proteins (meat and legumes) and complex carbohydrates (whole grains, fruit and vegetables). Avoid sugary, fatty, overly processed or salty foods that can make you feel bad and not have the strength to take control of your life.

Develop positive relationships. Surround yourself with people who share similar values and goals. Try to get to know the people you admire, and spend time with them so their behavior can help influence you for the better. Meet new people at places or events that support your values or goals. Talk to people close to you, and enlist their help in assisting you to achieve more control over your life.

• Communicate wants and needs and be sure that both people understand. Listen, and come up with solutions that work for both parties. Always express appreciation for the other person.

Cut back on commitments. If you feel like you are constantly up against time in a never-ending race to complete tasks, rushing through or being pulled in multiple different directions, it’s time to reevaluate your priorities. Take a look at all the things that demand your time on a daily basis. Reduce those commitments down to just a few of the most important things that you can really focus on.

• You may be resistant to dropping a commitment, but your choices in this situation are: continue to struggle to get things done, losing sleep, family time and impinging on other goals, do less-than-stellar or half-finished work, or letting something go.
• It’s ok to admit that you took on too much and cannot complete every task as well as you could with less commitments. Often, what you fear will happen as a consequence to giving a project up is unfounded.
• Minimize distractions. Avoid or get rid of the things that keep you from doing what needs to get done. If you’re trying to be more healthy foods. Turn off phones and email notifications while working to keep your mind focused on getting the job done.

Get control of your emotions. Emotions can be wonderful experiences but expressing them improperly can harm your ability to attain goals and damage relationships. You need to learn how to understand, process and respond to your feelings in a way that is healthy and helpful to you.

• Use deep breathing and relaxation methods to help you calm down before saying or doing anything in response to a situation.
• Breathe in for five seconds, hold it for five more seconds and breathe out for five more seconds. Do this until you feel your physical responses, such as an increased heart-rate, become less intense.
• Seek a healthy outlet for your emotions like talking to someone, keeping a journal or engaging in active activities of what you can do ❤
  
  

Let go of baggage. Sometimes negative thoughts or experiences can be tough to let go — you may have a feeling that they define you, or they may be so habitual you may be afraid to be without them, or you may simply not know how to let go. You must learn that you are not your problems and that they do not determine your worth as a person or how you make choices today. Learning to let go of past baggage will help you become more solution-oriented, broaden your vision, and help you take control of your life.

• Practice mindfulness. One way to free yourself from the past is to focus on the present. With mindfulness, you are actively giving your attention to the present moment — how you feel in your body, how the sun feels on your face — just observing. Instead of judging your thoughts (or yourself), you observe and note them. Mindfulness takes practice, but the benefits can be enormous.

Be independent. If you are co-dependent on others for your emotional health, lifestyle, or need them to tell you what to do, you are not in control of your life. Learn to solve your own problems and spend time alone to think and reflect. Only ask for help when you really need it, and learn from the people who help you so you can do more on your own next time.

• Learn to meet your own needs. Get a job so you can support yourself if you live off of someone else. Then move out, and live on your own.
• Ask yourself, “What do I want to do today?” and make your own decisions. Think about what you love doing and what you feel passionately about. Don’t rely on others to tell you what to do or like.

Start early. After you spend a few minutes for yourself, it’s time to focus on the most important tasks. Knock them out right away to reduce your daily stress. You have more energy in the morning, and it is easier to focus and do better quality work. In turn, this allows you to finish a larger volume of work. Try to get important work or tasks done during the first hour or two of the morning.
Prioritize: Focus on one thing at a time. Decide which task is the most important to finish first and focus on it until completion. Multitasking actually decreases productivity. This is because you are shifting your attention from task to task, which takes more time. Don’t worry about completing all the tasks you need to do for the day at one time, just stay in control and do one task at a time, making steady progress.

Stop wasting time. We live in a world with many distractions at our fingertips. Nevertheless, know that you actively make the choice whether to stay engaged in one task or get distracted by a mobile game, TV, Facebook, or a text message. Instead of coming home and flipping on the TV because it is an easy way to pass time, do something productive or on your to-do list so you stay in control of the moment. Working out, practicing a hobby, or working on relationships are all productive and enjoyable pastimes.

Take breaks. We are not meant to focus for long time. After that, we begin to get fatigued and don’t perform as well. Focus without interruption and then take breaks for at least a few minutes. This will allow your mind to rest, your body to recharge and you to relax emotionally.^[

Take Action. You can have all the goals in the world but never get anywhere if you don’t take action to achieve those goals. Do what you have to in order to get what and where you want. Take small steps but be sure to do something every day that helps you get closer to your end goal. This could be a mundane (small) task, practicing positive thoughts, doing paperwork or something else.

• Don’t get so caught up in the future that you can’t enjoy your life now. Enjoy the journey toward your goal, and remember to be thankful for everything that you have achieved right now.
• Do the best you can, whether it’s at a project, a test or a pastime. Achievements that take effort make you feel good about yourself and motivate you to achieve more.
• Here is something to do. You can even cut out what is not ok and Color as you like ❤
  
  

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