Happiness ~ Freedom To Be You!

Deepa 1Hello To All My Dear Readers ❤

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Today I am writing about, “A Very Important Topic ~ It is about Freedom” It is based on how people try to Manipulate some of us. “The secret of freedom is courage. This verse about Behaviour, is one which I greatly believe from ~ Erich Seligmann Fromm!

Erich Fromm 2Erich Seligmann Fromm (March 23, 1900 – March 18, 1980) was a German-born American social psychologist,   psychoanalystsociologisthumanistic philosopher. Fromm believed that freedom was an aspect of human nature that we either embrace or escape. He observed that embracing our freedom of will was healthy, whereas escaping freedom through the use of escape mechanisms was the root of psychological conflicts. Fromm outlined three of the most common escape mechanisms: automaton conformity, authoritarianism, and destructiveness. Automaton conformity is changing one’s ideal self to conform to a perception of society’s preferred type of personality, losing one’s true self in the process. Automaton conformity displaces the burden of choice from self to society. Authoritarianism is giving control of oneself to another. By submitting one’s freedom to someone else, this act removes the freedom of choice almost entirely. Lastly, destructiveness is any process which attempts to eliminate others or the world as a whole, all to escape freedom ~ Courtesy of https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erich_Fromm!

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Behaviour – “If other people do not understand our behaviour what can we do. We behave according to our personalities”.
Their request that, “We must only do what they understand, is an attempt to, ‘Dictate’ as mostly they ‘Resent’ our ‘Freedom’ and our ‘Courage’ to be ourselves.
We owe nobody an explanation or an accounting, as long as, ‘Our acts Do Not Hurt or Infringe them’.
How many lives have been ‘Ruined’ by this need to explain, which usually implies that the explanation be, ‘Understood’ i.e. Approved.
“Let Your Deeds be Judged”. And, ‘From Your Deeds ~ Your real Intentions’
But know that, “A Free Person Owes an Explanation Only to Himself/Herself” And to,’The Few’ “Who may have Justified Claim for Explanation” ~Erich Fromm.

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As human beings, “Freedom is Very Important. In fact it is to, “All Living beings” including the animal kingdom” We are all born with, “A Unique Personality to each other and we all have that need to Behave, to Act and overall Live according to how our personality is”. As I wrote before, “We have the Right to Live freely” how we want, as long as we do not do the wrong things that is harmful to ourselves or to others!

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When we are restricted or prevented is, “The time we feel,”Stressed” and if it is how we have to live, Long term it’s through because of this Stress we become unwell/sick”. As human beings, “We are lucky that we can learn from others, read and so much of resources to learn ~ How best we can go about to Live according to our personalities/ our ways of doing thing in life ~ how we like to do things” This is by educating ourselves ❤

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So we can Learn so many things ourselves as, “We are the only people who know exactly what and how we want to act and do things, to be relaxed, comfortable and at ease, as “The term Dis-ease simply means lack of ease or harmony within the body” ~ The I net! So to be in Harmony within the body, “Just be You” ❤

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I hope you like what I wrote and learnt something new, or remembered things you already knew. I know it is sometimes not easy, but have Courage and try as much as do things for you to be relaxed and Happy ❤

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Thank You for reading. I hope you will give out your own views too? You may share/or pass it on for others benefit so that they also can learn from what I have written. Those who like poetry may check on my personal website:https://deepanilamani.com/ ❤

Thanking https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wikipedia, The I net for the posts I have taken ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to You ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

 

Growing Older ~ Young At Heart!

Deepa 1Hello To All My Dear Readers ❤

Today I thought of writing about a topic that seems to be an issue with so many, it is: “Growing Old”! We know that we all grow by the hour, day, months and years, and the general feeling is that life is short and time is limited. It is true that as human beings we do have a limited span of life but, “How I believe is that ~”Life is how much you put into the years and Not count life in years” 🙂
Different people have different views on aging …but I believe we need to have a very positive outlook about us getting older by the years. Because life is precious and life is to live well. Each day we have is a gift, that we are able to learn as time goes by, new things, meet new people and see many new places and expand our knowledge and lead a better life. Don’t you think so 🙂

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There are some who has been asking, why the quotes are mostly regarding ladies as actually most of the pictures are with female figures somehow! So here I have posted quotes from both, a well known film actress, Audrey Hepburn and a famous poet and lecturer Ralph Waldo Emerson!

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We can grow old gracefully, becoming wiser, with the inner beauty shinning out, which is the true beauty, or we can become worried that years are passing by and the end is near 😛 But as human beings we are able to choose. We can read, and so much of resources are available to educate ourselves, think and make choices on how to decide the best ways of living healthy and living life to the full. So why do we have to really worry so much about growing older? How do you feel and think about growing old?

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Growing old by the day actually is physical, because as we we are growing we become more experienced and add more knowledge, and if we work at it the mind can become very advanced and we are able to gain true wisdom. Physically too we can keep our bodies active, and with a healthy diet we can be fit and healthy well into our older years, as to say. Life is full of mysteries and surprises, we can keep ourselves entertained from all that. My belief is, we all do grow but we can stay young in our hearts and minds 🙂

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The post below goes for men too. Generally with maturity most people gain so much knowledge and are full of experiences that, people cannot just take them for granted or put them down and make them feel inferior. Unlike when young, one is able to stand up for oneself and answer back with wisdom and not tolerate unnecessary drama. I as a older person can definitely vouch for that 😀

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There is so much to live in the years we have in our span of life. It is not the years but how much we put into the years that we can live. Its true that most of us do have to slow down somewhat from our very young years, but that doesn’t mean we stop doing the things we like and living well. There is a misconception that as you grow older the brain loses its ability be active as young but, “Medical evidence shows that ~ what we loose with age is very minute and that it does not slow down our thinking or power of learning so ~ “Age need not prevent our learning” But of course just as our physical self we need to exercise our brains too to keep it working to the full. I will expand and write about this in the next article. In the meantime, I urge you to “Live Your Life to the Full and forget about your age” 😀

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I hope you enjoyed reading the article and learnt something new. You may share/pass it on to others who can benefit from what I have written. I would like to hear your views too about growing old. Thank you very much for reading ❤

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Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to You ❤

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May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

End The Stigma!

Hello To My Dear Readers ❤

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So many have appreciated and given a good response to my first article, End The Stigma ~ Discrimination Stops with You! that I am bringing you further information and proof that, we need to end the stigma on, “Mental Health” and see that those who need help in making their minds well, are free and able to seek medical help, and become well and be healthy and happy people, to be an asset to the progress of the society and the world. We all know that, the mind is also in our body and we need to have both our body and mind in good health to be able to lead a normal and happy life, for ourselves and to be of help to others. We do take care of our eyes, teeth and other parts of our body isn’t it. So why not the mind too ❤
What some people are not aware is that even as children, those who become unwell or have certain issues while growing up, they need to have medical help. Or they will grow up to be sick and confused adults, not knowing who they are and what they need to do in their lives and become a problem to their families, the society and the world!

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All walks of life are concerned, and so many are working towards a society and a world of people who are healthy in their mind as well as the body. This includes even, “The Royal Family” who are openly working in public and even has a “Face Book page” dedicated to this cause, named, “Heads Together”!

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With all due respect to, “The Duke and Her Highness The Duchess of Cambridge and Prince Harry”, I am sharing this photo from the “Face Book page” ~ “Heads Together” to show the world that, Mental Health is NOT something to feel ashamed of, that mind also can become sick like the body!

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Those of you who are reading, and seeing all these posts, now need to be able to feel that, “YOU ARE NOT ALONE” ~ “YOU ARE JUST LIKE ANY OTHER HUMAN BEING” ~ “YOU ARE VALUABLE” and do not be shy or afraid to go to a doctor, or some medical help anytime you have issues with your mind. “IT IS NOT BEING MAD” as some people think. “IT IS JUST THAT YOUR MIND ALSO HAS THE RIGHT TO BE A LITTLE ILL and NEED SOME MEDICATION and LOVING KINDNESS” ~ “IT IS YOUR LIFE AND IT IS IMPORTANT TO YOU” ~ “YOU NEED TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF” ❤
I hope reading all these has inspired and encouraged you to seek help and become, “The SURVIVOR from ~ The Victim” and in turn to tell, “YOUR STORY” to others to encourage them too” And, “HELP END THE STIGMA”? YOU CAN AND YOU WILL 🙂

 

Thank you very much for reading. I sincerely hope all this will help you, or/and some other person whom you know can benefit from all this. Please share/or pass it on ❤

Thanking The HUFF POST and the FACE BOOK for the picture quotes ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to You ❤

May God’s Blessings be upon You ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

End The Stigma ~ Discrimination Stops with You!

Deepa 1Hello To My Dear Readers ❤

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I hope you all enjoyed reading the first two articles on the chakras. I am taking a break and writing on a very important topic which is about the, “Stigma in Mental Health” The reason I thought of writing this topic is, now after almost 5 years since it was declared that, “I have come back to normal”, there are some who are still trying to classify me as unwell. The disappointing fact is, this is to do with some people whom I thought knew me very well, that are like family, that my eye went to this quote. These people seems not to have, “Any sort of experiences, knowledge and are clueless about mental health to know that, “I have come so far in attaining knowledge not only on mental health and also on other matters in life. And now that, “I am mentally healthy and also a motivator” I cannot understand how some can see me otherwise!

*IF YOU THINK YOU ARE MENTALLY WELL JUST SPEND ONE DAY WITH YOUR FAMILY*
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I have written before too, that millions world over are going through depression and other mental health problems. And the world Health Organisation has stated that depression will be the biggest cause of health burden by 2030!

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In Australia alone, one in seven experience major depression in their life time. But 70% of them will not seek treatment. One of the main reasons for this is the stigma. This is actually common almost world over. But why does it have to be different from being physically sick?
When there are even Royalty and World leaders who support and work towards improving mental health and acknowledge mental illness are also, just like physical illnesses, there are some others even highly educated, who are foolish enough to be ignorant of what mental illnesses are. And this is what is causing the stigma and preventing people seeking medical help to get themselves better!

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There are so many who suffer from various physical illnesses. They do get better and overcome them, even cancer goes into remission and then they go about as normal human beings. Then Why? when the mind becomes ill and becomes well and/or goes into remission they can never get over the label as mentally ill? Mind is also part of the body, it is not outside floating somewhere! Why cannot people as human beings with good brain power cannot think of this?
As someone who has completely overcome, why I am writing is, to do my duty even in a small way, in standing up for those who are going through their own problems. As, if as many as those who can speak out on behalf of the people who are in need of support and enlighten the society, the world what mental issues are, the world will be a better place with more healthy and happy people 🙂
Are you ready to support? To stand up? Or are you one of those who try to push and see others fall? But the fact is, we are all connected. All of us are energy and one goes down it affects all the others like the ripples in the water. Why is it that some are unable to support others and see them rise up? As, “We Rise by Lifting Others” Are you Ready to support to, “Stop the Stigma”? We are all soul brothers and sisters. One family that belongs to each other!

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Thank you for reading. I hope you enjoyed reading and, learnt something new or remembered somethings you already knew. You may share or/and pass it on for others who can make use of it ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me ❤

Thanking for the pictures quotes from the I net ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

Trials and Tribulations in Healing!

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Hello To My Dear Readers ❤

A year is ending and each ending is another new beginning. I hope those of you who celebrated Christmas did so, and had a good time together with family and friends, and also with less fortunate. Just like me almost all of you have gone through many tests and trials throughout this year and learnt many lessons from them. As we know all tests are challenges for us to overcome, become stronger and go to that next level in life. I believe almost all of you know that diamonds are the result of charcoal which has gone under severe pressure. So how many of you have become diamonds now? Even halfway 😛

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When difficulties and stress come into our lives, and we go through storms and face challenges we are not happy. At that time we don’t think this is for the good of us, but they for our learning. If life just flows by, generally we do not attempt to go that extra mile/make that extra effort to polish ourselves and become a gem 🙂

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There so many who have gone through extreme conditions and ended up tops in their fields or even finding new strengths to do things they have never dreamt of doing or achieving. For an example below is: Apolo Anton Ohno – an American short track speed skating competitor and an eight-time medalist in the Winter Olympics – Thanking Wikipedia ❤

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There is something that all of you need to know, that tests and tribulations are not permanent nor do they come non stop until you die. Sure changes take place until our very last moment and that is how life is. The environment is changing and we also growing and changing with it. But once you learn what tests are and accepts them as part of life the process changes 🙂

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There comes a time when we realize that these tests come as messages, then this is “the time the messengers lose their importance in our lives” Why? We then come to understand how life works, and that these people have come into our lives as messengers only. The moment we see these people as messengers, that personal connection breaks off, we let go of the messengers and, “only accept the message. “They become nothing but messengers and once the message has been given automatically they move away or we do”. No one has to do anything, but it is a process in life. There is a shift of energy and the tie is broken off. So we don’t look to them as specific people but messengers that life has sent, and  they don’t really bother as, “He or she said or did like this”!

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Life is mysterious, fascinating, complex, as well as simple. We need to face life as how it comes in a wise way, or else life becomes very complicated and there can be no way out. For this we need to develop the sixth sense, wisdom which is the third eye ultimately when wisdom develops to its full strength. The third eye is not a physical eye, but it is something that makes you to be able to feel, “see from your mind beyond what the normal eye or other senses are able to detect”. In short one becomes very sharp in sensing the surroundings and of those around you. They are better able to know and decide what is good and what works best for them in life. They don’t go with a halo round their heads, but they go about life doing what they have to in their own quiet way!

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I found this wonderful quote from the I net, which says it all. Sure I also have learnt along the way, and as normal human beings we do get upset and hurt although we are aware how life works. But as time goes by and you become mature adults, becoming wise you tend to look at life in a much broader way. Saying that, “It is not all mature people who are wise and it is not all young people who are foolish – there are foolish adults as well as very wise young people too” But one thing is sure, as after we have gone through all the tests and tribulations learning our lessons in the correct way, all the hard work pays as always in anything and everything we do. What ever you have gone through in life, if you have faced them bravely and done the right thing, the results would be immeasurable. You would have grown so much and achieved so much that the end result will be like the, “Rainbow after the rains and the pot of gold at the end of it” 🙂

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As always hope you learnt something from this article. Please share and pass on to others who can make use of that is written. Thank you for reading ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me to You ❤

Thanking for the picture quotes from the I net ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

Dealing with Those who Try to Break You!

Hello To All My Dear Readers 🙂

Thanking all those who read my articles and comment, like and follow my blog. Hope all of you are keeping well and finding what I write useful in some way to further enhance and advance your life 🙂
I don’t know if this topic is relevant to everyone, but this is something that I have had to be facing since sometime. We all know that mental illnesses are not recognized and understood, even by some of the so called educated people. Why I say, “so called educated people” is, if people are really educated, then they cannot be ignorant of the fact that mind becomes ill just like the body. As where is the mind? In the body! Then how can mind not become ill? Then why does mental illnesses looked down upon or seen them as some outcasts in the society?
It is well known that world over depression is a serious issue threatening the future. The world Health Organisation has stated that depression will be the biggest cause of health burden by 2030. There are millions who are depressed and millions yet to come. Suicide rate is going up. Valuable time and live’s are lost. So many kind and compassionate people are working, fighting to ease this problem in various fields, not only in the field of medicine. Communities have got together as groups, clubs to work towards helping in healing through hobbies, sports, physical and many mental therapeutic activities as well. What I am doing also here in my blog is , in a small way is contributing my knowledge and experiences towards those who can make use of them to know that they also can control and recover enough to be well and lead a normal and happy life. It is to show by example, “To give Hope” to those still battling!
But as life has it, I am having to deal with an issue of, not only of ignorance but, “Knowingly trying to confuse and push me back” In these circumstances what would you do? Do you think it is a kind and compassionate thing to do to another human being who has gone through such an ordeal through years and lifted her head up, and now is working towards the benefit of others, quietly with no harm or disturbance to anyone? What motive and mind set do you think this type of people have? As in the society there are many types of destructive people. How do you deal with them?

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At the present stage of my life I have learnt to take them as, challenges that I have to face in order to overcome and become stronger. As we need challenges to test our strength and to move on to the next level of our lives. Life throws us curve balls from time to time and we do get shaken, but we can deal with them in many ways. Overcoming long term depression is not a small task, that shows, Strength, Courage and Patience, and above all Faith in the Powers above. I pray during sickness and sadness, for good health, in happiness, thankfulness and gratitude, daily morning and night, for myself and others. This is, where I derive, “My Strength” The Divine Powers which some have no clue. They think they can do anything and get away. For the moment yes. But not long term!

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There is no way that negativity can bring down the positive. Dharma, Righteousness does always overcome evil. Light always chases the darkness away. My name by birth itself is, “Light” Darkness can never defeat me. It is a Lion himself who named me, “Light” and, his spirit is guiding me. I lead my life in accordance to, “The Laws of The Universe” I adhere to to the correct principles in life. I give. I donate. I share what I have with anyone. Even this blog is giving and sharing, as I am sharing my knowledge and life experiences with others. “It is the gift of knowledge that brings the the Highest Blessings according to Buddhism”. So how can those who are morally deteriorated, put me down or anyone else who lives according to the, “Laws of The Universe” for that matter. “Do Not, ever get discouraged or let anyone put you down for no reason” Take every experience, as a challenge, to gain strength, courage and confidence and to achieve your goals and Win 🙂

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I have found that, these are things that happen in the society not only to me but some others too. Some do not want others to rise up. Sadly they don’t know that helping another is helping themselves also. In giving you receive. In blessing you are blessed. What goes around comes around. They are “The laws of The Universe” that applies to all. Abiding by them, “The Universe Guides, Help and Supports us 🙂

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I hope you like what I have written and found somethings useful. As these are things we all face in life from time to time. You can share/pass on to others who can benefit from what I have written. Thank you for reading ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to All ❤

Thanking for the picture quotes taken from the I net ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

Freedom ~ In Healing!

Deepa 1Hello To All My Dear Readers ❤

Hope all of you are well and happy. Thank you to all those who read my articles, like and follow the blog. Most of all a very big Thank You to those who take their time to leave a comment in appreciation or saying how and what they feel about the topic. This is very valuable as, each person look at life matters in a different way and we all can learn from another’s point of view 🙂

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Freedom in Healing is very important. Why? This is because we need to feel free to be ourselves to relax. Freedom is our right and no one can take it away. This is one issue that people have that they cannot say, or do the things they like which makes them stressed and unhappy. As long as we are doing the right thing, we do not have to worry about what other’s think, as what ever good or bad there will be some who will always criticize or find fault.This takes time as we need to realize this and be strong and brave to go on with our lives to live the way that is most agreeable to us 🙂

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To attain freedom there are many things we can and need to do. We need to let go of those unnecessary things and people that are binding us to the past or even the present, that stresses us and disturb our lives. We need to prioritize and have what is only needed for a peaceful and happy life, as having too many things and too many people around really waste our time and energy. As we get caught up with unnecessary talk, and things that does not add any real value to life. Few good people, of family and friends who are able to understand, see your worth and value, love and care for you is all you want. Not an army of people with noisy clutter as none of us going to war 😛

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Hope you like the article and learnt something from what I have written. Please do share and pass it on for those who can make use of it. Thank you for reading ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me to you ❤

This is my other blog that I write poetry for relaxation for those of you like poems:https://deepanilamani.com/2017/12/02/as-you-sleep/

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂