End The Stigma!

Hello To My Dear Readers ❤

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So many have appreciated and given a good response to my first article, End The Stigma ~ Discrimination Stops with You! that I am bringing you further information and proof that, we need to end the stigma on, “Mental Health” and see that those who need help in making their minds well, are free and able to seek medical help, and become well and be healthy and happy people, to be an asset to the progress of the society and the world. We all know that, the mind is also in our body and we need to have both our body and mind in good health to be able to lead a normal and happy life, for ourselves and to be of help to others. We do take care of our eyes, teeth and other parts of our body isn’t it. So why not the mind too ❤
What some people are not aware is that even as children, those who become unwell or have certain issues while growing up, they need to have medical help. Or they will grow up to be sick and confused adults, not knowing who they are and what they need to do in their lives and become a problem to their families, the society and the world!

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All walks of life are concerned, and so many are working towards a society and a world of people who are healthy in their mind as well as the body. This includes even, “The Royal Family” who are openly working in public and even has a “Face Book page” dedicated to this cause, named, “Heads Together”!

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With all due respect to, “The Duke and Her Highness The Duchess of Cambridge and Prince Harry”, I am sharing this photo from the “Face Book page” ~ “Heads Together” to show the world that, Mental Health is NOT something to feel ashamed of, that mind also can become sick like the body!

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Those of you who are reading, and seeing all these posts, now need to be able to feel that, “YOU ARE NOT ALONE” ~ “YOU ARE JUST LIKE ANY OTHER HUMAN BEING” ~ “YOU ARE VALUABLE” and do not be shy or afraid to go to a doctor, or some medical help anytime you have issues with your mind. “IT IS NOT BEING MAD” as some people think. “IT IS JUST THAT YOUR MIND ALSO HAS THE RIGHT TO BE A LITTLE ILL and NEED SOME MEDICATION and LOVING KINDNESS” ~ “IT IS YOUR LIFE AND IT IS IMPORTANT TO YOU” ~ “YOU NEED TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF” ❤
I hope reading all these has inspired and encouraged you to seek help and become, “The SURVIVOR from ~ The Victim” and in turn to tell, “YOUR STORY” to others to encourage them too” And, “HELP END THE STIGMA”? YOU CAN AND YOU WILL 🙂

 

Thank you very much for reading. I sincerely hope all this will help you, or/and some other person whom you know can benefit from all this. Please share/or pass it on ❤

Thanking The HUFF POST and the FACE BOOK for the picture quotes ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to You ❤

May God’s Blessings be upon You ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

End The Stigma ~ Discrimination Stops with You!

Hello To My Dear Readers ❤

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I hope you all enjoyed reading the first two articles on the chakras. I am taking a break and writing on a very important topic which is about the, “Stigma in Mental Health” The reason I thought of writing this topic is, now after almost 5 years since it was declared that, “I have come back to normal”, there are some who are still trying to classify me as unwell. The disappointing fact is, this is to do with some people whom I thought knew me very well, that are like family, that my eye went to this quote. These people seems not to have, “Any sort of experiences, knowledge and are clueless about mental health to know that, “I have come so far in attaining knowledge not only on mental health and also on other matters in life. And now that, “I am mentally healthy and also a motivator” I cannot understand how some can see me otherwise!

*IF YOU THINK YOU ARE MENTALLY WELL JUST SPEND ONE DAY WITH YOUR FAMILY*
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I have written before too, that millions world over are going through depression and other mental health problems. And the world Health Organisation has stated that depression will be the biggest cause of health burden by 2030!

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In Australia alone, one is seven experience major depression in their life time. But 70% of them will not seek treatment. One of the main reasons for this is the stigma. This is actually common almost world over. But why does it have to be different from being physically sick?
When there are even Royalty and World leaders who support and work towards improving mental health and acknowledge mental illness are also, just like physical illnesses, there are some others even highly educated, who are foolish enough to be ignorant of what mental illnesses are. And this is what is causing the stigma and preventing people seeking medical help to get themselves better!

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There are so many who suffer from various physical illnesses. They do get better and overcome them, even cancer goes into remission and then they go about as normal human beings. Then Why? when the mind becomes ill and becomes well and/or goes into remission they can never get over the label as mentally ill? Mind is also part of the body, it is not outside floating somewhere! Why cannot people as human beings with good brain power cannot think of this?
As someone who has completely overcome, why I am writing is, to do my duty even in a small way, in standing up for those who are going through their own problems. As, if as many as those who can speak out on behalf of the people who are in need of support and enlighten the society, the world what mental issues are, the world will be a better place with more healthy and happy people 🙂
Are you ready to support? To stand up? Or are you one of those who try to push and see others fall? But the fact is, we are all connected. All of us are energy and one goes down it affects all the others like the ripples in the water. Why is it that some are unable to support others and see them rise up? As, “We Rise by Lifting Others” Are you Ready to support to, “Stop the Stigma”? We are all soul brothers and sisters. One family that belongs to each other!

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Thank you for reading. I hope you enjoyed reading and, learnt something new or remembered somethings you already knew. You may share or/and pass it on for others who can make use of it ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me ❤

Thanking for the pictures quotes from the I net ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

Dealing with Those who Try to Break You!

Hello To All My Dear Readers 🙂

Thanking all those who read my articles and comment, like and follow my blog. Hope all of you are keeping well and finding what I write useful in some way to further enhance and advance your life 🙂
I don’t know if this topic is relevant to everyone, but this is something that I have had to be facing since sometime. We all know that mental illnesses are not recognized and understood, even by some of the so called educated people. Why I say, “so called educated people” is, if people are really educated, then they cannot be ignorant of the fact that mind becomes ill just like the body. As where is the mind? In the body! Then how can mind not become ill? Then why does mental illnesses looked down upon or seen them as some outcasts in the society?
It is well known that world over depression is a serious issue threatening the future. The world Health Organisation has stated that depression will be the biggest cause of health burden by 2030. There are millions who are depressed and millions yet to come. Suicide rate is going up. Valuable time and live’s are lost. So many kind and compassionate people are working, fighting to ease this problem in various fields, not only in the field of medicine. Communities have got together as groups, clubs to work towards helping in healing through hobbies, sports, physical and many mental therapeutic activities as well. What I am doing also here in my blog is , in a small way is contributing my knowledge and experiences towards those who can make use of them to know that they also can control and recover enough to be well and lead a normal and happy life. It is to show by example, “To give Hope” to those still battling!
But as life has it, I am having to deal with an issue of, not only of ignorance but, “Knowingly trying to confuse and push me back” In these circumstances what would you do? Do you think it is a kind and compassionate thing to do to another human being who has gone through such an ordeal through years and lifted her head up, and now is working towards the benefit of others, quietly with no harm or disturbance to anyone? What motive and mind set do you think this type of people have? As in the society there are many types of destructive people. How do you deal with them?

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At the present stage of my life I have learnt to take them as, challenges that I have to face in order to overcome and become stronger. As we need challenges to test our strength and to move on to the next level of our lives. Life throws us curve balls from time to time and we do get shaken, but we can deal with them in many ways. Overcoming long term depression is not a small task, that shows, Strength, Courage and Patience, and above all Faith in the Powers above. I pray during sickness and sadness, for good health, in happiness, thankfulness and gratitude, daily morning and night, for myself and others. This is, where I derive, “My Strength” The Divine Powers which some have no clue. They think they can do anything and get away. For the moment yes. But not long term!

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There is no way that negativity can bring down the positive. Dharma, Righteousness does always overcome evil. Light always chases the darkness away. My name by birth itself is, “Light” Darkness can never defeat me. It is a Lion himself who named me, “Light” and, his spirit is guiding me. I lead my life in accordance to, “The Laws of The Universe” I adhere to to the correct principles in life. I give. I donate. I share what I have with anyone. Even this blog is giving and sharing, as I am sharing my knowledge and life experiences with others. “It is the gift of knowledge that brings the the Highest Blessings according to Buddhism”. So how can those who are morally deteriorated, put me down or anyone else who lives according to the, “Laws of The Universe” for that matter. “Do Not, ever get discouraged or let anyone put you down for no reason” Take every experience, as a challenge, to gain strength, courage and confidence and to achieve your goals and Win 🙂

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I have found that, these are things that happen in the society not only to me but some others too. Some do not want others to rise up. Sadly they don’t know that helping another is helping themselves also. In giving you receive. In blessing you are blessed. What goes around comes around. They are “The laws of The Universe” that applies to all. Abiding by them, “The Universe Guides, Help and Supports us 🙂

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I hope you like what I have written and found somethings useful. As these are things we all face in life from time to time. You can share/pass on to others who can benefit from what I have written. Thank you for reading ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to All ❤

Thanking for the picture quotes taken from the I net ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

What is Depression ?

Hello To All My Dear Reader 🙂

I am re-doing some of the posts and this is exactly from 2 years ago. Looking back its an amazing, the journey I have come so far, in healing myself and advancing my knowledge, working, studying and going about in life as a, “Complete normal human being” Actually I am a much stronger and knowledgeable product now as a result of all the experiences I had experienced through the journey. This is because I made a concentrated effort in becoming well, making use of all the help I could get and above all, myself working towards healing 🙂
Why I am writing like this is for those of you who are reading to have “Hope and Faith” and to Believe in becoming well in time, with medication, counselling and/or psychotherapy. It is possible to control and send the dragon back into its cave where it came from. In other words it goes into remission as it happens with so many other physical illnesses too. In becoming well, I have the opportunity in enlightening/guiding others who are in need of, I should say “Hope” to know that you also have that chance, the ability to, become well and lead a life of Happiness and Joy that you deserve ❤

Depression is being very sad long term, and known as darkness because, if you are depressed, you do not see the colours of life. Meaning your eye tend to move on to dark and gloomy things even the clothes you wear and choose, tend to be dull and grey. Just like when its a rainy day and the sky is dark and all around you is gloomy. Also you lack energy, become lethargic, lack of appetite, sleep, at the same time drowsiness, and feeling of dullness in general towards living. These are what I have experienced, if you want more information you can refer books and the I net. At the same time the moment you get well, its just like the sun has come out and you see the world in all its glory. You become energized and full of enthusiasm to get on with life. Which I am now. So I know both the darkness and the light. Strange as, “Deepa” my name given according to my birth time means, “Light” Light has two meanings. The physical light, as well as, enlightening in knowledge. So somehow years ago, according to my birth time this was the suitable name which was given by a very wise person. It’s said we are born with a plan. So was I born for exactly this purpose ? In that case, is it why I went through all these challenges and tests to overcome for a purpose ? Time will give the answers 🙂

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So after more than half of my life gone what I feel now is that, all what I have gone through is, ” To be able to gain that knowledge, so that I can enlighten others on this topic. It’s strange how life has taken a turn as what I wanted to do was Botany, as I loved plants. I never wanted to do medicine or to be a doctor, but now I am studying psychology. If we are all born for some specific purpose and it seems this is my purpose, my mission. Aren’t I glad that I have got such a mission in my hands 🙂

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People go through hard times in their lives due to many different reasons. Being physically ill, problems in jobs, professions, lack of money and/or family/children problems. And sometimes all or many of these come together. People looking from outside, do not see what is going in others personal lives, and can discourage and hurt others with no reason. Someone who is going through a very bad time, might completely go off track, by some insensitive and ignorant people’s attitude and, pushing them further into darkness and gloom. Feeling desperate and not knowing what to do they might even end their lives. So do think before you say or do anything harsh without knowing what others are going through. These are the times that the human mind cannot take it and it breaks. So always be aware, just because someone is well dressed and smiling there can be lot going on unseen within !!!

 

Saying broken is that your mind becomes ill just like the body. The soul, your spirit can be dampened, and it becomes too much for the mind and it begins to give up. Then the body also goes down with it, as the mind is also in the physical self, in short in the head somewhere !!!
Its not only people who always break you, mother nature also does that with her floods, volcanoes and many other tricks up her sleeves. And for those who ask why only pictures of ladies, here are some for the gentlemen too 🙂

 

Not ten it can be hundreds of times, and some goes on for whole of their life time. This is why I am writing that it is possible for most of you to bring it down, keep it under control, if not fully to some extent, enough to lead a stress free life. If after 15 long years I overcome depression. So can you ❤

 

This is what happens to those who are over loaded with stress. Your head is over working trying to find solutions. Its mostly stress that you get headaches and most of the other illnesses. Its like a chess game inside your head, trying to figure out the best ways to overcome the problems and solve the difficult situations. The other person becomes too tough you lose the game !!!

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Please do not look down upon people who have mental issues. Being mentally ill is Not being mad. Through stress, untold grief, sadness and abuse which often is not their fault many become confused and ill. This labeling and looking down upon people is wrong. All people have a right to lead a life of peace and happiness. “It is this stigma that is preventing a lot of people going for help to the doctor that is making them more ill. Mental illnesses are rising at an alarming rate. According to WHO by 2030 Depression will be the biggest cause of health burden in the world. “RIGHT NOW ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD , ONE PERSON TAKES THEIR OWN LIFE EVERY 30 SECONDS” and it is going up. I am sure glad I am on the, RIGHT SIDE OF LIFE, ENCOURAGING and SUPPORTING PEOPLE TO LIVE HEALTHY and HAPPY, and NOT DIE !!!

 

Be Brave and seek out help. Don’t let anything spoil your life. You have the right to lead a good life ❤

 

Once we open up, we help ourselves to feel good. To love and care for ourselves. As none of us are born perfect. Sometimes its not seen why somethings happened to us. No one makes a mistake or takes a wrong turn if they know that it will be a disaster. Sometimes it can be like putting out your hand out to survive to the closest thing, a person, when you are drowning in the river of stress. As our fist instinct is to survive this is how we are born. You are born to live and live to tell your story to others to lift them up too 🙂

 

Its not only our problems and struggles, our successes and winnings also can be turned into stories to help others. I am touching on the good side too. As so many harp on the bad side and do not see the good they have. This is a result of my being positive Now and not being depressed. Now I can look from both sides of life 🙂
Those who have gone through any physical or mental pain themselves can understand another’s pain or hardships better. Someone who never had a headache would find it hard to understand another’s pain in the head. But one doesn’t have to be, all that broken to understand another’s feelings. As all human beings have feelings, are intelligent and have a brain to think and analyse what is right and wrong. Each and everyone goes through some kind of experience, at some stage of their lives. Sometimes back when I posted this in my group, someone commented this is because, they feel the pinch !!!
Well I am a survivor. I did fight to win over depression. We all have to, sort of fight over lot of things to achieve what we want in life. I feel quite good that in spite of being named the light,  I fell into darkness and managed to come out. I fought the darkness and became what I am today. Back to myself 🙂
But we don’t go through all the experiences ourselves in one life. How I became well is from a combination of others experiences, my knowledge from very young days even before I got depressed has helped me. Even from books, magazines and other sources I come across!

 

I hope you enjoyed reading and the pictures. Its more like a picture story. And some of it will help you towards becoming well. Thank you for reading. God Bless ❤

Thanking for the picture quotes taken from the I net ❤

Love, Light and Healing Energies from me ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

 

Hello To All My Dear Readers. 🙂

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I started this blog to spread the message on mental wellness. We all go through some form of difficulties in Life. And I too have gone through mine. Due to the ups and downs I went through one after the other, suddenly the last incident pushed me to a break down, and I became a victim of depression. For fifteen years I battled depression as well as bipolar disorder. Since  middle of June 2014 I was cleared from counselling, being said that I had come back to normal by my psychiatrist. A word I never expected to have heard in my entire life. Suddenly the clouds had moved away, and out came the sun. The world opened up to me 🙂
Knowing what it is be depressed, and because of the stigma attached to it, many do not want to go for treatment, making it worse and even ending their valuable lives. Getting out of long term depression is like a miracle. There were so many who asked how and also my doctor encouraged me to write, for the benefit of others. The reason I started this blog is, I want to show the world that depression can be overcome and even Bipolar disorder can be controlled. And being mentally ill is no different to being physically ill. As mind and body are together. Mental illness also can be cured or controlled and they also can be normal as everyone to live with dignity in the world 🙂
I am studying psychology ~ counselling and psychotherapy, at the moment to give back the knowledge and experiences I acquired. But make note that, this is not exactly counselling, but this is, “My Journey on how I overcame depression and mood disorder” I hope all those reading my blog will learn something new, or remember what you already know. And make use of them to lead a better and happier life 🙂

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P.S This is my latest update. It’s almost three years since I wrote this, and today it’s the 20th of May 2018. I have completely recovered and living free of depression now, that means it has gone into remission 🙂
I will be updating some of the old articles with my new knowledge and added experiences and also for the benefit of those who are new to the blog, as well as to confirm that it is possible to overcome and become completely well too. Now that my mood is even more uplifted, my choice of colours and posts have changed too accordingly. My eye goes to new pictures that resonate with how I am feeling now that I am feeling very much positive than when I was feeling unwell.. It does happen. You too can come out into the light and live Happily 🙂

So this is my other website: https://deepanilamani.com/home/
I have started this as relaxation since some time back, which is more of the poems that I have started to write. Please do have a look into it, to see what I am up to and if some of you like what I post. Thank you very much ❤

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I hope you enjoyed reading and found some new information from my journey as well as Encouragement, Inspiration and Hope. This is my main intention to make you the readers feel Positive and to have that feeling you also can reach up and make yourselves better and happier. And please share and/or pass it on to others who can benefit from what I have written. Thank you very much ❤

Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies to You ❤

Thanking for the pictures taken from the I net ❤

May God’s Blessings be upon You ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂