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Hope as usual all of you are keeping well some of you must be having Summer or warm weather. But here in Aussie it is still winter and Brrrrrr it is almost freezing and very cold. Still, I wanted to post new posts have thought of writing on Professional Counselling from what I have studied and my present experiences and more advanced Knowledge up to now. One of the most important instruments you have to work with as a counselor is yourself as a person.
The counselor as a Therapeutic person. Counselling is an intimate form of learning. it has to be someone who is Authentic person in the Therapeutic relationship. if we hide ourselves in the Professional role our clients also will not open up and keep themselves hidden from us. our own genuineness can have a significant role with our clients, They can be encouraged us being open and Honest with them.
Personal Characteristics of Effective Counselors: 1.Effective Therapists have an identity. They know who they are and their capabilities. 2.Effective Therapists Respect and appreciate themselves. They can Give and Receive out of their own self-worth strength. 3.Effective Therapists are open to change. 4.Effective Therapists Make choices that are life oriented. 5. Effective Therapists are Authentic Sinceres and Honest. 6.Effective Therapists generally live in the present. 7.Effective Therapists appreciate the influence of different Culture Effective Therapists have sincere interest of welfare of others 8.Effective Therapists have [interpersonal skills 9.Effective Therapists have sense of Humor 10.Effective Therapists become deeply involved in their work 11.Effective Therapists are passionate 12.Effective Therapists are able to maintain Healthy Boundaries.
I have written and posted the pictures as a starting point of Basic knowledge and will be posting next posts following and keeping to the ‘Professions Counselling and Psychotherapy.
Male patient in the office of a psychologist. Psychological counseling. Coping with stress
A Take-Home Message We all have the capacity to adapt and to achieve our personal expectations. we raise the bar in relation to our own potential and push ourselves to achieve Higher things. Effectiveness of Adlerian Theory Recent studies have also supported Adler’s belief in the importance of the therapeutic relationship. The therapeutic alliance has been shown to affect treatment outcomes across a range of conditions, therapeutic modalities, and contexts. In other words, a greater sense of social connectedness rooted in caring for others, connecting with the community, and finding a sense of purpose is linked to improved mental health and well-being.
Hope you have a better understanding than before and also questions and comments are always welcome Happy reading 🙂
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Hello to you all this is from year 2020. Update: 1st March 2025: I am re- doing some of the articles as after so much of posts and even getting well and even being Fully Qualified I Have Qualified!as a Professional Psychologist Msc and PhD some Foolish People still trying to say I am not well! I am completely recovered from, “The low moods I was going through, and am completely in Good Health now. I have expanded my knowledge and gained more experiences in life. I have moved on tremendously from the past and am moving on and see The World in Full Colour 🙂
Sigmund Freud: If you’ve ever heard of the phrase, “a Freudian slip,” it’s actually named after this famous psychologist, Sigmund Freud. Often coined the Father of Psychology, Freud was the brain behind psychoanalysis, a treatment that taps into our unconscious following the belief that our current struggles are shaped by past traumas and experiences
Albert Einstein We can comfortably say that Albert Einstein is likely the most recognized scientist to have ever lived. His name is so well known that it’s used as a common nickname whenever someone does something smart. This German theoretical physicist is so much more than just a name though; he’s made several groundbreaking discoveries throughout his lifetime, including being the brain behind developing the theory of relativity.
“Some of the old articles are my past”, and I want to write how I am, “Now” the Present time. In short, one can say I am “Editing All the Posts in a Positive way” I value my health very much, especially now as I am completely healthy. “I have a Healthy diet, Proper exercises, Rest and Relaxation so that I am fit and healthy, both in body and mind” 🙂
This is something that “Even some of the so called highly educated people think and say and do” IT IS TIME TO CHANGE” This is why I am writing and doing this blog. Not to earn money, But to make people aware and enlighten the foolish!!! Sorry I do NOT MEAN to OFFEND but these are real things that “I have gone through” and some are going through and I am writing on, “Behalf of whole of Humanity” ❤
“My Intentions are Purely to Help, to give Hope to Lead A Healthy Life” ~ To Give Faith and Hope that they too can lift their heads up and Be Healthy”. Sometimes the world, the society can be a very cruel and a vicious place!!! Why people get sad or upset is because they are unable to be who they are and do the things that they really like. Yes we know we all have to abide by some form of discipline. We need to fit into family, work, society to some extent, we cannot just say and do things only how it suits us, but FREEDOM is Very Important. You can click this link to read this post: Freedom To Be You!
Behavior – “If other people do not understand our behavior what we can do. We behave according to our personalities”. Their request that, “We must only do what they understand, is an attempt to, ‘Dictate’ as mostly they ‘Resent’ our ‘Freedom’ and our ‘Courage’ to be ourselves. We owe nobody an explanation or an accounting, as long as, ‘Our acts Do Not Hurt or Infringe them’. How many lives have been ‘Affected’ by this need to explain, which usually implies that the explanation be, ‘Understood’ i.e. Approved. “Let Your Deeds be Judged”. And ‘From Your Deeds ~ Your real Intentions’ But know that, “A Free Person Owes an Explanation Only to Himself or Herself” And to, “The Few” “Who may have Justified Claim for Explanation” ~ Erich Fromm ❤
But sometimes people are controlled too much. Instead of “adjusting” to fit in or live in harmony with another person or persons (it can be any life situation), sometimes people have to “completely change” from who they are. This is going completely against our natural way of life, our personality that we are born with. You can think of yourself wearing a dress or suit that is not to your colour style or eating foods that is not to your taste. How do you feel? Uncomfortable. No? Why? “BECAUSE ALL PEOPLE ARE BORN TO BE FREE, and ALWAYS HAS THE NEED TO FEEL FREE and at PEACE” When people are not “Allowed to be who they are, “ACCORDING TO EACH PERSON’S PERSONALITY” to be able to live the WAY THEY ARE BORN TO LIVE. You can go to this post if You click this link: Freedom ~ In Healing! ❤
Education is Very Important. So we can Learn so many things ourselves as, “We are the only people who know exactly what and how we want to act and do things, to be relaxed, comfortable and at ease, as “The term Dis-ease simply means lack of ease or harmony within the body”.
I hope you like what I wrote and learnt something new, or remembered things you already knew. I know it is sometimes not easy, but have Courage and try as much as do things for you to be relaxed and Happy 🙂
Latest Update: 1st of March 2025. The website continues for the New and old Readers, Followers and Blogging Friends. Hope what I have written is useful that helps you to feel more Positive and Happier This is “The 269th Post” and with the “Introductory Page this will be all in Total up to date, 270 posts. On Top Right-Hand side, you are able to see: The word “Menu” when you click on it. You will see the word “Home” All the posts from “The Very Beginning comes ~ Under “Home”. Which is The Introductory Page about: Who I am & Why I am Writing!
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As always, it is all free”. You can share and pass it on also for others who can benefit from this post. I hope All those who Read will be able to make the maximum use of all these facts and make, “Your Lives More Healthy and able to Lead Better lives in Happiness and Peace”. I wish it to be so as,” Peace which is our Ultimate Goal in Life ❤
This site has been doing good, and I am so Happy. I have been getting, 🎉 Congrats! I am My Path is getting noticed. By 370 many other websites Thanking the I net for the Picture Quotes I have shared 🙂
Many Blessings for Good Health, Happiness and Prosperity! ❤
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Hope all of you keeping well and looking forward to year 2025. I am amazed at how 2024 has flown by. Well, I started as a Writer and an Author and an Independent Publisher. After I have been writing on “My Blog for about 10 years I have become an “Author, A writer and an “Independent Publisher”
To gain more knowledge, I did some courses through Monash University, on “Personal development and Natural Health and Healing”. And also studied “A Diploma Course on Theory and Practice of Counseling and Psychotherapy” under Health Academy Australia.
And then finally done my Thesis and Earned A Doctorate to be A fully Qualified Professional Psychologist in Counselling and Psychotherapy. Deepa Nilamani has been awarded The (Master of All Sciences) M.Sc. Master of Science: an advanceduniversitydegree in science and Ph.D. Doctor of Philosophy as the most Distinguished Professional Psychologist in the field of Counselling and Psychotherapy, I Have Qualified!
Somehow, I have been very keen and interested on Ayurveda as I was aware of so many Medicinal plants and trees around my grandfather’s estate when He used to go for early walks when I was there during my school holidays as the eldest of the grandchildren. And in the house where some special medicines were made at home by a special person to give free when he went to the clinic Ayurveda ~1!Ayurveda ~ 2!Ayurveda ~ 3!
Round ayurveda background in hand drawn style: herbs, stones, oil, spices, aromatherapy, towel. Ayur-Veda healthcare and treatment.
Also, I was interested in Botany and got top marks for Botany in my Advanced Level as a subject at that time I did not pursue any further. Ayurveda is Natural and has almost no unnecessary aftereffects, I took like “Duck to water”. And now through some of Their Assets have been released to follow their footsteps in “Pure Service”” in the field of Good Health and Healing in “Mind and Body” it is going Hand in Hand towards Good Health and Healing 🙂
Latest Update: 17th January 2025. The website continues for the New and old Readers and Followers. Hope what I have written is useful that helps you to feel more Positive and Happier This is “The 263 Post” and with the “Introductory Page this will be all in Total up to date, 264 posts. On Top Right-Hand side, you are able to see: The word “Menu” when you click on it. You will see the word “Home” All the posts from “The Very Beginning comes ~ Under “Home”. Which is The Introductory Page about: Who I am & Why I am Writing!
The new Topics “On the Left-Hand side “Under the Recent Posts, with “The latest Topics adding up” Happy Reading ❤
The coloured Topics in Green, if you “Click” on them “Will take you to My other posts which you will be able to find more information”. I have another website with “My own little Poems and Pictures of some of My Hobbies” if you are interested on seeing, “What else I am doing” 🙂 you can have a look at :https://deepanilamani.com/
As always, it is all free”. You can share and pass it on also for others who can benefit from this post. I hope All those who Read will be able to make the maximum use of all these facts and make, “Your Lives More Healthy and able to Lead Better lives in Happiness and Peace”. I wish it to be so as,” Peace which is our Ultimate Goal in Life ❤
This site has been doing good, and I am so Happy. I have been getting, 🎉 Congrats! I am My Path is getting noticed. By 370 many other websites Thanking the I net for the Picture Quotes I have shared 🙂
Many Blessings for Good Health, Happiness and Prosperity! ❤
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I started this blog in September 2015, mainly to spread the messages on Good Health. My main intention was to make You the reader feel “More Positive” and to have that “Faith and Hope” so that you can reach up and make ‘Yourselves Better and Happier”. I kept My Faith and succeeded in My Life. The Beautiful thing is” I have achieved what I wanted through Faith. And then next post was “Joy “Love” and now Happiness 🙂
happiness, in psychology, a state of emotional well-being that a person experiences either in a narrow sense, when good things happen in a specific moment, or more broadly, as a positive evaluation of one’s life and accomplishments overall—that is, subjective well-being. Happiness can be distinguished from other positive emotions (such as affection, excitement, and interest). This emotion often co-occurs with a specific facial expression: the smile.
Signs of Happiness
While perceptions of happiness may be different from one person to the next, there are some key signs that psychologists look for when measuring and assessing happiness.
Some key signs of happiness include:
Feeling like you are living the life you wanted
Going with the flow and a willingness to take life as it comes
Feeling that the conditions of your life are good
Enjoying positive, healthy relationships with other people
Feeling that you have accomplished (or will accomplish) what you want in life
Feeling satisfied with your life
Feeling positive more than negative
Being open to new ideas and experiences
Practicing self-care and treating yourself with kindness and compassion
Feeling that you are living life with a sense of meaning and purpose
Wanting to share your happiness and joy with others
People from around the world tend to have a similar concept of happiness and can recognize happiness in others. As a result, the specific emotion of happiness is often included as one of a small number of basic emotions that cannot be broken down into more fundamental emotions and that may combine to form other, more complex emotions (in fact, it is sometimes the only positive emotion that is considered to be basic). Thus, happiness is an important concept for researchers who study emotions. When happy people are asked to think back on the conditions and events in their lives, they tend to evaluate these conditions and events positively. Thus, happy people report being satisfied with their lives and the various domains in their lives.
Happiness word cloud collage, heart concept background
Psychologists are interested in happiness for two reasons. First, psychologists study happiness because laypeople are interested in happiness. When people from around the world are asked to list the things that are most important to them, happiness consistently tops the list. People rank attaining happiness as being more important than acquiring money, maintaining good health. Psychologists believe that they can help people achieve this goal of being happy by studying the factors that are associated with happiness.
A second reason why psychologists study happiness is because a person’s evaluative responses to the world may provide information about the basic characteristics of human nature. One of the most basic principles guiding psychological theory is that people and animals are motivated to approach things in the world that cause pleasure and to avoid things in the world that cause pain. Presumably, this behavior results from adaptive mechanisms that guide organisms toward resources and away from dangers. If so, the evaluative reactions of many people about the world should be useful and revealing. For instance, some psychologists have suggested that human beings have a basic need to experience strong and supportive social relationships. They point to evidence from the field of subjective well-being to support their claim—a person’s social relationships are reliably linked to his or her happiness. Thus, cataloging the correlates of happiness should provide important information about the features of human nature.
happiness is an overall sense of experiencing more positive emotions than negative ones.
Happy people still feel the whole range of human emotions they have an underlying sense of optimism that things will get better, that they can deal with what is happening, and that they will be able to feel happy again.How to Cultivate Happiness
While some people just tend to be naturally happier, there are things that you can do to cultivate your sense of happiness.
Pursue Intrinsic Goals
Achieving goals that you are intrinsically motivated to pursue, particularly ones that are focused on personal growth and community, can help boost happiness. Research suggests that pursuing these types of intrinsically-motivated goals can increase happiness more than pursuing extrinsic goals like gaining money or status.4
Enjoy the Moment
Studies have found that people tend to over earn—they become so focused on accumulating things that they lose track of actually enjoying what they are doing. So, rather than falling into the trap of mindlessly accumulating to the detriment of your own happiness, focus on practicing gratitude for the things you have and enjoying the process as you go.
Reframe Negative Thoughts
When you find yourself stuck in a pessimistic outlook or experiencing negativity, look for ways that you can reframe your thoughts in a more positive way. Reframing these negative perceptions isn’t about ignoring the bad. Instead, it means trying to take a more balanced, realistic look at events. It allows you to notice patterns in your thinking and then challenge negative thoughts.
Psychologists have also shown that goals and aspirations influence happiness. Not surprisingly, people who are rapidly approaching a goal tend to experience higher levels of happiness than people who are approaching a goal more slowly. But research also shows that simply having important goals is associated with greater happiness. Presumably, the sense of purpose that these goals create may protect people from the negative effects of temporary setbacks. Interestingly, the specific goals that people choose may also affect their happiness. Research suggests that choosing goals that are a challenge but not unachievable is important.
Although people tend to think about happiness as an outcome that they desire rather than as a tool that can be used to achieve additional goals, psychologists have begun to ask what function happiness serves. One of the best known theories, developed by American psychologist Barbara Fredrickson in 1998, posits that the function of happiness (or more precisely, the function of positive emotions) is to broaden one’s thinking and to build one’s resources. According to this theory, positive emotions lead people to think creatively and to try new things. As a result, happy people can develop new ways to approach the world, new interests, new social relationships, and even new physical skills. All of these effects lead to positive outcomes in people’s lives.
Latest Update: 11th November 2024. The website continues for the New Reader and Followers. Hope what I have written is useful that helps you to feel more Positive and Happier This is “The 256th Post” and with the “Introductory Page this will be all in Total up to date, 257 posts. On Top Right-Hand side, you are able to see: The word “Menu” when you click on it. You will see the word “Home” All the posts from “The Very Beginning comes ~ Under “Home”. Which is The Introductory Page about: Who I am & Why I am Writing!
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What I am doing is, “Taken the Therapists Voices with me and have been Writing of My Journey in Good Health and Wellness in Helping Others to have “Faith, Hope and to Heal” and Lead a Life of Good Health, Happiness and Joy in this Post, and if You click on this Link in Green, you can read this Post: The Therapists Voice Forward!
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