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This is a short article about Trauma. When you experience deep sadness or grief, it is referred as Trauma. (a deeply distressing or disturbing experience) It can be physical too, then its to do with the body. (Psychological trauma is a type of damage to the mind that occurs as a result of a severely distressing event. Trauma is often the result of an overwhelming amount of stress that exceeds one’s ability to cope, or integrate the emotions involved with that experience. A traumatic event involves one’s experience, or repeating events of being overwhelmed that can be precipitated in weeks, years, or even decades as the person struggles to cope with the immediate circumstances, eventually leading to serious, long-term negative consequences ~ Wikipedia)
Whether it is mild or severe, pain is pain in different amounts. And when it comes to healing, we have to let our feelings of distress out, meaning speak out and discuss with the counsellors, doctors and therapists or who ever you are dealing with. Also you need to discuss with your closest, and that is your family members, as they are the people whom you come across almost daily, and the most important people that need to know what is going on with you, as otherwise they will not know how to support you !!!
Why people get hurt or sad is, when they are criticized, put down, controlled or blamed continuously, and when they feel they don’t deserve it and it’s wrong and unfair. If they are guilty of any wrong doings, then deep in their hearts they know they have done it and they do deserve some of it. But when they feel they don’t deserve it, the insults, the harsh words go in like a knife through ones hearts and makes wounds that will be difficult and take a very long time to heal. These are what stays on collecting inside you, weighing you down, making you feel miserable and low, which will lead to break downs. Break downs doesn’t happen if there is support, love and care around. But the thing is sometimes how ever much you have people around you, they may not know, nor will some really understand as to what you are going through. Or sometimes, sadly it can be that, the very ones who should be “Caring and supporting you, will be the ones who will stress and be unhelpful for you to heal!
So when too many things happen all at once, and then the last thing can be like what is said, ” The last straw that breaks the Camel’s back” that will finally push you over. Its difficult to tell what to do in this situations as for each person the circumstances are different, as well as for each person the strength of the mind also is different. So anytime you do feel overly stressed and unable to handle them alone, please do go and see a doctor and get help. As that will avoid a long and unnecessary suffering to you and to so many people around you, who depend on you too sometimes in your family. Above all your life is valuable and your health is a very important part of it. And you alone have to know where to draw the line and safe guard and take care of yourself. Its your life and you are the caretaker of yourself no one else 🙂
This is why Love is so important in healing. As long after you keep on hearing those harsh and cruel words said to you. Some can say forget but its only those who have gone through know this. If they can they will forget and live happily. Who will want to lead a sad life ? No one. As we are all born to live well and happy. Other than natural disasters like floods, earth quakes and things we cannot control, the stress and trauma that people go through because of what others say and do to them, is what breaks them. It takes a very long time to lessen the painful, harsh and cruel things said or done to them. And true the medical personnel and medication all has to be there. But the most important facts are, Kindness, Caring and Love as all living creatures need to be loved and cared for. All those hurt feelings are softened by some one or some people being kind and caring to you. Its just like when you fall and hurt yourself and someone comes and talks to you kindly or helps you to get up, already you feel ok !!!
In time some memories do fade and the pain and the sadness gets less. But if its not taken out and seen to, they do stay inside. You think you are out of it or healed, but the moment something happens to upset you, you realize that there are some memories that are deep inside that needs to be taken care of. We cannot see what is in the mind, and we ourselves are not aware until someone upsets us and the whole things spills out like Pandora’s box !!!
Healing takes a, “Very Long Time” It depends on how much you have gone through and how the people around you care, love and support you. Many can help you but ultimately its the person itself who can and has to heal themselves. Becoming well is only part of healing. Now I have come out of depression, over one year ago, and staying out of it. But although healing does happen, from my experiences I am unable to tell you right now, if one can be, healed fully 100% in this life !!!
Hopefully one day we can ? We need to all work on it with all available resources, and leave the rest up to Time, God or the Powers above which ever who ever you believe in. As its not all and everything that we can do alone and fully, and at the exact times we want them to happen !!!
P.S: Now this is 26th May 2018 and I have edited this article, which was originally written 2 years ago. Since then, I have healed from depression and my bipolar/mood disorder has gone into remission. That means I have got over most of the effects of trauma. I have now realized that with medical help of counselling and medication, and on our part if we work hard on becoming well with dedication and perseverance we can make progress in getting over most of the effects of trauma and ultimately learn co put back the past and lead a happy life. Why don’t you try it too 🙂 I wish you so and have strength and patience to do so ❤
Thank you all for reading. I hope you enjoyed reading and remembered something you already knew, or learnt something new. Any questions are welcome, I will answer them as I know. You can share and pass it on to others who can make use of what I have written ❤
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Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me ❤
May God Bless You ❤
Deepa Nilamani 🙂