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Psychology ~ Resilience!

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What Is Resilience? In psychology, resilience is considered a positive adaptation that takes place after a stressful event or an adverse situation. Many psychologists think of resilience as an attitude that can be developed, not a personality trait that people must be born with. Some psychologists also believe that resilience can be strengthened by good hormones which is released when someone is around a person they love. This feeling of connection can help in forming resilience. Resilience is often defined as the mental reservoir of strength that helps people handle stress and hardship.

1Resilient people are able to draw upon this strength to cope and recover from challenges. That’s true even when they face significant traumas, such as job loss, financial problems, serious illness, relationship challenges, Resilience also means understanding that life is full of challenges. While we cannot avoid many of these problems, we can remain open, flexible, and willing to adapt to change.

Strong Social Connections

Whenever you’re dealing with a problem, it is important to have people who can offer support. Talking about the challenges you are facing can be an excellent way to gain perspective, look for new solutions, or simply express your emotions. Resilient people have a network of friends, family members, co-workers, and online support groups to keep them socially connected.5

Characteristics of Resilient People

Resilient people are aware of situations, their own emotional reactions, and the behavior of those around them. By remaining aware, they can maintain control of a situation and think of new ways to tackle problems. In many cases, resilient people emerge stronger after such difficulties. While people vary dramatically in the coping skills they use when confronting a crisis, researchers have identified some key characteristics of resilience.2 Many of these skills can be developed and strengthened, which can improve your ability to deal with life’s setbacks.

Sense of Control

Do you perceive yourself as having control over your own life? Or do you blame outside sources for failures and problems? Generally, resilient people tend to have what psychologists call an internal locus of control.3 They believe that the actions they take will affect the outcome of an event. Of course, some factors are simply outside of our personal control, such as natural disasters. While we may be able to put some blame on external causes, it is important to feel as if we have the power to make choices that will affect our situation, our ability to cope, and our future.

Survivor Mentality

When dealing with any potential crisis, it is essential to view yourself as a survivor. Resilient people avoid thinking like a victim of circumstance and instead look for ways to resolve the problem. While the situation may be unavoidable, they stay focused on a positive outcome.

Emotional Regulation

Resilient people are able to regulate their emotions effectively. The ability to recognize that they are having an emotional response and to understand what is causing the response can help them better handle emotions and cope with the situation at hand.

Self-Compassion

Resilient people are also compassionate toward themselves. They tend to notice when they need to take a break and are able to accept their emotions, which is important for resilience. Self-compassion can help boost overall health and resilience and ensure that you’re ready to face life’s challenges.

How to Ask for Help

While being resourceful is an important part of resilience, it is also essential to know when to ask for help. During a crisis, everyone can benefit from the help of psychologists and counselors specially trained to deal with crisis situations. Other potential sources of assistance include:

  • Books: Reading about people who have experienced and overcome a similar problem can be motivating and suggest ideas on how to cope.
  • Online message boards: Online communities can provide continual support and a place to talk about issues with people who have been in a similar situation.
  • Psychotherapy: If you are having trouble coping with a crisis situation, consulting a qualified mental health professional can help you confront the problem, identify your strengths, and develop new coping skills.6

Support groups: Attending support group meetings is a great way to talk about the challenges you’re facing and to find a network of people who can provide compassion and support.

Resilience is important for mental health and well-being, and luckily, everyone can learn to be resilient. While some people may be naturally more resilient, it’s a skill that you can strengthen. Start by practicing some of the common characteristics of resilient people and focusing on your existing strengths. Don’t get discouraged; becoming more resilient may take time, but the investment will have big payoffs on your health and well-being.

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Once You have Read and understood, “There are 10 Questions to answer and Test Your Own Resilience” I will write the score later down here. And where you stand from Your score”!

1. I am calm in a crisis

2. I manage my stress levels well.

3. When something doesn’t go to plan, I learn from it and change my approach next time.

4. I don’t tend to worry about issues that I have no control over.

5. I don’t take criticism personally.

6. I feel confident nd secure in myself.

7. I would describe myself and optimist.

8. I have strong goals that I have a clear plan for achieving.

9. I concentrate on my strengths as opposed to focusing on my weaknesses.

10. I focus more on finding solutions to problems rather than being overwhelmed by them.

Your Total score= __ __

You give marks for yourself, 1 to 5.
In between 1 being not like me at all and 5 being very much like me. Add up your score and, see where you are “Out of 50 marks”!

What your score means from: 10 marks to 50 marks 🙂

1) 10-20:You have low level of Resilience and would benefit developing this area of your life. Perhaps you have a pessimistic view of life or you find problems as major set backs instead of challenging to overcome. Luckily Resilience can be honed (improved) so you can feel stronger during tough times.

2) 20-35:You have a good level of Resilience and although you may have bad days, you may veer (change direction) towards an optimistic view or keen to learn from mistakes. You are unlikely to give up in a hurry! Use the tips I will write to help develop your resilience even more and become “The Best Version of Yourself”

3) 35 and over: You have a strong levels of Resilience and love setbacks into opportunities. You are excellent at “Bouncing Back” and generally see the Positives in everyday or even bad days. Keep Developing this skill as it will “Help’ Your Confidence, Optimism and Reduce stress levels.

Even I have not got 50! More in the 2nd group 😛 No one is perfect. So I will have to see if I need to write a new post itself “How to Build up Resilience Although I have written extensively on “On how to get over stress and to Relax”!

In fact I have done, Resilience ~ Revised! Myself See how You learn from what I have written. I will do reference and write more clearly the Topics that is possible to do generally.

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I hope you enjoyed “All what I have written about Resilience” The Journey and of All The pictures Quotes As usual I have taken a “Lot of Time and effort to “Do Reference, find Good and Different Pictures from “The I net, Books and Magazines for Useful Ideas and of course “My Knowledge and Experiences. Thanking You All For Reading. I am Moving on as usual with “My Own Journey of Wellness, Encouraging and Healing” So that Everyone can have “Faith, Hope and to Heal” To Lead a Better Life of Good Health, Happiness and Joy”. If you click on the Link You can Read This Post: The Therapists Voice Forward!

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Psychology ~ Promises!

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Hope All of You are keeping in Good Health as much as possible. “Keeping yourself Positive and Motivated as Best as possible in these times” of Health issues. I have been writing about Various ways of Therapies to Become Well” After I wrote about The Therapies itself, Today “I am writing about Psychology of Promises or Trust also!

“First, maintaining good relations with other people does not require a superhuman effort. Do what you promise you’ll do, and people are grateful. “Keeping a promise is valued so highly, above and beyond its ‘objective’ value. When you keep a promise, not only have you done something nice for someone but you’ve also fulfilled a social contract and shown that you’re a reliable and trustworthy person.


Promises carry a tangible psychological weight. Numerous psychological and economic studies show just how seriously we take making (and breaking) promises. Studies back it up: keeping a promise isn’t emphasized simply because people fear the repercussions, but rather because they prefer keeping their word. It makes people feel good. And this doesn’t seem to change among cultures: keeping your word is a universal value. Each of the world’s three largest faiths forbids breaking an oath.

A kept promise ratio is a universal metric, but you can tailor how and when the promise is made. It’s not just a catch-all feature. It’s bespoke and can be applied anywhere. Keeping a promise is valued so highly, above and beyond its ‘objective’ value. When you keep a promise, not only have you done something nice for someone but you’ve also fulfilled a social contract and shown that you’re a reliable and trustworthy person.”

First, maintaining good relations with other people does not require a superhuman effort. Do what you promise you’ll do, and people are grateful.

Hope what I have Written and The Picture Quotes will help you To “Understand Further about Usefulness and “Psychology of Promises. And for you to read what Positive Psychology is here is the link to click: Positive Psychology!

As usual I have taken a “Lot of Time and effort to “Do Reference, find Good and Different Pictures from “The I net, Books and Magazines for Useful Ideas and of course “My Knowledge and Experiences ❤

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Meanwhile I am receiving: 🎉 Congrats! I am My Path! is getting noticed. 335 other websites have started receiving updates.

I am in Good Health and as, “I have been able to, “Receive Healing Energy in to My Hands” since “Beginning of 2016” All my Hard work and Praying has been rewarded. Healing Energy can go to others too, and where ever it is needed to be received with a Clear Mind and Lot of Loving Kindness ❤

I am Moving on as usual with “My Own Journey of Wellness, Encouraging and Healing” So that Everyone can have “Faith, Hope and to Heal” To Lead a Better Life of Good Health, Happiness and Joy”. If you click on the Link You can Read This Post: The Therapists Voice Forward!

The Topics in Green, if you “Click” on them “Will take you to My other different posts which you will be able to find more information and even Pronunciation”. I have another website with “My own little Poems and Pictures of some of My Hobbies” if you are interested on seeing, “What else I am doing” during my spare time you can have a look at deepanilamani.com

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Positive Psychology!

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Hope All of You are keeping in Good Health as much as possible. And “Keeping yourself Positive and Motivated as Best as possible in these times” of Health issues. I have been writing about Various ways of Therapies to Become Well” And after I wrote about The Therapies itself, and Today “I am writing about Positive psychology” 🙂 

Positive psychology is the scientific study of what makes life most worth living, focusing on both individual and societal well-being. It studies “positive subjective experience, positive individual traits, and positive institutions…it aims to improve quality of life.” It is a field of study that has been growing steadily throughout the years as individuals and researchers look for common ground on better well-being.

Basic concepts

Positive psychology is concerned with a Greek word meaning “good spirit”. It is considered an essential element for the pursuit of happiness and a good life. It emphasizes cherishing that which holds the greatest value in life and other such factors that contribute the most to having a good life. While not attempting a strict definition of what makes up a good life, positive psychologists agree that one must be happy, engaged, and meaningful with their experiences. “The good life” as using your signature strengths every day to produce authentic happiness and abundant gratification.

Positive psychology focuses on an Ancient Greek term for “the good life” and the concept for reflection on the factors that contribute the most to a well-lived and fulfilling life. Positive psychologists often use the terms subjective well-being and happiness interchangeably.

Positive psychologists have suggested a number of factors may contribute to happiness and subjective well-being. For example, social ties with a spouse, family, friends, colleagues, and wider networks; membership in clubs or social organizations; physical exercise; and the practice of meditation. Spirituality can also be considered a factor that leads to increased individual happiness and well-being. Spiritual practice and religious commitment is a topic researchers have been studying as another possible source for increased well-being and an added part of positive psychology. Happiness may rise with increasing financial income, though it may plateau or even fall when no further gains are made or after a certain cut-off amount.

All therapy should focus on cultivating positive aspects of a person and how they engage with the world and others around them so that they may start to uncover areas of growth and begin to move toward their full authentic potential.

Positive psychology complements, without intending to replace the traditional fields of psychology. Emphasizing the study of positive human development, could enhance our application and understanding in other fields. More specifically, those which are more clinical and scientific-based. Since they may produce a limited perspective and understanding. Positive psychology has also placed a significant emphasis on fostering positive self-esteem and self-image. Although positive psychologists, with a less humanist direction, focus less on such topics.

Those who practice positive psychology attempt psychological interventions that foster positive attitudes toward one’s subjective experiences, individual traits, and life events. The goal is to minimize pathological thoughts that may arise in a hopeless mindset and to develop a sense of optimism toward life. Positive psychologists seek to encourage acceptance of one’s past, excitement and optimism about one’s future experiences, and a sense of contentment and well-being in the present.[19]

Related concepts are happiness, well-being, quality of life, contentment, and meaningful life.

Happiness: Has been sought after and discussed throughout time. Research has concluded that happiness can be thought of in the way we act and how we think in relative terms to it.

Well-Being: Has often been referred to what is inherently good for an individual both physically and mentally, though other aspects could be added in to define well-being.

Quality of life: Quality of life encompasses more than just physical and mental well-being; it can also include socioeconomic factors. However, there is a cultural difference with this term, as it can be perceived differently in different cultures and regions around the world. In the simplest of terms, this is how well you are living and functioning in life.

Positive psychotherapy is one such therapeutic model that has aimed to reorient the therapeutic approach to be more focused on supporting clients to use their inner resources to overcome challenges, understand and recognize areas of growth, and focus instead on working toward resilience and a greater sense of wellbeing.

Positive psychotherapy (PPT) is a relatively new therapeutic approach, influenced by both the humanistic and psychodynamic approaches to diagnosis and treatment. Its core focus is on moving away from what’s ‘wrong’ with an individual and toward what’s good and positive. 🙂

While the emphasis is on positivity and positive outcomes, the overall theory of PPT also asserts that Many core principles need to be addressed to allow this to happen:

  1. Hope: This principle encourages focus on the overall positivity of humanity, and negative experiences are to be seen as having a higher purpose with a positive reframing. Therapists encourage clients to explore any disruptions to a sense of wellbeing and reframe them as signals that there is an imbalance that requires addressing.
  2. Balance: This principle examines how we experience discontent and the coping methods we use to address it. According to PPT, negative symptoms arise when these coping methods aren’t working and our areas of life are out of balance, with discontent impacting how we think and feel.

    Hope what I have Written, and The Picture Quotes will help you to “Understand Further about being Positive. As usual I take a “Lot of Time and effort to “Do Reference, find Good and Different Pictures from “The I net, Books and Magazines for Useful Ideas. Here I have “Paid for the Information'” So that I can do some Questions and Answers” ❤

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  3. Latest: 26th May 2022 Meanwhile I am getting Congrats🎉! I am My Path! is getting noticed. 331 websites have started receiving updates making it 332 websites following My path 🙂

    I am in Good Health and as, “I have been able to, “Receive Healing Energy into My Hands” since “Beginning of 2016” All my Hard work and Praying has been rewarded. Healing Energy can go to others too, and wherever it is needed to be received with a Clear Mind and Lot of Loving Kindness ❤


    I am Moving on as usual with “My Own Journey of Wellness, Encouraging and Healing” So that Everyone can have “Faith, Hope and to Heal” To Lead a Better Life of Good Health, Happiness and Joy”. If you click on the Link, You can Read This Post: The Therapists Voice Forward!

    The Topics in Green, if you “Click” on them “Will take you to My other different posts which you will be able to find more information and even Pronunciation”. I have another website with “My own little Poems and Pictures of some of My Hobbies” if you are interested on seeing, “What else I am doing” during my spare time you can have a look at :https://deepanilamani.com/

    “It is all free”. You can “Download. Take print outs” “share and pass it on also” for others who can benefit from this article and all the other posts. The websites continue for the new Readers and Followers with new articles also if any of you want information on new topics

    Thanking, “The I net for the Websites I have taken the Information” the “Picture quotes I have shared” and to https://www.online-image-editor.com/ for the Quotes I have done Myself ❤

    Sending Love, Light and Healing Energies to All ❤

    May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

    Deepa Nilamani 🙂

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Therapy ~ Anxiety!

Hello To All My Readers, Blogging Friends and All My Followers ❤

Hope All of You are keeping in Good Health as much as possible. And “Keeping yourself Positive and Motivated as Best as possible in these times” of Health issues. I have been writing about Various ways of Therapies to Become Well” And after I wrote about The Therapies itself, I am writing about how to manage, “Anxiety” as this seems an issue Doing Studies, Working from home, and also having Restrictions, Less or No work for some!

27th September 2022: Now for those of you who feel You do not have some of these and not feel ok: “Know that My Healing Energies have “Increased even to My Heart and from where my Heart is, Getting Vibrations, “Mean You have to get some and move on to Higher Wavelength and have some ways to have “Better standards of Living. This is a bit from my Healing Energy Book. And the Energy picture I could post. You Will get some Healing Energies TRUST ME on this”

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Know Your Boundaries. Below is a Picture Quotes al Explaining!

You need to sit properly so that, You don’t get back pain, as unlike Office or work place, “You may not have Office Furniture. In that case You need to make sure You have a proper little table and a chair or some place to site properly while working !

Hope what I have Written and The Picture Quotes will help you. I have taken a “Lot of Time and effort to Give Useful and Good Ideas. Also not written too much as You need not Read too much but mostly see the picture Quotes and can Relax and You can “Work, Relax and also You Can Have Fun and Be Happy also 🙂

Latest Update: 30th April 2022. This is “The 191th Post” and with the “Introductory Page this will be all in Total up to date, 192 posts. On Top Right Hand side you are able to see: The word “Menu” when you click on it, You will see will see The word “Home” All the posts from “The Very Beginning comes ~ Under “Home”. Which is The Introductory Page about: Who I am & Why I am Writing!

I am in Good Health and as, “I have been able to, “Receive Healing Energy in to My Hands” since “Beginning of 2016” All my Hard work and Praying has been rewarded. Healing Energy can go to others too, and where ever it is needed to be received with a Clear Mind and Lot of Loving Kindness ❤

I am Moving on as usual with “My Own Journey of Wellness, Encouraging and Healing” So that Everyone can have “Faith, Hope and to Heal” To Lead a Better Life of Good Health, Happiness and Joy”. If you click on the Link You can Read This Post: The Therapists Voice Forward!

The Topics in Green, if you “Click” on them “Will take you to My other different posts which you will be able to find more information and even Pronunciation”. I have another website with “My own little Poems and Pictures of some of My Hobbies” if you are interested on seeing, “What else I am doing” during my spare time you can have a look at :https://deepanilamani.com/

As always, It is all free”. You can share and pass it on also for others who can benefit from this post. I hope All those who Read will be able to make the maximum use of all these facts and make, “Your Lives More Healthy and able to Lead Better lives in Happiness and Peace”. I wish it to be so as, ”Peace which is our Ultimate Goal in Life ❤

Thank you for Reading and The I net for the picture quotes I have shared ❤

Sending Love, Light and Healing Energies to All ❤

May God’s Blessings Be Upon You ❤

Deepa Nilamani 🙂

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